Psychologists Explain Things We All See in Dreams, and It’s Better Not to Ignore Them

Humankind has been trying to solve the mystery of dreams for as long as they’ve existed. Today there is even a special discipline in the study of dreams called oneirology. Those who prefer the esoteric side of things over science love to interpret their dreams according to various dream books and believe that they can predict the future. But psychologists think that dreams accurately reflect our current condition and that our subconscious tries to tell us something important via dreams from time to time.

We at Bright Side have learned that there are dreams that are common for all of us. Each of us sees these types of dreams every now and then. These dreams are caused by our ancient instincts, a cultural code, the experience of our ancestors, and personal experience. A psychologist and an expert in the field of dreams, Patricia Garfield, calls them “universal dreams” and says, “Like a hearty stew that is rich with local produce, the universal dreams differ among different peoples, but they are all nourishing variants of the same wholesome meal. They are as old as humanity and as widespread as our globe.”

1. Falling

In adulthood, we see falling more often than flying. According to the psychologist Ian Wallace, a dream about falling symbolizes the fear of losing control. You can’t control something in your life anymore because some drastic changes that you were not ready for took place in your life. Think about what sphere of life (work, relationships, finances, health, etc.) you feel most suppressed or vulnerable in as well as the ways to correct it.

Some scientists explain dreams about falling with simple physiology. As the body is sinking into sleep, the nerve system starts to calm down, your blood pressure and heart rate decrease and your falling asleep brain (especially if it was overwhelmed during the day) can perceive this physiological change as danger or an approaching death and therefore, makes you wake up suddenly.

The opposite version of this dream is flying which signifies freeing oneself from some hard burden and getting the desirable freedom.

2. Teeth that fall out and injuries

Our subconscious interprets teeth as an indicator of strength, and an ability to “bite off” a piece of the world. “Perhaps, you have recently been feeling unarmed and helpless in the real world,” Penney Peirce explains.

Patricia Garfield, another expert who’s studied dreams for many years, connects dreams about teeth falling out with hidden anger. As a rule, when we suppress anger, we clench our jaw, and our teeth might start to creak and grind. This dream might be signaling that it’s high time to get rid of negative feelings.

We often have dreams where someone close to us is wounded or sick. Those dreams cause consternation; however, from psychology’s point of view, things are not that bad. It’s simply our fears of the future and inevitable changes with those close to us. If you see your own death, it means that some part of you is dying and staying in the past to give space to something new.

“Opposite” dreams about birth and recovery usually appear when something new is taking place in a person’s life (like a new job or project) and symbolize a new experience.

3. Failure at an exam or public performance

You’re about to take an exam and suddenly realize that you don’t remember anything or you can’t say a word when standing in front of a big crowd. These dreams might be experienced not only by students and school kids but also by people who have graduated a long time ago. It’s likely that you had some stress shortly before going to sleep or was extremely worried about something. In this case, it’s better to take a short break and relax.

4. Being chased or persecuted

Such dreams have several different meanings. An expert in the field of dreams named Lauri Loewenberg says, “People that tend to avoid conflict, who are afraid of ruffling feathers or causing issues will have the recurring dream of being chased.”

Pay attention to the thing chasing you — they symbolize an unpleasant feeling or situation that you try not to think about in real life. It can be debt or addiction. Are you chased by a person you know? Think about what or who you associate this person with. They might indicate some other person or even a part of your personality that you don’t want to admit (like a hidden talent or aspiration) in your dream.

There’s also a theory saying that dreams about running away from someone are simply the echoes of primitive instincts that are in our genes thanks to our ancestors. All because they were constantly running from predators.

5. Inappropriate clothes or an absence of any

In your dream, you turn up in a public place wearing inappropriate clothes or not wearing anything at all. In this situation, it’s important to pay attention to the feelings you encountered in your dream. These dreams are usually followed by a feeling of shame and embarrassment.

Psychologist Ian Wallace notes, “It means that you feel vulnerable at your new job or in your new relationship and are afraid that others will learn about your weaknesses and disadvantages.” However, if you don’t feel any shame in your dream but instead feel proud of yourself, the dream has the opposite meaning. Perhaps you feel a lack of recognition and admiration and would like others to see your talents as well as your personality more.

