My story is about how my ex-husband’s girlfriend realized a truth about him that I grew too comfortable with while married to him. With one important question, his new girlfriend taught me a valuable lesson about self-love after reaching out unexpectedly.
I’ve been divorced for five years now, and it’s been an interesting journey navigating life post-marriage. My ex-husband, Ben, 48, and I, 45, were together for 13 years and had two wonderful kids. Even after our split, we’ve managed to stay on good terms.
We co-parent effectively despite our marriage having its ups and downs. Ben and I are best friends and have also maintained a friendship that surprises most people. Our divorce wasn’t messy; we simply wanted different things out of life.
Yesterday was our eldest’s 16th birthday, and we decided to celebrate with a family dinner. Ben has been seeing someone new, a woman named Lisa, for about four months. He told me about her as soon as their relationship got serious.
Transparency was part of our agreement to keep things open and honest for the sake of our children. He asked if he could bring Lisa to the birthday dinner, and while I wasn’t thrilled as I would have preferred to meet her one-on-one first, I didn’t want to cause any drama or be intrusive. So, I agreed.
On that fateful day, I finally got to meet Lisa who was friendly, and eager to make a good impression, which was a relief. I preferred her to be a good person if she was going to be around my children.
She’s got a kind smile and she immediately struck up a conversation with me about the kids’ school and activities. I could tell she was trying hard to fit in, which I appreciated.
As the evening went on, I noticed how attentive Lisa was to Ben. It was sweet but also a little unsettling because I never saw that side of him during our marriage. I chalked it up to new relationship energy and tried to focus on the kids and the celebration.
Halfway through dinner, things got weird when my eldest handed me a birthday card from her father. This caught me off guard because my birthday was months ago. No one usually remembers it, and Ben has never been one to recall such occasions.
Don’t get me wrong, my children’s father is a great man. But he’s really terrible with things like anniversaries, birthdays, or any special occasions. During all the years we were together, Ben never got me a present or card.
It was also my responsibility to handle events like the kids’ birthdays, Christmas, and more. I don’t know if I was wrong for this, but his forgetfulness didn’t bother me. I thanked my daughter, feeling touched by the gesture.
Lisa, sitting across from me, saw my surprise. I had assumed she’d made him get it, but then I noticed how she was giving me these funny looks. Unsure what they meant, I decided to mingle with other guests to avoid the awkwardness.
But, Lisa somehow managed to get my attention. “Ben mentioned he’s not great with birthdays,” she said with a chuckle. “He forgot mine a few weeks ago. Is it intentional?”
I laughed, remembering all the missed anniversaries and forgotten special days. “I have no idea, Lisa, but 13 years of marriage and two kids wasn’t the benchmark because he never really got the hang of it,” I replied. “It’s just who he is.”
Lisa seemed disappointed and tried to hide it, but I thought nothing of it and wandered off to talk to other guests. I decided to shift the conversation to something lighter and talked about family plans and the upcoming holidays. The rest of the evening went smoothly, and we all parted ways with smiles and hugs.
Later that night, as I was getting ready for bed, I received a text from an unknown number. It was my ex’s new girlfriend. “Hi, this is Lisa. I got your number from Ben. I hope it’s okay to text you. I wanted to ask you something.”
Curious, I replied, “Sure, what’s up?”
Her response came quickly and when I read it, I was STUNNED. She hadn’t gotten over our brief conversation earlier and was asking if Ben’s forgetfulness of special occasions was something that could be fixed. “I know this might seem odd because we touched on it earlier, but I need to know…”
“…Does Ben ever improve when it comes to birthdays and anniversaries? I don’t want to make a big deal out of it if it’s something that won’t change.” I stared at my phone, feeling a mix of emotions. Part of me wanted to warn her, to tell her not to ever expect much.
But another part of me debated whether to give Ben a heads-up as it seemed like this was a serious issue for his new girlfriend and that she expected more attention to such things. Yet, a part of me resented having to teach him to be better about something he never tried with me.
