My wedding night should have been the happiest moment of my life, but it turned into a nightmare when I saw an old photo in my husband’s childhood room. The man smiling in the picture wasn’t a stranger.
The day had been magical. The lace of my wedding dress still felt soft against my skin, and my cheeks hurt from smiling all day. Tyler and I had promised forever, with our families and friends cheering us on. It felt like a fairytale.
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Now, the guests were gone, and the house was quiet. Tyler’s parents’ big country home was warm and inviting, with the scent of flowers and candles lingering in the air.
I stood in his childhood room, waiting for him to finish showering. The day had been perfect, and I couldn’t believe I was finally his wife.
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I wandered around the room, taking in the pieces of his life before me. The soccer trophies, the books, and especially the family photos. They made me feel connected to his story.
That’s when I saw it.
It was a small photo on the table near his bed. I wasn’t planning to pick it up, but something about it caught my eye.
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The man in the photo had big glasses, suspenders, and a kind smile. His hand rested on the shoulder of a young boy who must’ve been Tyler. My heart skipped a beat, and I felt the blood drain from my face.
I leaned closer, staring at the older man’s face. My fingers trembled as I picked up the frame. It couldn’t be.
It was him.
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My pulse raced as memories I’d buried for years came rushing back. The man’s face was burned into my memory. It didn’t make sense. Why would his photo be here, in Tyler’s room?
I clutched the photo, my hands shaking. My chest felt tight, and my breath came in short gasps. I needed answers, and I needed them now.
Without thinking, I stormed into the bathroom. “Tyler!” I shouted, my voice shaking.
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Tyler yelped in surprise. “Babe, what the—can I get some privacy here?”
“Who is this?!” I shoved the photo toward him. My hands were trembling, and I could barely keep the tears from spilling over.
He frowned, looking confused. “What’s going on? That’s my grandpa. Grandpa Terry. Why are you freaking out?”
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I couldn’t breathe. The room felt like it was spinning. “Tyler, this man—this man—” My voice cracked. I felt like a child again, standing on the sidewalk, watching the crash.
“What?” Tyler stepped closer, concern etched on his face. “What are you talking about?”
I could barely get the words out. “This man killed my brother.” Tears streamed down my face as the memories hit me all at once.
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“I was a kid. My brother used to take me for rides in his car. One day, there was an accident. A car hit us, hard. I was waiting on the sidewalk, but I saw everything.”
We stood there, staring at each other, both of us shaken to the core. Neither of us knew what to say next.
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Tyler sat down heavily on the edge of the bed, running his hands through his damp hair. He looked at the photo, then back at me. His face was pale, his voice trembling. “I… I don’t know how to tell you this.”
“Just say it,” I whispered, my arms crossed tightly over my chest. My heart was pounding, my stomach twisted in knots.
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Tyler exhaled shakily. “Grandpa Terry… he told us about an accident. Years ago. I didn’t know the details. He only talked about it once, when I was a kid.”
I stared at him, barely able to breathe. “What did he say?”
“He said he was in a crash. He panicked and left the scene. He confessed to the police a few days later. He told them everything. The court said it was both his and the other driver’s fault. He went to prison for six years.”
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I blinked, stunned. “Prison?”
Tyler nodded, his voice breaking. “When he got out, he swore he’d spend the rest of his life trying to be a better man. He’s been the heart of our family ever since. He’s… he’s not the man you remember from that day.”
My hands clenched into fists. “He left my brother there, Tyler. He didn’t even try to help him!”
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Tyler’s voice cracked. “I know. I know, and he’s never forgiven himself for it. He carries it every single day. But he’s also the man who raised my mom, who taught me to be kind, who welcomed you into this family with open arms.”
I shook my head, tears streaming down my face. “That doesn’t erase what he did.”
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“No, it doesn’t,” Tyler admitted. “But he’s spent his life trying to make up for it. He’s not perfect, but he’s not a monster either.”
