It’s a no-brainer that sleep is vital for one’s health. That is why so many researchers study the best way to get good quality shut-eye. However, forget chamomile tea and meditating before bed. According to new research, women sleep better next to dogs. That’s right; Canisius College in New York State conducted a study that found that canines make better-sleeping partners than humans or cats.
“We found that women commonly rate dogs as better bed partners than cats and human partners and report that their dogs enhance their sleep quality,” Christy Hoffman, Ph.D., animal behaviorist and lead researcher of the study.
Research Finds that Women Sleep Better Next to Dogs
Hoffman surveyed almost one thousand women living in the United States to come to these findings. The results showed that 55% of the participants shared their bed with at least one dog and 31% with at least one cat. Also, 57% of these women shared a bed with a human partner, while the rest did not. [1]
Hoffman also discovered why dogs seemed to make the best bed companions. The first reason is that dogs’ sleeping patterns, as opposed to cats, more closely resemble those of humans.
“The difference between dogs and cats is not surprising because dogs’ major sleep periods tend to coincide more closely with humans’ than do cats,’” said Hoffman.
However, while there may be benefits of these similar sleeping patterns, more research is needed to know for certain. But Hoffman has some ideas of how this could work.
“In comparison to human bed partners, dogs may be better at accommodating their human’s sleep schedule,” she said. “It’s not uncommon for human bed partners to go to bed at very different times and wake up at very different times. Such differences in partners’ schedules can certainly disrupt sleep. It may be that dog bed partners adapt more readily to their owner’s schedule than do human bed partners.”
Moreover, dogs require certain schedules and responsibilities, such as a morning walk. This kind of regime helps their owners maintain a routine, improving sleep quality as a result.
Stillness and Security
Additionally, dogs tend to stay stiff as they sleep. Anyone who’s slept with a fidgety partner knows how disruptive they could be. However, women in the study reported that their dogs stayed on the bed most of the night instead of felines, who tended to come and go.
“This suggests that cats may be more likely than dogs to create disruptions by moving on and off the bed during the night. In addition, we found that dog owners kept to more consistent bedtime and wake time schedules than cat owners and also tended to go to bed earlier and wake up earlier than cat owners,” Hoffman said.
Here’s the third and most important reason: Canines provide a sense of security to their owners. More so than with cats or even human partners.
“Some dog owners may take comfort in the thought that their dog will alert them in the case of an intruder or other type of emergency; furthermore, a dog’s bark may deter a potential intruder. A cat is less likely to take on this role, and so, may not provide psychological comfort in the same way a dog might,” said Hoffman.
The Best Partner for Quality Sleep
However, while the study suggests that dogs are the perfect slumber buddies, their benefits are subjective to each case. For example, a dog could snore or make the bed too hot. Additionally, there are many owners who find that their cats help them sleep.
Keep in mind that the research was based on how the volunteers perceive their pets’ effects on their sleeping quality and duration. As a result, more objective research is needed to definitively consider dogs the superior sleeping partners. However, Hoffman believes that these studies could be beneficial as many American households have pets.
“It will be valuable to continue this line of research so we can develop a clearer picture of the contexts under which pets and their presence in their owner’s bed may positively impact sleep quality, and the contexts under which co-sleeping with a pet may be detrimental to one’s sleep quality,” she said.
For instance, research has also shown that women sleep better while alone than with a human, but many believe in the opposite. Future research could use Fitbit-like devices to objectively track the sleep quality of people in different sleeping conditions.
My Mother-in-Law Rewrote Our Wedding Invitations – Karma Handed Her the RSVP
Planning a wedding is supposed to be fun, right? Well, it wasn’t for me. Everything started off great. Mark and I agreed we wanted something small and simple. But when his mom, Linda, got involved, things took a turn.
Linda is one of those people who always knows best. She has an opinion on everything—how to cook, raise kids, and now, how to plan a wedding. Mark, my sweet, loyal husband, always says, “She’s just trying to help.” Sure, but her “help” usually means taking over.
An elderly lady | Source: Midjourney
The first major problem? The invitations.
When Mark and I picked out our wedding invitations, we were so happy. They were simple and minimalist, just like we wanted. We liked the clean design—nothing fancy, just our style. I remember showing them to Linda, hoping she’d smile and say something nice. Instead, she wrinkled her nose like she had smelled something awful.
“This is what you’re sending out?” she asked, holding up the sample like it was a piece of trash.
A wedding invitation | Source: Pexels
“Yes, we love it,” I said, forcing a smile. I could already feel the tension rising in my chest.
“It’s so… plain,” Linda replied, not even trying to hide her disapproval. “You know, people will think you didn’t put any effort into this. You should really go with something more… elegant.”
I wanted to say something sharp, but Mark gave me that look. You know the one, where his eyes plead, please don’t start anything. So, I swallowed my words and nodded, even though my stomach was turning.
A man with a side eye | Source: Pexels
A few days later, I thought things had blown over. Linda hadn’t mentioned the invitations again, so I figured we were in the clear. Boy, was I wrong.
One afternoon, Mark and I were sitting in the kitchen when he casually mentioned, “Mom said she made some changes to the invitations.”
“Wait, what?” I asked, my voice going up a notch.
“She just tweaked a few things,” Mark said, shrugging. “She’s excited. You know how she is.”
An upset woman | Source: Pexels
“What do you mean tweaked?” I demanded.
Mark scratched the back of his neck, looking uncomfortable. “She hired a calligrapher and added some flourishes. She also, uh, changed the wording a bit.”
I felt my face heat up. “She what?”