I also felt like it wasn’t my place to interfere. After a moment, I typed back, “Honestly, he’s my ex for a reason. I can’t say if he’ll change or not, and I’m not going to have the answers you need.” I continued, “It’s something you’ll have to figure out together. Lovely meeting you, though.”
Months went by without much thought about that night. Then, one evening, Ben called me out of the blue. “Lisa and I broke up,” he said, sounding frustrated.
“What happened?” I asked, genuinely curious.
“She kept making a big deal out of nothing, busy complaining about birthdays and anniversaries. I told her it’s not something I care about, and she just wouldn’t let it go,” he said, sounding furious.
“It turned into this huge argument when I forgot our anniversary, and she left,” he explained, his voice tinged with annoyance.
I sighed, feeling a twinge of guilt as I wondered if I could’ve helped them if I had been more supportive of Lisa when she texted me. “Ben, did she tell you it was important to her?” I asked, feeling like my responses to Lisa played a part in their breakup.
He was silent for a moment. “She told me on many occasions that such things were important to her.”
“But WHO CARES! You never made it a big deal,” he said defensively.
Tired of coddling him, I said, “Well, sir, and that’s why we divorced.”
“That’s mean, Kim,” my ex replied, sounding sad.
“Look, I’m sorry, but I stopped trying because I knew it wouldn’t matter to you,” I replied calmly. “But that doesn’t mean it wasn’t important to me. Or to her. You have to meet people halfway.”
Ben grumbled something under his breath, and I could tell he wasn’t ready to accept that truth. We ended the call on a neutral note, and I sat there, thinking about Lisa. She deserved someone who would appreciate her efforts and reciprocate her feelings.
A few days later, I bumped into Lisa at the grocery store. She looked tired but managed a smile when she saw me. “Hi, how are you?” she asked politely.
“I’m good, thanks. How about you?” I replied, genuinely concerned.
“I’ve been better,” she admitted. “Ben and I broke up.”
“I heard,” I said softly. “I’m sorry it didn’t work out.”
She sighed. “I couldn’t deal with feeling unimportant. I tried to explain it to him, but he didn’t seem to care.”
I nodded, understanding her frustration all too well. “It’s hard when someone doesn’t value what you do. You deserve someone who will.”
Lisa smiled sadly. “Thanks. I appreciate that. I guess I hoped he could change.”
“Change is hard for some people,” I said gently. “But don’t lose hope. You’ll find someone who values you.”
We parted ways, and I felt a strange sense of closure. Lisa’s struggle mirrored my past frustrations, but it also highlighted how much I had grown since my marriage ended. I had learned to accept Ben’s flaws, but I also realized that I deserved more than what he was willing to give.
That evening, I sat down with my children and talked about their dad. I wanted them to understand that while he had his shortcomings, he loved them deeply. We laughed about his forgetfulness and shared stories of the good times we had as a family.
As I reflected on everything, I felt a deep sense of peace. I had moved on from the hurt and disappointment and was ready to embrace whatever the future held. I hoped Lisa would find the happiness she deserved, and I knew that I had done the right thing by not getting too involved in their relationship.
In the end, it wasn’t about birthdays or anniversaries. It was about finding someone who truly valued and appreciated you for who you are. I did not doubt that Lisa would find that person someday, and I knew I was finally content with my own life.
As I looked at my children, I felt grateful for the love and joy they brought into my life. We had our good and bad moments, but we were a family, and that was what mattered most. And as for Ben, I hoped he would eventually learn to value the important things in life.
For now, I was happy. I had my kids, friends, and a sense of peace I hadn’t felt in a long time. And that was more than enough.
If you enjoyed Kim’s story, you’ll love this one about a woman who got pregnant around the same time her son’s girlfriend was also expecting. The son’s girlfriend caused a rift in the family when she made demands of his mother about naming her child.
This work is inspired by real events and people, but it has been fictionalized for creative purposes. Names, characters, and details have been changed to protect privacy and enhance the narrative. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events is purely coincidental and not intended by the author.
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Kid Cries At His Mother’s Grave Saying “Take Me With You” And afterward Something Inconceivable Occurred.