I turned away from Tyler, my chest heaving as I tried to make sense of it all. My mind raced, dragging me back to that awful day.
It was loud—metal crunching, glass shattering. I turned to see his car, smashed on the driver’s side. My brother wasn’t moving. I froze, unable to scream or run.
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And then I saw him. The other driver. He got out, looked around, and then… he just left. He didn’t check on my brother. He didn’t call for help. He just drove away.
My throat tightened as the memory faded. I looked back at Tyler, my voice shaking. “I was a kid, Tyler. I watched my brother die. And your grandfather—he didn’t care. He just left him there.”
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Tyler’s face crumpled. “He cared, Claire. He just… he made the worst decision of his life that day. And he’s been trying to make it right ever since.”
I didn’t know what to say. My anger burned hot, but there was something else too—confusion, exhaustion, maybe even guilt.
“I don’t know if I can forgive him,” I said quietly.
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Tyler looked at me, his eyes filled with pain. “I don’t expect you to. But, Claire, I need you to know… he’s not that man anymore. And I love you. I don’t want this to come between us.”
I swallowed hard, my emotions swirling. “I need time.”
I needed clarity. My hands trembled as I dialed my mom’s number, tears streaking my face. She answered after the second ring.
“Claire? Sweetheart, what’s wrong?”
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“Mom,” I choked out, “did you know? About the man who caused the accident—Tyler’s grandfather?”
There was a long pause. “Claire,” she began softly, “we didn’t tell you. You’d already been through so much.”
I pressed the phone harder to my ear, the lump in my throat making it hard to speak. “Mom, I don’t understand. How could you hide something like this from me? All these years, you never thought I had a right to know?”
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My mom sighed deeply. “Claire, we were trying to protect you. After your brother’s death, you were devastated. You stopped talking for weeks, barely ate. Telling you everything wouldn’t have helped you heal—it would’ve made things worse.”
“But you let me believe he just got away with it!” I said, my voice rising. “I lived with this idea that he never paid for what he did.”
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“Sweetheart,” she said gently, “he didn’t get away with it. He went to prison. The court ruled it wasn’t entirely his fault. Your brother was speeding, Claire. Both of them made mistakes that day.”
Her words hit me like a punch in the gut. “Why didn’t you tell me that either?”
“You were just a child,” she said softly. “You adored your brother, and we didn’t want to tarnish his memory for you. We thought we were doing what was best.”
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I bit my lip, trying to hold back tears. “I met him today, Mom. Grandpa Terry. He looked me in the eye and wished me a happy life, and I had no idea. How could you let me walk into that?”
“I didn’t know he’d be there,” she admitted. “If I had, I would’ve told you. But Claire… maybe this is a chance to heal, for all of us.”
Her words lingered in the air, heavy and bittersweet. “You think I should forgive him?”
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“I think that’s something only you can decide,” she said. “But don’t let this ruin your happiness, Claire. Tyler loves you, and you deserve a fresh start.”
I felt my anger soften into sadness. My parents hadn’t meant to hurt me. They’d been trying to protect me.
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I sat in silence after the call, thinking about the day’s events. Grandpa Terry had greeted me warmly at the wedding, his eyes kind, his hands steady as he wished me and Tyler a happy life together.
I thought about Tyler too—how honest and compassionate he’d been, even when my anger lashed out at him.
Grandpa Terry had made a terrible mistake, but he’d also faced the consequences. He’d served his time and lived with remorse.
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I took a deep breath. I loved Tyler, and his family was my family now.
When Tyler came into the room, I took his hand. “I’m still hurt, but I want to move forward. With you. With your family.”
He pulled me into his arms, relief washing over his face. Together, we chose healing over pain.
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Her Mom Never Wanted a Daughter & She Was Made to Believe She Was Ugly — Now She’s a TV Star Once Listed Among the Most Beautiful People
For someone who was called “fatso” and had no intention of becoming a famous Hollywood star, this actress has certainly made a name for herself. After her breakout role, she garnered so much attention that she earned a special accolade.