6. A catastrophe or an apocalypse

We’ve all dreamed about natural or man-made disasters where we’re scared for our own lives and the lives of those close to us. These dreams might indicate personal problems that have gotten out of control or are a result of feeling threatened by something. Of course, constant messages in the media about catastrophes and terrorist acts worsen the situation. As a result, we start feeling vulnerable in the modern world.

Sometimes, when having a nightmare, we try to shout out loud but feel that our voice has left us, which causes an even bigger fear. Psychologists explain it as sleep paralysis. During the last phase of sleep, when we have dreams, our brain purposefully paralyzes the body so that we can lie still and not “live” in our sleep by running, jumping, etc. People who have sleep paralysis usually wake up before the end of the last phase and enter a state between sleep and reality for a short period. This can be felt as an inability to move, speak, and, in some cases, breathe.

7. Faulty equipment or vehicles

You try to use some gadget or device, and it breaks right away. For example, your phone stops working, and you can’t call anyone. According to Patricia Garfield, these dreams are more often experienced by women and symbolize worries about relationships or losing an emotional connection with someone.

Dreams in which you’re trying to operate a vehicle that doesn’t work properly or breaks down are in the same category. You are likely missing support and can’t cope with a difficult life situation by yourself.

8. Pregnancy

As strange as it might sound, it’s not only women who can have dreams about pregnancy. A psychologist name David Bedrick says, “Pregnancy symbolizes something new growing inside us.” You subconsciously dream about “giving birth” to a new fascinating creative project. It can be anything from writing a book to repairing a house. It’s time to set a goal and show the world how you can take on this new role.

If you’re not pregnant in real life, you may be seeking fulfillment after having such a dream.

9. Being late

Dreams that have you running after a departing train or running late for an important meeting can occur quite often. According to a dream expert, Michael R. Olsen, they can symbolize the fear of missing out on something very important in your relationships or in the upbringing of your child, for example. If you’re constantly overwhelmed and don’t have much time to accomplish things in real life, your subconscious is signaling that it’s time for you to reconsider your schedule and free up time for really important things.

10. An unknown room

Dreams about new rooms are about self-knowledge. If you find yourself in an unknown house in your dream, it means that you don’t know yourself well and try to neglect some sides of your character. A separate unfamiliar room symbolizes that you have a hidden talent, skill, or opportunity that you don’t use.

A psychotherapist named Eddie Traversa thinks that we subconsciously associate some rooms with certain processes. A kitchen is a place where products get transformed into a finished dish which means that you’re currently going through some inner changes. A bathroom is a symbol of freeing oneself from unnecessary baggage. It might symbolize that it’s time to get rid of something that is not needed any longer. A bathroom is a symbol of cleansing and it means that you feel the necessity to clarify things or see them in a different light. A bedroom signifies the things that worry you in your romantic relationship.

Have you ever experienced any of these dreams or do you usually see something different? Please tell us about it in the comments!

I Saw a Lost Child in the Airport — What He Had in His Backpack Made Me Gasp

When I saw a young boy wandering alone in the airport, I couldn’t just sit there. He was scared and clutching his backpack like it was all he had left. I offered to help, but what I found inside his bag left me speechless and set off a chain of events I never saw coming.

Sitting in an airport terminal for four hours will test anybody’s patience. I’d already drained my third cup of coffee and was seriously considering a fourth when I noticed a kid, maybe six, wandering through the crowd.

A boy in an airport | Source: Midjourney

A boy in an airport | Source: Midjourney

He seemed kind of… lost. There was no frantic parent chasing after him, no one calling his name. Just him, a tiny figure adrift in a sea of travelers.

After a couple of minutes of watching this kid stumble past people without a clue where he was going, I couldn’t shake the knot that started twisting in my stomach.

His eyes were wide, almost glassy, like he was on the edge of tears but trying to hold it together. I knew that look. Hell, I’d worn that look enough times as a kid.

