Mark Bryan is a robotics engineer who has been married for 11 years and has a daughter. He identifies as straight and chooses to dress unconventionally. Bryan is an American living in Germany, and he doesn’t believe that fashion has to be gendered. You can find Bryan wearing a skirt and heels to work or out anywhere else he goes on any given day.
Bryan said he doesn’t like how limited men’s choices are in the fashion department, especially when it comes to office attire. Men’s pants only come in a few colors, mostly black, gray, dark blue and the occasional pinstripe, and cuts.
The stylish dresser believes that if women are allowed to wear pants, men should be able to wear skirts and dresses as well. Bryan likes how skirts come in many styles and patterns – and many more colors – unlike men’s clothing.
Bryan prefers to mix traditional gender looks by wearing masculine attire on his top half, like a blazer and tie, and traditionally feminine attire on the bottom half. He will typically wear a pencil skirt and four-inch heels on the bottom.
Wearing high heels is no problem for Bryan. He first learned how to do it when his college girlfriend asked him to wear high heels while dancing with her so that they were on the same level. They continued this for over a year.
Bryan doesn’t let stereotypes or assumptions stop him from dressing in a way that brings him joy. He challenges expectations and does so unapologetically. Keep reading to hear what Bryan has to say about his fashion choices.
Bryan has a very clear idea about how he likes to dress. He told Bored Panda: “To me, clothes have no gender. I prefer skirts to dresses. Dresses don’t allow me to mix the genders. I prefer a ‘masculine’ look above the waist and a non-gendered look below the waist. It’s all about clothes having no gender.”
He continued: “I am old enough to remember that in school, the girls could not wear pants. Pants have now become a non-gendered article of clothing. So why can’t skirts and heels be non-gendered? Besides, men wore heels before women did. Maybe not today’s stiletto-style heels, but men did wear heels before women.”
Bryan is correct about that. High heels can look back on a long history. Although historians and archaeologists cannot date their invention clearly, they have been around at least since the 10th century. And they were not a fashion statement at first. No, the first recorded use of high heels was eminently practical: the Persian cavalry wore boots with heels, called a kalash or galesh, that made it easier for them to keep their feet inside their stirrups. This is, by the way, the same reason why cowboy boots have a small heel as well!
Since owning a horse was a sign of wealth, only well-off men could afford to wear these high-heeled boots. The use of them slowly spread across Europe, and high heels heels became one of the fashion signs of rich noblemen or traders. In fact, following the Great Schism of the Christian Church in the 11th century, even the pope wore high heels.
It wasn’t until several hundred years later that fashion slowly changed. During the 18th century, cultural concerns in Europe came up about the distinction between males and females and talk about what men and women should wear arose. This is the point in time where the belief that fashion is something effeminate and frivolous that “real men” shouldn’t care about hails from. Due to these changing beliefs, men largely abandoned high heels heels, as they were seen as impractical and mere accessories.
Bryan is one of the examples of how high-heels are slowly coming back as an accepted form of footwear for men. Although the engineer champions the option of wearing high-heeled shoes for men, he understands many people will look twice when they see him. He compares his style choices to someone who chooses to dye their hair bright colors. He explained:
“Take a person with bright green hair. Green hair is not normal. You look up and see this person, your mind tells you it’s a person with green hair, you think to yourself, that’s odd or interesting, then you go back to do what you were doing and don’t give it another thought. I believe this is the same when people see me in a skirt and heels.”
Bryan doesn’t have to struggle to find skirts and heels that fit him either. He wears a size 8 in skirts, and with smaller feet for a man, his shoe size in heels is 8.5. If you know a man who is considering trying out wearing heels and skirts too, Bryan suggests starting with a lower heel until you feel more comfortable walking in high heels.
What do you think of Mark Bryan’s style choices? Do you know any men who would try walking in high heels? Let us know, and be sure to send this along to your friends and family.
I Took My Little Daughter to Visit My Girlfriend – I Couldn’t Believe What She Found in Her Room
When my four-year-old daughter, Chloe, begged me to leave my girlfriend Lily’s house, I knew something was wrong. Her fear was unlike anything I’d seen before, and as much as I wanted to reassure her, I couldn’t ignore the urgency in her trembling voice.
“Chloe, don’t forget your jacket,” I called out as I grabbed my keys from the counter.
