Smaller houses and apartments don’t stop many Japanese couples from sleeping in different beds or even rooms. This is not some kind of an intimate issue or problem with the relationship, but something that they believe is good for them.
We at Bright Side found out why married couples in Japan choose to sleep separately, and we really like their reasons.
They have different sleep schedules.
The first thing that makes Japanese couples decide to go to bed separately is different work schedules. Waking up your significant other just because you got home late from work or have to leave early won’t result in good quality rest for them. This is why spending the night in a different room makes sense. This will give them both an undisturbed and healthier sleep.
Babies sleep with their mothers.
Japanese mothers sleep with their children and this is considered very important, so the father needs to decide if he wants to share the same bed or go to a different room. Even science has proven that co-sleeping can help parents and children get a more restful sleep. It helps the child to maintain a stable temperature and heart rate (which is really critical in infancy) and at the same time, it decreases the chance of sudden infant death syndrome. Also, this contributes to the child having better self-esteem, becoming independent faster, and doing great in school.
For them, sleeping separately means peace.
While many couples who start to sleep alone think that divorce is at their door, the Japanese see it differently. They value their sleep a lot and they don’t want to be disturbed while sleeping. This means that they don’t need and don’t like to put up with snoring, restless sleep, kicking, etc. Even though some don’t have the opportunity to sleep in different rooms, they still wish they could get their beauty sleep.
Couples have a history of sleeping separately.
Futons are filled with cotton, which provides support and comfort. In the past, only single sized ones were used as beds. So, even if you wanted to cuddle up with your loved one, you would have ended up between the sheets, on the cold floor, and you wouldn’t feel comfortable. Today there are families that still use this type of bedding, especially because it doesn’t take up a lot of space and it is easy to store.
Do you sleep separately from your partner? Do you think this type of practice might be even better for your relationship?
I married the woman of my dreams, but later on I had to make one of the toughest decisions of my life.
Hi everyone, my name is Mark, and this is my wife, Lisa, along with my two kids from my previous relationship. I’m sharing my story today because my heart is heavy with doubt and pain. If you read on, you’ll understand my turmoil. Lisa is the most amazing human being on earth, and any man would be blessed to have her. But before marrying her, I had a ten-year relationship with the mother of my children, Larissa.
My beautiful wife Lisa
Two years ago, Larissa, who was a pretty loving mom, fell in love with a guy she met at work. Out of nowhere, she lost her mind and left me for him, abandoning our family. I was left alone with our two children, devastated and trying to pick up the pieces.
New Beginnings
A year and a half later, I met Lisa. She was a ray of sunshine in my otherwise bleak world. We connected deeply and fell in love quickly. Lisa was fantastic with the kids, treating them as her own. Her kindness and patience knew no bounds. A year after we met, we decided to tie the knot.
Just a few days ago, my youngest daughter, Anna, said, “Daddy, I love the new mommy. Can she stay here forever?” It melted my heart and reinforced my belief that Lisa was the right choice for us. However, just when I thought life was perfect, a storm was brewing on the horizon.
Ghosts from the Past
A few months after the wedding, my ex, Larissa, called out of the blue. She wanted to meet me. I was confused and conflicted. She was the mother of my children, so I felt obligated to see her. When we met, she looked like a shadow of her former self, pale and distraught. She confessed, “Mark, I NEED YOU BACK.”
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I was stunned. At that moment, all my old feelings for her came rushing back. It was overwhelming, and I couldn’t focus on anything else. I started being mean to Lisa, even though I knew she didn’t deserve it. I was torn between my past and my present.
A Heartbreaking Confession
Just a few days later, I did the unthinkable. I broke Lisa’s heart by telling her about my feelings for Larissa. She was devastated. Tears streamed down her face as she whispered, “Why now, Mark? After everything we’ve been through?”
Lisa and I recommitted to our marriage and to our family. We took a family trip to the beach, spent more quality time together, and created new memories. Larissa, realizing that her place was in the past, eventually moved on, respecting our decision.
Happily Ever After
Today, Lisa and I are happier than ever. Our family has grown closer, and the kids are thriving. We’ve learned that true love isn’t just about the past; it’s about building a future together. Lisa and I continue to support and cherish each other every day, creating a loving home for our children.
Life threw us a curveball, but we caught it together. Our story is a testament to the strength of love and the power of forgiveness. And as Anna wished, Lisa is here to stay, forever a part of our family.
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