“She just wanted to make them look nicer,” Mark said, trying to stay calm. “She thought it would be a nice touch.”
A beautiful wedding invitation | Source: Pexels
I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. “Mark, we didn’t ask her to do that! Those were our invitations, and now she’s completely changed them!”
He sighed. “I know, I know. But what’s done is done. It’s not a big deal.”
“Not a big deal?” I couldn’t hold back anymore. “Mark, she hijacked our wedding invitations! And you’re okay with this?”
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As if that wasn’t bad enough, Linda didn’t stop at redesigning the invitations. She went ahead and added people Mark and I didn’t even know. Old work friends, neighbors, and distant relatives we hadn’t seen in years suddenly made the cut. It was like Linda was planning a completely different wedding than the one we wanted.
“Why are we inviting people we don’t even know?” I asked Mark when I saw the list.
“She just thought it would be nice to include more people,” Mark explained, still defending her. “You know, so the wedding feels bigger.”
An apologetic man | Source: Pexels
“Bigger?” I scoffed. “We wanted a small wedding! Why is she adding people we’ve never met?”
Mark rubbed his temples, looking stressed. “She’s excited, okay? She just wants to help.”
“Help?” I was furious. “This isn’t helping, Mark. She’s taking over!”
I spent the rest of the night fuming, going over the new guest list, and thinking about how our simple wedding was spiraling out of control. Every time I tried to talk to Mark about it, he’d say the same thing: “She’s just trying to be involved.”
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But I didn’t want her “involvement.” I wanted our wedding, not hers.
Things reached a breaking point when Linda called to gush about the invitations. She went on and on about the gold envelopes and the elegant calligraphy, hiring a professional to do it. She even bragged about how she had included her “special friends.”
“Oh, it’s going to be such a beautiful wedding!” she exclaimed. “Everyone will be so impressed with the invitations!”
An upset woman talking to an elderly lady | Source: Midjourney
I could barely hold it together. “Linda, you didn’t even ask us before changing the invitations.”
There was a long pause on the other end of the phone. Then she said, “Well, I just thought they needed a little… improvement. You’ll thank me later.”
I hung up the phone, shaking with anger. This wasn’t her wedding. It was mine and Mark’s. But Linda had decided to take matters into her own hands.
An angry dark-haired woman | Source: Midjourney
Mark tried to calm me down later that night. “She’s just excited. Let’s not make this into a big fight.”
“Mark, she’s hijacked everything!” I snapped. “What are we supposed to do now? Just go along with it?”
Mark looked down, clearly uncomfortable. “Maybe we can just… send out her version. What’s the harm?”
A couple arguing in their living room | Source: Pexels
I stared at him in disbelief. “What’s the harm? This is our wedding. Not hers.”
I had had enough.
One night, after Mark had gone to bed, I sat down at the kitchen table with our original wedding invitations. They were simple, just the way we wanted, with clean lines and no frills. I smiled as I ran my fingers over the paper. These were the invitations we had chosen—our wedding invitations, not Linda’s over-the-top version.
A woman mailing invitations | Source: Midjourney
I went through the guest list Linda had created. There were so many names I didn’t even recognize. Her old work friends, people from her book club, distant relatives we hadn’t seen in years. I tossed that list aside and grabbed our original one with the people we actually wanted to be there.
The next day, while Linda was busy boasting about her “perfect” invitations, I quietly slipped out to the post office. I mailed our original invitations to the people we cared about. No confrontation, no drama, just a silent fix to the problem.
Mailing invitations | Source: Pexels
The big day finally arrived. The sun was shining, the sky was clear, and everything was just as we had imagined it. Mark and I stood hand in hand, feeling a sense of calm wash over us. Our closest friends and family were there, just the way we had wanted. The simple, intimate wedding we’d dreamed of was happening, and it was perfect.
Karma hit during the reception. Linda was mingling, her eyes scanning the room. I watched from across the room as her smile started to falter. She was counting heads, and I could see the confusion slowly spread across her face.
Confused elderly lady at a wedding reception | Source: Midjourney
Linda had gone all out preparing for her VIPs—seating cards, special menu items, even personalized favors. But all those seats sat empty, and she had to awkwardly explain to the people at the table why half her guests weren’t there.
She hurried over to Mark, pulling him aside.
An elderly woman talking to her son | Source: Midjourney
“Mark,” she whispered urgently, “where are the Thompsons? And Carol? And my cousin Maggie? They all said they were coming!”
Mark blinked. “I don’t know, Mom. Did they RSVP?”
“Of course they did!” Linda snapped, her voice rising. “I spoke to them myself!”
An angry woman at a table | Source: Midjourney
I couldn’t help but smirk as I eavesdropped on the conversation. Linda was getting more and more frantic as she listed off the names of her “special guests.” One by one, she started texting and calling them, trying to figure out where they were. And one by one, she got the same answer: “We never got an invitation.”
The realization hit her like a ton of bricks. Her fancy invitations had never gone out, and she was left scrambling to explain why half her guest list was missing. The look on her face was priceless.
A shocked elderly woman | Source: Pexels
I watched as she put on a brave face, trying to act like everything was fine. But every time someone asked about her missing friends, I could see her smile crack just a little more. She spent the rest of the night in damage control mode, but the truth was out—her grand plans had fallen apart, and there was nothing she could do about it.
An upset elderly lady | Source: Midjourney
When it comes to family members who overstep, especially in emotional situations like weddings, you have to protect your own space. It’s easy to let things slide to keep the peace, but sometimes, you have to take control and quietly reclaim what’s yours.
The wedding was our first real test of that, and we passed with flying colors.
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