Most adults know that being a grown-up isn’t as simple as it seems to a child.
Kids might see things like food in the fridge, a comfy home, and unlimited internet, but they often don’t understand the work it takes to have those things. One mom decided to teach her disrespectful son a funny, “real world” lesson to show him that “nothing comes for free.”
In 2015, Heidi Johnson was struggling with her defiant 13-year-old son, Aaron. She explained that Aaron “wanted the benefits of growing up without the responsibility that comes with it.”
Aaron had started making a little bit of money as a YouTuber and thought he didn’t have to follow his mom’s rules about doing his homework. He even stormed out of her room, saying he was a “free person” because he was “making money.”
In response to his behavior, the single mother wrote a “tough love” letter to Aaron and shared it on Facebook. Almost ten years later, her post has gone viral again.
Johnson’s note begins, “Since you seem to have forgotten that you’re only 13, and I’m the parent, and that you don’t want to be controlled, I guess you need a lesson in independence.” In what she called a “roommate contract,” she laid out the rules Aaron would need to follow if he wanted to act like an adult.
She continued, “Since you’re earning money now, it should be easier for you to pay back for everything I’ve bought for you.” Johnson added that if he wanted things like his lamp, lightbulbs, or access to the internet, he’d have to pay his part of the costs.
In her letter, Johnson listed the conditions Aaron would need to follow, including paying for rent and utilities. She also expected him to cook his own meals and help with regular cleaning around the house.
Johnson signed the letter, “Love, Mom.”
Taking Action
Living in Venice, Italy, Johnson shared that when Aaron saw the letter taped to his door, he crumpled it up, threw it on the floor, and stormed out of their apartment.
Johnson felt he just needed some time to think—and she used that time to start taking back some of the things from his room.
Once Aaron had time to think, he asked his mom what he could do to start re-earning his privileges. He even gathered more items from his room and handed them to her, asking how he could earn them back.
Johnson explained that this was never about making him pay her back; it was about teaching him to understand the cost of things. Aaron quickly realized he couldn’t afford rent, utilities, or food on his own.
Online commenters supported her approach, praising her for her creative discipline style. One person wrote, “Great job! Nothing in the agreement is harsh, but it will teach him a lesson he’ll remember.” Another said, “You’re an amazing mom for giving your son a chance to learn and grow.” A third comment added, “Bravo for being a parent and not just a maid.”
Some people accused her of publicly shaming her son. In response, Johnson wrote another post saying she was “not ashamed” of what she did.
“A teenager will push their limits,” she explained. “They’re in a stage where they’re stepping into adulthood but still rooted in childhood… I can’t send this child into college or the workforce with an attitude of ‘I’ll get to it when I feel like it’ when a boss asks him to get a job done. That’s how the real world works.”
Johnson ended by saying, “Nothing in life is free. Somewhere, someone is making a sacrifice.”
A mother’s love is shown in her decision to use makeup to recreate her son’s birthmark, helping to restore his confidence amid critical stares.
One-year-old Enzo Castari, of Cáceres, Brazil, was born with a noticeable birthmark that spans one side of his nose and covers most of his forehead. His mother, 26-year-old Carolina Giraldelli, vowed with all of her heart that her son would never let the mark define him and that he would always feel perfect in his own flesh.
Carolina said, “It was a trying time for both of us.” “Judging looks and murmurs met us; they were filled with fear, scorn, pity, and even disgust. To demonstrate Enzo that he is normal despite the mark, my spouse and I decided to act as though nothing was out of the ordinary. We want him to know that he is loved exactly the way he is, to be resilient, and to have faith in himself.
Carolina and her spouse put forth a lot of effort to fight the discrimination that Enzo encountered. “We explain that Enzo is a normal boy, capable of playing, making friends, and experiencing love just like any other child,” we say to those who react with unease, curiosity, or terror.
Carolina asked a friend who works as a cosmetic artist to replicate Enzo’s birthmark on her face for a particular event. She remarked, “I was touched and surprised.” “I thought I was the world’s most beautiful woman.” Enzo was ecstatic, despite his inability to completely comprehend the significance.
Carolina even wore the makeup to work. “I felt like the proudest mother in the world, but people looked at me differently,” she remarked.
The birth of Enzo was challenging because the umbilical cord was wound twice around his neck. Carolina initially believed the birthmark to be dirt, but when she learned it was permanent, she sobbed, but not in grief, but in relief that her son was well. She understood then that in order to support him in facing the outside world, she would need to be strong, brave, and bold.
Carolina was shocked by the amount of support she received after posting a picture of herself online with the painted birthmark. “There have been innumerable words of love, support, and consolation for my son,” she remarked. “I think a lot of moms would be able to relate to
+my emotions upon viewing these images.”
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