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“I don’t need it, Daddy!” she yelled back, her voice muffled from the closet where she was probably picking out her favorite sparkly sneakers.
I shook my head, smiling. At just four years old, Chloe already had a mind of her own. Being her dad wasn’t easy—raising her alone never was. My ex-wife, Lauren, had left us before Chloe even turned one. She decided motherhood wasn’t for her. Since then, it’s been just the two of us.
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The first year was the hardest. Chloe cried constantly, and I had no idea what I was doing. I’d rock her to sleep for hours, only to have her wake up minutes after I put her down. But we found our rhythm.
Three months ago, I met Lily. I’d gone into the coffee shop for my usual black coffee, no cream, no sugar. She was behind me in line, wearing a red scarf and a smile that was impossible to ignore. “You look like you need something stronger than coffee,” she’d joked.
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That one comment turned into a full conversation, and eventually, a date. Lily was warm and easy to talk to. Chloe had met her twice already, and they seemed to get along. Chloe wasn’t shy about her feelings. If she didn’t like someone, she’d say so. The fact that she smiled around Lily gave me hope.
“Are we there yet?” Chloe asked, her nose pressed against the car window.
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“Almost,” I said, trying not to laugh.
Tonight was our first visit to Lily’s home. She’d invited us for dinner and a movie, and Chloe had been talking about it all week.
When we pulled up, Chloe gasped. “She has fairy lights!”
I looked up at the balcony where tiny golden lights glowed. “Pretty cool, huh?”
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Lily opened the door before we even knocked. “Hey, you two!” she said, beaming. “Come in, come in. You must be freezing.”
Chloe didn’t need a second invitation. She darted inside, her shoes flashing like tiny fireworks.
The apartment was cozy, just like Lily. A soft yellow couch sat in the middle of the room, with colorful throw pillows arranged perfectly. The walls were lined with bookshelves and framed photos, and a small Christmas tree twinkled in the corner, even though it was mid-January.
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“This is awesome!” Chloe exclaimed, spinning around.
“Thanks, Chloe,” Lily said with a laugh. “Hey, do you like video games? I’ve got an old console in my room you can try while your dad and I finish dinner.”
Chloe’s eyes lit up. “Really? Can I?”
“Of course. Follow me. I’ll show you where it is.”
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As Chloe disappeared down the hallway with Lily, I stayed behind in the kitchen. The smell of garlic and rosemary filled the air as Lily pulled a tray of roasted vegetables from the oven.
“So,” she said, placing the tray on the counter, “any embarrassing childhood stories I should know about you?”
“Oh, there are plenty,” I admitted, laughing. “But let’s hear one of yours first.”
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“Well,” she said, grinning, “when I was seven, I decided to ‘help’ my mom redecorate. Let’s just say glitter glue and white walls don’t mix.”
I laughed, picturing it. “Sounds like something Chloe would do.”
Just as Lily was about to reply, Chloe appeared in the kitchen doorway. Her face was pale, her eyes wide with fear.
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“Daddy,” she said, her voice trembling, “I need to talk to you. Alone.”
We walked out into the corridor and I crouched to her level, trying to steady my voice. “Chloe, what’s wrong? Did something happen?”
Her wide eyes darted toward the hallway, then back to me. “She’s bad. She’s really bad.”
“What do you mean? Lily?” I glanced over my shoulder toward the kitchen, where Lily hummed softly as she stirred a pot.
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Chloe nodded, her voice dropping to a whisper. “There are… heads in her closet. Real heads. They were looking at me.”
For a second, I didn’t understand. “Heads? What kind of heads?”
“People heads!” she hissed, tears spilling onto her cheeks. “They’re scary, Daddy. We have to go!”
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I swallowed hard, my chest tightening. Was this her imagination running wild, or had she seen something truly awful? Either way, Chloe was terrified, and I couldn’t ignore it.
I stood, scooping her into my arms. “Okay, okay. Let’s go.”
Chloe buried her face in my shoulder, clinging to me as I carried her toward the door.
Lily turned, her brow furrowed. “Is everything okay?”
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“She’s not feeling well,” I said quickly, avoiding her gaze. “I’m so sorry, but we’ll have to take a rain check on dinner.”
“Oh, no! Is she alright?” Lily asked, concern etched on her face.
“She will be. I’ll call you later,” I mumbled, heading out the door.
