This time, we sent an air fryer to our youngest granddaughter, the cheapest thing on her registry. Eloise called us, livid, accusing us of being cheap. I remember picking up her call and she didn’t even say hi, she just started ranting, “Seriously, Grandma? I just got your gift. An air fryer? That’s the cheapest thing you could find on my registry!”
I was taken aback because as much as the air fryer was the cheapest on their registry, I still thought it’d be useful to them, so I told her that. Eloise kept on complaining, “Useful? Come on, you know you can do better than that. Everyone knows you have the money. I just can’t believe you’d be this cheap with me. It’s embarrassing.”
In this heated moment, I told her, “Yes, you’re right. We are cheap, old, and useless. The only thing you DIDN’T know is that the day before the wedding, we were going to gift you a check for $40,000.”
I revealed this in an attempt to explain to Eloise about the cash gift we usually give our grandkids before the wedding but she was so angry at this point, that she wasn’t listening to a thing I said. I speculated that maybe she didn’t believe we would gift her such an amount of money after only buying her an air fryer.
Eventually, she said, “No, it’s clear. You just don’t love me enough to show it. You know how much pressure I’m under with the wedding. And then, this? It’s like you don’t even care,” then she hung up.
Despite my husband and I’s shock at Eloise’s reaction, we then bought her a China set, hoping to appease her, but decided against giving her the $40,000, feeling she hadn’t earned it.
Fast forward to last week. Eloise talked to her brother and found out that we were telling her the truth about the money. After confirming it with her cousins, she, called again, accusing us of discrimination, “I just found out that it’s true you gave the money to everyone else when they got married. Why didn’t I get anything?”
We stood firm, explaining our stance was due to her initial reaction, “We felt after your reaction to the wedding gift, it wasn’t right to go ahead and gift you the money.” Eloise pleaded trying to convince us otherwise, “So, you’re punishing me? Is that it? Because I was upset about an air fryer?”
I was angry that she didn’t even understand what she did wrong. “It wasn’t about the air fryer, Eloise. It was how you spoke to us, the disrespect. That’s not something we expected or can support,” I explained.
Eloise implored us, nearly in tears, “But that’s so unfair! I was stressed, Grandma. Planning a wedding is hard, and I just snapped. I didn’t mean any of it.” I felt like she should have only apologized to us instead of finding excuses to justify her behavior.
However, I told her, “We understand that it’s a stressful time, but actions and words have consequences. We hoped you’d understand the value of family and love over material things.” Full of desperation, Eloise added, “But you don’t understand! Can’t we just forget all this happened? I need that money, Grandma.”
She pleaded, threatened to boycott Christmas, and accused us of cutting her off but we didn’t budge. In the end, I expressed, “We love you very much. This has nothing to do with cutting you off. We just hope you’ll reflect on this and understand why we made our decision.”
Now, Eloise has followed up on her threat and she’s boycotting Christmas. Her mother, who is our daughter-in-law, is siding with her, calling us unreasonable. However, we feel that after all we have done for Eloise, the air fryer gift, shouldn’t have triggered this reaction.
For context, we had already paid for her college, and her parents covered her graduate school and half the wedding. Additionally, she and her husband are financially comfortable and do not desperately need our money.
We’re also not upset with our grandkids for revealing the cash gift since she is among the group of family members who are allowed to know about it. Our reason for sending the air fryer earlier was that we live far away, so we always send our gifts early.
The wedding gift is also separate from the money, which we give with the hope it will be used for something significant, like a home. Now, we feel like the action we took towards Eloise was well deserved and we are not going back on our decisions even if she and her mom threaten to do their worst.
Despite the tumultuous events and Eloise’s refusal to understand our perspective, my husband and I stand by our decision. Love and respect in our family are paramount, and we hoped this situation would be a learning experience for her.
The holidays might be quieter this year with her family’s absence, but our hope is for healing and understanding in the future. Our door and hearts remain open to Eloise, whenever she’s ready to mend fences.
Want more like this? Click here to read about a grandmother who sparked controversy online because she doesn’t bring her grandchildren gifts when she visits.
People are seriously struggling to find engagement ring in photo and you’ll need eagle-eyes to see it
In this picture, people are having trouble locating the engagement ring. Are You Able to See It?
Not only can optical illusions be a great method to challenge our minds, but they may also fool and seduce others. A woman recently asked others to help her find her misplaced engagement ring by posting a photo of herself at the beach.
An Odd Picture of a Misplaced Engagement Ring
Find her missing engagement ring among cream, gray, and brown rocks, leaves, and shells from her beach excursion was the latest challenge posted by a Reddit member.More than 1,600 people have commented on the article, many of whom being puzzled Redditors who are unable to find the lost engagement ring.One user said, “It’s the worst when you know it’s dead center and still don’t see it.” Another person, in the meantime, joked, “You know what? No… Locate your own nuptial rings!
One last individual has been duped more than once. “I came here to guess after seeing three things that looked like rings, but after seeing the hint, I realized I was wrong about the first three things,” they wrote.
Locating the Misplaced Engagement Ring
Nevertheless, a few people found the misplaced engagement ring quickly and gave guidance to others on how to do the same.One helpful user advised starting from the middle of the photo whenever possible.”Seek out the little, horizontal stick in the middle. From there, it’s a little to the left and down,” said someone another.A third Redditor said, “Well, it turns out that the ring does actually feature in the image, and to find it, you’re going to have to get your mega zoom on.” “Even though most rocks are the same color, you can find it by zooming in on the area in the center of the image. It’s next to a cream rock that has a leaf under it.”One last person stated, “If there was a chessboard grid in the picture, the object would be at 6B or 5B ish.”
An Alternative Viewpoint Completely
While some people were able to locate the lost engagement ring, others were able to look at the image differently and discovered additional concealed objects.”No ring, but I do see a snake, a toy army man, a socket, and a baby moose,” remarked one individual.They wrote: “It was found, but there was also something else that might have been a little piece of jewelry, or something else, or nothing.” Another individual was questioned.
Reddit Trivia Questions
There is a whole SubReddit on Reddit where users may mislead one another. These optical illusions don’t include a misplaced engagement ring. One Redditor described another optical illusion that is perplexing people as elusive and “shy.” Even though it seems like a simple illusion to solve, it becomes more difficult to locate the curve the longer you stare at it.”The color of the structures conceals the curvature. One commenter pointed out helpfully that they only stand out in your peripheral vision because you see less color, making the green and grey appear more similar, and you see less detail, making the gaps invisible.”I discovered it! That’s correct, though. Give it a minute.It is there, and it isn’t there. Yes, it isn’t it either. Oh nerts!” jokingly said someone else.
Perplexing Circles
You cannot unsee them after you have seen them, according to one user. “Excellent! It took me a minute to realize how this worked after I had been staring at it.One person could not see the circles, though. “I have witnessed this twice, and I still can’t see them. ugh,” they penned.In the interim, the OP made some suggestions. KingBanana advised, “Try looking where the vertical lines are, in between the squares.”
The degree of optical illusions varies, and viewers appear perplexed by the picture of the misplaced engagement ring. It should come as no surprise that there are other optical illusions that have managed to fool individuals. There is an amazing world full of visuals to stimulate and captivate the mind.
Leave a Reply