This actress once revealed that her mother never wanted a daughter, and she grew up sheltered because of her strict father. Despite being bullied and called ugly, she eventually found peace and married the love of her life.
What was Her Childhood like?
In her memoir, “This Is Just My Face: Try Not To Stare,” the actress wrote about her childhood and mother, who she confirmed during an interview in 2017 still sang in subways.
The actress’ mother had been a teacher at her school until the fourth grade. Originally from the southern state of Georgia, her mom then took a sabbatical and started singing in the subway.
Her mother realized she could make more money performing than working for the Board of Education and decided to stick with it. The celebrity recalled her mother taking her and her brother to the subway, where she would sing for around five hours.
The actress remembered sitting on a bench within eyesight or earshot, doing her homework or reading books. Her mother performed at New York City’s Penn Station while she wandered around the station or visited a nearby bookstore.
At the bookstore, she was allowed to pull books off the shelves and read without paying. She suspected they permitted this because they knew her mother. Every now and then, she’d ask her mother for money to buy a new “Clue” book or the latest “Nancy Drew.”
Her mother always gave her the money, encouraging her to focus on reading. On the other hand, her father was very strict. He was from Senegal, studied architecture in France, and later became a cab driver when he moved to New York.
The actress shared that both her parents spanked her growing up, but she rejected labeling it as abuse, even when directly challenged. She emphasized that people often interpret others’ experiences through their own lens.
For her, spanking was a culturally rooted form of discipline common in communities of color, not an act of cruelty. She explained that her father’s upbringing in Africa, where safety and community were stable, shaped his beliefs about discipline.
After moving to Bed-Stuy, Brooklyn—a much more dangerous environment—he felt strong discipline was necessary to protect his children. Although it took years for father and daughter to fully understand each other, she never considered him abusive, especially seeing how relaxed he became with his younger children later.
She recalled a tender memory of her father carefully granting her small bits of independence, such as letting her fetch the mail while he watched closely from the doorway.
He would warn her against using the staircase, fearing for her safety, and waited to hear her shout from the elevator when she entered it out of his view. Ironically, her brother, who was only 11 months older, had far more independence. Unfortunately, part of her childhood also involved bullying.
Life’s Harsh Realities
When she turned six, the actress, who was raised in Harlem, started noticing what other children said about her. She spoke about the bullying she endured at that age regarding her weight, “You know, it’s, like, that weird thing where, like, I realize this thing about myself – I’m not magic, so now I have to pick you apart. And I have to pick myself apart.”
The star added, “And I think that was the age where people started calling me Fatso and you-this and you-that, blah, blah blah. That’s what helped me to notice.” In her book, she wrote about praying in the fourth grade for God to make her less sensitive because of how badly she was mocked.
At that time, her parents’ marriage was crumbling; they separated when she was 12, leaving her feeling “unhinged.” She recalled crying for hours and experiencing tightness in her chest when someone said something hurtful.
Panic attacks made breathing difficult, and she sometimes felt like she might die. Noticing that she could cry for up to three hours during school, she began praying about her sensitivity, unaware she was dealing with a medical condition.
The actress battled depression and anxiety unnoticed throughout elementary and junior high school. The issues persisted into high school, with the panic attacks intensifying during her commute to school.
After transferring schools, her struggles worsened, and she realized her issues were not just about being bullied for her weight. She eventually sought medical help and spoke about her struggles.
The actress on “Saturday Night Live” on April 24, 2010 | Source: Getty Images
Another painful memory was the rejection she felt from her mother. She recalled, “My mom always told me that she never wanted to have a daughter.” The star acknowledged how harsh that sounded but explained it prepared her for understanding that “being a Black woman was not going to be easy. That’s what my mom told me.”
Her mother believed having a daughter was hard because girls lead difficult lives. The actress said, “Those were the first lessons I got about being a Black woman. Today, as an adult, I would really like to erase that narrative from my life.” Despite these challenges, stardom found her.
