This time, we sent an air fryer to our youngest granddaughter, the cheapest thing on her registry. Eloise called us, livid, accusing us of being cheap. I remember picking up her call and she didn’t even say hi, she just started ranting, “Seriously, Grandma? I just got your gift. An air fryer? That’s the cheapest thing you could find on my registry!”
I was taken aback because as much as the air fryer was the cheapest on their registry, I still thought it’d be useful to them, so I told her that. Eloise kept on complaining, “Useful? Come on, you know you can do better than that. Everyone knows you have the money. I just can’t believe you’d be this cheap with me. It’s embarrassing.”
In this heated moment, I told her, “Yes, you’re right. We are cheap, old, and useless. The only thing you DIDN’T know is that the day before the wedding, we were going to gift you a check for $40,000.”
I revealed this in an attempt to explain to Eloise about the cash gift we usually give our grandkids before the wedding but she was so angry at this point, that she wasn’t listening to a thing I said. I speculated that maybe she didn’t believe we would gift her such an amount of money after only buying her an air fryer.
Eventually, she said, “No, it’s clear. You just don’t love me enough to show it. You know how much pressure I’m under with the wedding. And then, this? It’s like you don’t even care,” then she hung up.
Despite my husband and I’s shock at Eloise’s reaction, we then bought her a China set, hoping to appease her, but decided against giving her the $40,000, feeling she hadn’t earned it.
Fast forward to last week. Eloise talked to her brother and found out that we were telling her the truth about the money. After confirming it with her cousins, she, called again, accusing us of discrimination, “I just found out that it’s true you gave the money to everyone else when they got married. Why didn’t I get anything?”
We stood firm, explaining our stance was due to her initial reaction, “We felt after your reaction to the wedding gift, it wasn’t right to go ahead and gift you the money.” Eloise pleaded trying to convince us otherwise, “So, you’re punishing me? Is that it? Because I was upset about an air fryer?”
I was angry that she didn’t even understand what she did wrong. “It wasn’t about the air fryer, Eloise. It was how you spoke to us, the disrespect. That’s not something we expected or can support,” I explained.
Eloise implored us, nearly in tears, “But that’s so unfair! I was stressed, Grandma. Planning a wedding is hard, and I just snapped. I didn’t mean any of it.” I felt like she should have only apologized to us instead of finding excuses to justify her behavior.
However, I told her, “We understand that it’s a stressful time, but actions and words have consequences. We hoped you’d understand the value of family and love over material things.” Full of desperation, Eloise added, “But you don’t understand! Can’t we just forget all this happened? I need that money, Grandma.”
She pleaded, threatened to boycott Christmas, and accused us of cutting her off but we didn’t budge. In the end, I expressed, “We love you very much. This has nothing to do with cutting you off. We just hope you’ll reflect on this and understand why we made our decision.”
Now, Eloise has followed up on her threat and she’s boycotting Christmas. Her mother, who is our daughter-in-law, is siding with her, calling us unreasonable. However, we feel that after all we have done for Eloise, the air fryer gift, shouldn’t have triggered this reaction.
For context, we had already paid for her college, and her parents covered her graduate school and half the wedding. Additionally, she and her husband are financially comfortable and do not desperately need our money.
We’re also not upset with our grandkids for revealing the cash gift since she is among the group of family members who are allowed to know about it. Our reason for sending the air fryer earlier was that we live far away, so we always send our gifts early.
The wedding gift is also separate from the money, which we give with the hope it will be used for something significant, like a home. Now, we feel like the action we took towards Eloise was well deserved and we are not going back on our decisions even if she and her mom threaten to do their worst.
Despite the tumultuous events and Eloise’s refusal to understand our perspective, my husband and I stand by our decision. Love and respect in our family are paramount, and we hoped this situation would be a learning experience for her.
The holidays might be quieter this year with her family’s absence, but our hope is for healing and understanding in the future. Our door and hearts remain open to Eloise, whenever she’s ready to mend fences.
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Roseanne Barr faces backlash from fans over her “messy” living space after sharing a photo of her bed
Actress Roseanne Barr, known for her sharp humor, made a life-changing decision to move to her macadamia nut farm in Hawaii, seeking a more wholesome and peaceful lifestyle.
She boldly embraced a plant-based diet as part of her new journey!
Now enjoying a tranquil life on her expansive 46-acre estate, Barr shares this paradise with her long-time partner, Johnny Argen.
In 2007, Barr purchased the stunning 2,212-square-foot home in Hawaii, investing $1.78 million. The property offers breathtaking 360-degree views of lush greenery, making it the perfect retreat.
The house features three bedrooms and three and a half bathrooms, providing a serene escape for Barr in her later years.
One of Barr’s greatest joys is spending time on the farm with her granddaughters. She once shared a touching photo of herself walking through a vast green field with them, capturing a heartwarming moment of family connection.
Fans appreciated the sweet snapshot but couldn’t help but comment on Barr’s evolution from famous comedian to doting grandmother.
In a more candid post, Barr shared a picture of herself sleeping amidst clutter, clothes, and her laptop. Instagram users found the humor in it, with one joking, “Looks like the aftermath of a shopping spree.” Another teased, “Maybe it’s time for a new housekeeper!”
However, one follower offered a more critical take, saying, “She doesn’t need to fire the housekeeper—the mess is all her doing! It’s sad to see her like this. No one is perfect, but it’s hard seeing such an icon like this. We all get overwhelmed sometimes, but she deserves better!”
Another commenter, despite their fondness for Barr, remarked, “I love Roseanne, but at first glance, I thought I was looking at a homeless person.”
Yikes! Some people can be harsh!
Despite the mixed opinions, it’s clear that many still admire Roseanne for her wit and authenticity, whether she’s tending to her farm or sharing personal moments.
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