A sad boy in an airport | Source: Midjourney

A sad boy in an airport | Source: Midjourney

I stood before I even realized what I was doing. Some instinct kicked in, I guess. I wasn’t the ‘good Samaritan’ type, but I couldn’t just sit there while this kid wandered around scared out of his mind.

“Hey, buddy,” I said, keeping my voice low and non-threatening. God knows the last thing he needed was some random guy freaking him out. “You alright?”

The kid stopped, his tiny body stiffening. For a second I thought I’d blown it and he’d run away or scream or something.

A frightened child | Source: Midjourney

A frightened child | Source: Midjourney

But he just stood there, clutching the straps of his backpack like it was the only thing keeping him tethered to reality. He shook his head, slow, eyes downcast but too proud, or too scared, to let the tears fall.

“What’s your name?” I asked, crouching down a bit so I wasn’t towering over him.

“Tommy,” he whispered, voice barely audible over the background hum of flight announcements and airport chatter.

“Well, Tommy,” I smiled, trying to sound as friendly as possible. “Do you know where your parents are? Or maybe you have something in your backpack that can help us find them?”

A smiling man | Source: Unsplash

A smiling man | Source: Unsplash

He looked up at me with these big, watery eyes and nodded, then slowly unzipped his backpack and handed it to me without a word.

I’ll tell you right now, there’s nothing more heartbreaking than a kid who’s too scared to even ask for help but desperately wants it anyway.

I opened the bag, expecting to find a boarding pass or something. Just a quick look, I thought, and I’d be able to hand him off to airport security. Easy, right?

Wrong.

A backpack | Source: Pexels

A backpack | Source: Pexels

Mixed in with a few snacks and some clothes, I pulled out a crumpled airline ticket. My hands froze and I gasped when I read the boy’s last name.

Harrison. My last name. I was about to dismiss it as a coincidence but then I looked at Tommy again. Something about his eyes and nose, and the set of his chin was way too familiar, but that was ridiculous. I don’t have kids.

Hell, I barely had family left these days, let alone some random six-year-old with my last name.

A child in an airport | Source: Midjourney

A child in an airport | Source: Midjourney

I swallowed hard and handed the ticket back to Tommy, my hands trembling a little now. “Tommy,” I started, my voice softer, “who’s your dad?”

He shifted on his feet, clearly uncomfortable. “He’s here… at the airport.”

Okay, that wasn’t helpful. “Do you know his name?” I pressed gently, not wanting to spook him but needing more than just vague answers.

Tommy shook his head again, eyes flicking nervously toward the crowd. “He’s my dad,” he repeated, like that cleared everything up.

A shrugging boy | Source: Midjourney

A shrugging boy | Source: Midjourney

Great. I couldn’t just leave him with that. My brain was working overtime now, trying to piece together the impossible coincidence of the name on the ticket. And then it hit me, like a wave of cold water crashing over my head: Ryan.

My brother. My damn brother. I hadn’t thought about him in years, not since he disappeared from my life like some magician pulling the ultimate vanishing act.

One day he was there, and then he wasn’t, leaving behind nothing but a whole lot of anger and unanswered questions.

A frowning man | Source: Midjourney

A frowning man | Source: Midjourney

“Okay, let’s go find security so they can make an announcement and help you find your dad, okay?” I straightened and held out my hand to Tommy.

He nodded and off we went. I tried to put thoughts of my brother out of my mind as I guided the boy across the terminal, but I couldn’t shake the thought that he was connected to this child.

Maybe that’s why it took me a minute to realize the man rushing toward us wasn’t a figment of my imagination. Ryan looked different, sure. He was older, more haggard, but it was definitely my brother.

A man in an airport | Source: Midjourney

A man in an airport | Source: Midjourney

Ryan was scanning the crowd like a man on the verge of losing his mind, his eyes wide and frantic, searching for something. Or someone.

“Dad!” Tommy tugged on my hand, his voice pulling me out of my stupor. He tried to let go of my hand, but I was frozen.

It took me a second to process what he’d said. Dad.