A Touch from A higher place: An Endearing Story of Trust and Family
A young kid named Kevin tracked down solace in a more bizarre’s arms in a world loaded with melancholy and yearning. Crushed by the deficiency of his mom, Kevin’s life took an exceptional turn when he experienced a lady whose touch presented to him a promising sign. Allow us to dig into this inspiring story and witness the force of confidence, dreams, and the persevering through obligation of family.
The Stranded Kid and the Joke
Six-year-old Kevin experienced after his mom died in a horrible mishap. He was detained inside the entryways of a shelter, having no clue about who his dad was and having no family to deal with him. Different kids, lacking comprehension and compassion, ridiculed Kevin for his conviction that his mom would one day salvage him from the bounds of their common presence.
The Longing for Association
Living among his companions’ questions and insults, Kevin would regularly withdraw into fantasizes in which his mom would embrace him out of the shelter and of adoration. These fantasies gave him impermanent comfort from the brutal reality that encompassed him.
A memorable Excursion
The children were offered a remarkable chance to visit a neighborhood park one day by the halfway house. With his companions giggling and living it up, Kevin settled on the choice to take off from their jokes and set out toward the metropolitan burial ground. His objective was his mom’s grave — a spot he yearned to visit yet was only sometimes permitted to.
A Mother’s Touch
Kevin wailed wildly at his mom’s resting place, his tears mixing with the distress that consumed him. Unexpectedly, he felt a soothing hand on his shoulder, getting through his distress. Frightened, he went to see a brilliant lady remaining next to him, as though enlightened by beams of daylight. To his shock, she shared his mom’s name.
An Obligation of Trust
The lady, named Susan, recognized the anguish clearly and helped him. She went with him back to the halfway house, fashioning an association that rose above their short experience. En route, they coincidentally found a little carnival, where Kevin’s satisfaction emanated as he rode the merry go round and savored a frozen yogurt treat. Susan bid him goodbye, guaranteeing him of his mom’s everlasting adoration.
Dreams and Disclosure
Susan found herself in an odd dream that evening. Adam, her late child, stayed with her and carried a note with the location “443 Washington Road.” The fantasy repeated on different occasions, leaving Susan confused and constrained to impart it to her better half, Richard. Adam’s supplication to “take him with her” reverberated to her, interlaced with her experience with Kevin.
A Fortunate Disclosure
Driven by interest, Susan and Richard left on an excursion to uncover the importance behind the perplexing dream. To their bewilderment, they showed up at the location Susan had found in her rest — 443 Washington Road. The sight that welcomed them affirmed their most profound instinct — it was the very shelter where Susan had met Kevin only days prior.
A Request Replied
There, by the window on the ground floor, sat Kevin, lost in thought. Susan brought up him to Richard, understanding the wonderful association they had produced with this little fellow. They knew profound inside their souls that their motivation was clear — to take on Kevin and furnish him with the affection and care he so merited.
A Family Rejoined
The insight about Susan and Richard’s expectation to take on him filled Kevin with shock and euphoria. At last, he experienced the glow of somebody’s certifiable interest and love. With appreciation in his heart, Kevin communicated his conviction that his requests had been replied. He realized his mom had to be sure removed him from the shelter, driving him to the family he had consistently yearned for.
The authentic Force and Love
Around the supper table, Susan and Richard recognized the help from above that had united them. They offered their thanks for the bond they had shaped with Kevin — a bond that had developed from an opportunity experience to a caring family joined leaning on an unshakable conviction, dreams, and addressed petitions.
In a world frequently defaced by misfortune and sadness, the tale of Kevin, Susan, and Richard helps us to remember the unprecedented influence of human association, trust, and the unflinching affection that can emerge from the most startling of conditions. May their story move us to embrace empathy, esteem our friends and family, and keep in mind the significant effect we can have on each other’s lives.
Have you at any point encountered a fortunate experience that completely changed you? Share your accounts and appearance in the remarks underneath and allow us to praise the wonders that can happen when ways converge at the ideal second.
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