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Becoming an Actress and Getting Hate
By 2010, the actress had become a well-known celebrity, staying in luxurious hotel suites for interviews. That year, she was based in the UK for the London Film Festival. She confessed that she hadn’t planned for the life she now had.
Just two years earlier, at 24, she was working as a receptionist to support her psychology studies in college when she auditioned for a film on a whim. She had just enrolled for her third year when she auditioned. Her resume listed only three minor college theater roles, yet she secured the lead role in “Precious.”
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She canceled her classes to star in the film, which became a breakout hit at Sundance in early 2009. The movie received three Golden Globe nominations, including Best Actress for Gabourey Sidibe, along with an Academy Award nomination.
After her nomination, a famous radio host went on air, claiming it was an anomaly. He alleged that Sidibe’s Hollywood peers were only “pretending” she was one of them and said she would never act again because of her weight.
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The star shared that she had never dreamed of becoming an actress and felt overwhelmed by the film’s success. She explained that she has a neutral accent, stating, “I don’t have what we call the blackccent.”
However, despite no formal acting training, she recognized that her character would have an accent, so she deepened her voice to fit the role. Part of her Hollywood success came from her hustle and hard work.
Gabourey Sidibe at the “Our Idiot Brother” screening in New York on August 22, 2011 | Source: Getty Images
Despite two psychics predicting fame for her, Sidibe never believed she would gain the same recognition as her Hollywood idols. Today, she excels both in front of and behind the camera, although her journey also included a significant decision regarding her health.
Gabourey Sidibe at the “Win Win” screening party in New York on March 16, 2011 | Source: Getty Images
Going Under the Knife
In May 2016, after enduring bullying and struggling with weight loss, Sidibe underwent laparoscopic bariatric surgery. She made the decision after she and her brother were diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes.
The actress did the procedure because she didn’t want to worry about the effects that come with having diabetes. She explained, “I genuinely [would] worry all the time about losing my toes.”
Gabourey Sidibe at the 13th premiere and after party of the New York Film Festival Opening Night Gala on September 30, 2016 | Source: Getty Images
Sidibe expressed frustration that people assumed they cared more about her health than she did. “But I care more than anybody really knows. Of course I care. It’s been my body my whole life, and I didn’t want to be afraid anymore. And I’ve been feeling like that for some time,” she said.
Even after surgery, she continued to obsess over her body, eating habits, and weight. However, she learned to trust herself and embraced the mantra “faith over fear,” understanding that her decisions were personal.
Gabourey Sidibe at the 27th Annual Beat the Odds ceremony in Los Angeles on December 7, 2017 | Source: Getty Images
Initially, she weighed herself five or six times daily, tracking natural fluctuations. Eventually, she stopped that behavior and now weighs herself every two weeks or whenever she feels the need.
For the first 17 days post-surgery, Sidibe consumed only liquids and became depressed. However, by 2017, she was following meal plans, eating five times a day, cooking, consulting her nutritionist, and using apps to log her meals.
Gabourey Sidibe at the NAACP Image Awards in Los Angeles on February 11, 2017 | Source: Getty Images
She also became more active, using her Apple Watch to track her movements. The actress had tricycles both at her Los Angeles home and on set in Chicago, riding them during lunch breaks.
She revealed that she felt stronger, more mobile, and no longer feared losing her toes. After her breakout role in “Precious,” she was featured in People magazine’s World’s Most Beautiful issue, an honor she called “really dope!”
Gabourey Sidibe at the Variety Cannes Lions Studio at the Cannes Lions Festival in France on June 21, 2017 | Source: Getty Images
Still, Sidibe acknowledged that she likely would not have been included if she weren’t an actress. She pointed out that such lists typically feature celebrities, not regular people.