Suddenly, Ryan’s eyes locked on us. I saw the exact moment he registered what he was seeing, me, his estranged brother, standing with his son.

Close up of a man's eye | Source: Pexels

Close up of a man’s eye | Source: Pexels

For a split second, his expression shifted from panic to something like disbelief, maybe even shock. And then he started walking, more like jogging, straight toward us.

As he got closer, I noticed the dark circles under his eyes and the lines etched into his face. He wasn’t the cocky, carefree brother I remembered. He looked… worn down. And, honestly, that softened me a little.

Not that I was ready to let go of all the bitterness, but it was hard to stay angry when he looked like life had already beaten him up.

A man | Source: Pexels

A man | Source: Pexels

“Tommy,” Ryan said, his voice shaky with relief. He grabbed Tommy by the shoulders, pulling him into a quick hug before stepping back.

His eyes darted between me and Tommy, like he was trying to make sense of the situation. “I-I can’t believe… thank you for—” His voice trailed off, unsure, awkward.

I nodded, still trying to get a grip on my own emotions. There was this thick, uncomfortable silence between us. Years of not speaking, of unresolved anger, just hung there in the air like a weight pressing down on both of us.

An emotional man | Source: Pexels

An emotional man | Source: Pexels

“You’re welcome,” I finally managed to say, though the words came out stiffer than I intended.

Ryan glanced down at Tommy, then back at me. He looked… I don’t know, cautious. Like he didn’t know how to act around me anymore. And maybe he didn’t.

“Didn’t think I’d see you again,” Ryan said quietly, his hand resting protectively on Tommy’s shoulder. His words weren’t exactly dripping with warmth, but there was something in his tone that almost sounded like regret.

A man battling his emotions | Source: Pexels

A man battling his emotions | Source: Pexels

“Yeah, well, same,” I muttered. “Is he… my nephew?”

The question slipped out before I could stop it. It felt like my heart was lodged in my throat, and I immediately regretted how blunt I sounded.

Ryan froze, his eyes widening for a split second. His face twisted with hesitation like he didn’t want to confirm what I already knew. But eventually, he nodded. “Yeah. He is.”

A shocked man | Source: Pexels

A shocked man | Source: Pexels

I exhaled sharply, the air leaving my lungs in one shaky rush. I stood there trying to wrap my head around the fact that Ryan had built a whole life without me in it.

“I wish I’d known,” I said, my voice sounding weirdly hollow in my own ears.

Ryan’s jaw clenched, and for a moment, I thought he might snap back with some defensive comment. But instead, he just sighed and looked down at the floor.

“I didn’t know how to tell you.”

A man hanging his head | Source: Pexels

A man hanging his head | Source: Pexels

That hit me harder than I expected. For years, I’d carried this resentment for how he’d just disappeared, no explanation, no goodbye. And now, hearing that he had been struggling too, that he hadn’t just moved on like I thought… it stung in a different way.

I swallowed hard, not sure how to feel. “You just vanished, Ryan. One day you were there, and then you weren’t. You just—” My voice cracked, and I had to stop before I said something I couldn’t take back.

A stern man | Source: Midjourney

A stern man | Source: Midjourney

Ryan ran a hand through his hair, his expression pained. “I know. I screwed up. I know that.” He glanced down at Tommy, his face softening as he looked at his son. “But I had to leave. Things were… complicated. I didn’t know how to handle it all.”

“Yeah, no kidding,” I muttered, more to myself than him.

There was another long, awkward silence. Tommy shifted on his feet, sensing the tension between us but too young to understand what was really going on. He looked up at Ryan, then at me, his wide eyes full of curiosity.

A boy | Source: Pexels

A boy | Source: Pexels

“Are we gonna see Uncle Ethan again?” Tommy asked, completely unaware of the emotional minefield he’d just wandered into.

Ryan and I both froze, staring at each other. And for the first time since he walked up, Ryan cracked a tiny smile. It wasn’t much, but it was there.

“Maybe,” Ryan said, glancing at me. “Maybe we can try.”

I met his eyes, my chest tight with a mix of anger and… hope? “Yeah,” I said quietly. “Maybe we can.”

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