On the drive to my mom’s house, Chloe sat quietly in the back seat, her knees tucked under her chin.
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“Sweetheart,” I said gently, glancing at her in the rearview mirror. “Are you sure about what you saw?”
She nodded, her voice shaky. “I know what I saw, Daddy. They were real.”
My stomach churned. By the time I pulled into my mom’s driveway, my mind was racing. I kissed Chloe’s forehead, promising her I’d be back soon, and told my mom I needed to run an errand.
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“What’s going on?” my mom asked, eyeing me curiously.
“Just… something I need to check out,” I said, forcing a smile.
I drove back to Lily’s with my heart pounding. Could Chloe have been right? The idea felt ridiculous, but her fear was too raw to dismiss.
When Lily opened the door, she looked puzzled. “Hey, that was fast. Is Chloe okay?”
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I hesitated, trying to sound casual. “She’ll be fine. Hey, uh, would you mind if I played your old console for a bit? I, um… need to relax. It’s been years since I’ve touched one.”
Lily raised an eyebrow. “That’s random, but sure. It’s in my room.”
I forced a chuckle and headed down the hallway. My hands shook as I reached for the closet door. Slowly, I slid it open.
And there they were.
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Four heads stared back at me. One was painted like a clown, its grin twisted and unnatural. Another was wrapped in tattered red fabric, its expression distorted.
I took a step closer, my heart hammering. Reaching out, I touched one. It was soft. Rubber.
They weren’t heads at all. They were Halloween masks.
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Relief flooded through me, but it was quickly followed by guilt. I closed the closet and returned to the kitchen, where Lily handed me a mug of coffee.
“You okay?” she asked, tilting her head.
I sighed, running a hand through my hair. “I need to tell you something.”
Her arms crossed. “This sounds serious.”
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I nodded, shifting uncomfortably. “It’s about Chloe. She was scared earlier. Really scared. She said she saw… heads in your closet.”
Lily blinked, her expression unreadable. “Heads?”
“She thought they were real. I didn’t know what else to do, so after I dropped her off at my mom’s, I came back and, uh… I looked in your closet.”
A couple talking in their kitchen | Source: Midjourney
Lily’s mouth fell open. “You went through my closet?”
“I know. It was wrong. But she was so terrified, and I needed to make sure she was safe.”
Lily stared at me for a moment before bursting into laughter. “She thought they were real? Oh my gosh.” She wiped her eyes, but her laughter faded as she saw the worry in my face. “Wait—she was that scared?”
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“She was shaking,” I admitted. “I’ve never seen her like that before.”
Lily sighed, her amusement replaced with concern. “Poor thing. I didn’t even think about how those masks might look to her. I should’ve stored them somewhere else.”
I nodded. “She’s still convinced they’re real. I don’t know how to help her see otherwise.”
Lily’s eyes lit up. “I’ve got an idea. But I’ll need your help.”
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The next day, Lily arrived at my mom’s house with a bag slung over her shoulder. Chloe peeked out from behind the couch as Lily knelt to her level.
“Hey, Chloe,” Lily said softly. “Can I show you something?”
Chloe clung to me but nodded warily.
Lily pulled out a mask—a silly one with a goofy grin—and slipped it on. “See? It’s not a head. It’s just for Halloween.”
A funny halloween mask | Source: Midjourney
Chloe’s eyes widened, her fear softening into curiosity. “It’s… not real?”
“Nope,” Lily said, pulling the mask off. “Feel it. It’s just rubber.”
Tentatively, Chloe reached out, her small fingers brushing the mask. Her lips curved into a smile as she grabbed its nose. “It’s squishy!”
“Exactly!” Lily grinned. “Want to try it on?”
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Chloe giggled, slipping the mask over her head. Lily gasped dramatically. “Oh no! Where did Chloe go?”
“I’m here!” Chloe squealed, pulling the mask off.
Her laughter filled the room, and I felt a knot in my chest unwind.
Months later, Chloe was tugging at Lily’s hand as we walked into the park. “Mommy Lily, can we go on the swings?”
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Lily’s smile was as warm as ever. “Of course we can, sweet girl.”
Watching them together, I realized how close we had all become. A moment that could have torn us apart had instead brought us together.
Honesty, trust, and a little creativity had bridged the gap. Sometimes, the scariest moments can lead to the strongest bonds.
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