While she believes she’s beautiful—crediting her parents for her features—she often doubts whether others genuinely see her that way. “Other than my very obvious beautiful [expletive] features, like my cheekbones, my skin-tone? Get out of here. Gorgeous!” she said, affirming her self-worth with humor.
The actress admitted that she spent much of her life hearing she was ugly, both from outsiders and within her own community. Even after being named one of the Most Beautiful at 26, internalizing that recognition was difficult.
Decades of negative conditioning weren’t easily undone, even by career success. Though she now believes in her own beauty, she remains skeptical of outside praise.
“Yeah, I’m beautiful, but I’m not convinced that you’re convinced of that,” she said. Sidibe described her beauty as something deeply personal: “My beauty is like my own secret in this way.” She explained that maintaining confidence is a daily practice, not a permanent achievement.
Confidence, for her, is like applying lipstick—it needs daily renewal. High heels, a good hairstyle, intelligence, friends, and humor all contribute to her sense of self-worth. For Sidibe, confidence isn’t automatic; it’s something she cultivates consciously. Despite her size, she enjoys photo shoots and embraces her body.
Accepting Herself and Fighting for Others
Sidibe once said about photo shoots, “I feel like a model. It justifies everyone in my life who told me I wouldn’t be anything until I lost weight.” It also justified the little girl who cried, thinking she didn’t belong in front of a camera.
However, reaching that confidence took time, only happening around age 21. She recalled becoming tired of letting others define her worth. Lee Daniels, the director of “Precious,” had high praise for her.
He said, “[Gabby] may be in a state of denial or on a higher plane than the rest of us, but either way, she breaks your heart in the movie.” Responding to his comment, she stated, “I was like, ‘What the hell? I’m in denial?’ No, I know what I look like. I’m very much aware.”
When asked where her confidence came from, she explained, “It came from me.” She added, “One day I decided that I was beautiful, and so I carried out my life as if I was a beautiful girl.”
Sidibe said what helps her is wearing the colors she loves and the makeup that makes her feel pretty. Advising others struggling with self-image, she said, “It doesn’t have anything to do with how the world perceives you. What matters is what you see. Your body is your temple, it’s your home, and you must decorate it.”
In 2021, she partnered with the Child Mind Institute and its May Mental Health Awareness campaign. Her own struggles with depression inspired her to work alongside the nonprofit organization to launch Getting Better Together.
The star revealed that she was 19 or 20 when she was diagnosed with anxiety, depression, and an eating disorder. In a video, the actress shared, “I remember having almost no one, really, to turn to. I couldn’t talk about it with my parents, or my friends or my friend’s parents. Everyone would tell me I was too young, too young to feel sad all the time or too young to feel stressed out.”
She explained how people around her tried to convince her that she wasn’t feeling what she felt. Fortunately, her instincts, which told her something was wrong, were louder, and she managed to save herself.
However, she recognized that not everyone had the ability to do the same or even to recognize that they needed help. That realization inspired her to start the Getting Better Together initiative. She urged, “If you or a young person you know is struggling, please go to ChildMind.org for resources and help.” Since then, she’s gotten married and welcomed children.
Celebrating Love and Growth
Gabourey Sidibe has since married Brandon Frankel, and together they share two children. In April 2025, the couple uploaded various images of their twins, Cooper and Maya, as they celebrated their first birthday.
The proud parents reflected on a full year filled with love and laughter. They described the twins as hilarious, sweet, and remarkably well-behaved. From walking and talking to dancing, hugging, and even demanding songs or calling every animal “CAT!”, the little ones have blossomed into vibrant mini humans.
Their parents expressed feeling honored to watch them grow and excited for all the learning and discovery ahead.
“We LOVE being your parents—the best is yet to come!” they wrote in a heartfelt celebration of the milestone.
The month before, the couple celebrated their wedding anniversary with help from Brides magazine.
For their fourth anniversary, they graced the magazine’s cover in 2022, and the publication honored them by inviting readers to revisit their love story through a special link in their bio.
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