A three-year-old throws tantrums and begs his mother not to go to daycare. Worried, she goes in unannounced and what she sees shocks her.
“No, mommy, no!” Johnny threw himself on the floor and started screaming. Marla Evans sighed. Not again! She looked at her watch. If he threw a full tantrum, she would be late yet again.
She gazed at her three-year-old with exasperation. Johnny had been going to daycare for two years and always loved it. For the last week, out of the blue, he’d been making a scene, begging Marla not to take him.
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She’d spoken to her pediatrician, and the doctor had told her that toddlers often went through the ‘terrible threes.’ “Stop it!” Marla heard herself scream, then she saw the look of fear in her son’s eyes. Something wasn’t right.
Marla sat down on the floor next to Johnny and coaxed him into her lap. He sobbed, pressing his little face against hers. Marla decided this was more than a tantrum, but what could be wrong?
“Honey,” Marla said gently. “I’m sorry. Mommy didn’t mean to snap.” She rocked him until he stopped crying and asked gently, “Why don’t you like daycare anymore?”
Raising a child is about setting and respecting boundaries.
Johnny shivered in her arms and whispered, “I don’t like!”
“But why, sweetie?” Marla asked. “Are the other kids mean?” But Johnny wouldn’t answer. Marla sighed. “Baby, mommy needs to go to work, but I tell you what… I’m going to come and get you from daycare early today, OK?”
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Johnny sat up in her lap. “No lunch?” He looked up at her anxiously. “No lunch, mommy?”
Lunch? The worried mom frowned. What was happening with her son?
Marla dropped Johnny off after promising she’d fetch him before lunch. He walked into the daycare quietly but threw Marla a pleading look that left her heartbroken.
She went to work and asked her boss for the afternoon off to deal with a personal issue. Thankfully, her boss was a mom too and understood!
Marla was determined to get to the bottom of Johnny’s reluctance to go to daycare. She decided to drop in — not before lunchtime as she promised Johnny — but during the meal.
Johnny’s daycare didn’t allow the parents into the children’s playrooms or the dining room, but each door of the facility had a large, clear glass window. Hopefully, Marla would be able to see what — if anything — was going on.
When she arrived, the receptionist told her the children were having lunch. Marla walked to the dining room and peered in. The kids were all sitting at their tables, eating.
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A teacher or an assistant supervised each table. Marla quickly spotted Johnny. There was a woman Marla didn’t recognize sitting next to him.
As Marla watched, the woman picked up Johnny’s spoon, scooped up a portion of mashed potatoes, and pressed it against his lips. “Eat!” she cried. Johnny shook his head violently, his mouth firmly closed, tears running down his cheeks.
“Open your mouth and eat!” the woman said angrily. Johnny was looking deeply distressed. The woman cried, “You are going to sit here until you clear your plate!”
Marla saw a small portion of mince, mash, and vegetables left on Johnny’s plate, and she knew her son. Johnny was not a big eater; she never pushed it when he told her he’d had enough.
Johnny opened his mouth to protest, and the teacher quickly pushed the spoon in. Marla saw her son choke and sputter. She’d had enough! She opened the door and stormed in.
“Get away from my son!” she cried.
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The woman looked up, and her mouth hung open. “Parents aren’t allowed in the dining room!” she cried.
“Then they should be,” Marla said, reining in her anger. “Can’t you see Johnny’s had enough? He’s a healthy boy, but he is not a big eater. As an educator, you should know how traumatic force-feeding a child can be.
“Being forced to clean up the plate is an old-fashioned notion. You should be aware of the statistics and the causes of obesity and eating disorders in children.
“And one of them is making food an issue! My little boy is an active child, and if he feels he’s had enough, you need to respect that and not force him to eat.
“As for shoving food into a child’s mouth in that way, it is reprehensible! You should certainly know better. These children are not puppets for you to manipulate at will!
“They are little people with needs and a will of their own. If you don’t respect their boundaries, you teach them they don’t deserve respect. I don’t think that is a message you want to pass on!”
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The teacher flushed a bright red and got to her feet. “I never…” she cried.
“That’s a pity,” Marla said crisply. “Because if this happens again, I will ensure you are out of a job! I’m not sending my son to daycare to be brutalized!”
Marla walked over to Johnny and tenderly wiped his mouth. “Come on, honey,” she said gently. “Mommy promised you a treat this afternoon!”
Marla had a long talk with Johnny, and there was no tantrum the next morning. Over the next few weeks, she popped into the daycare at lunch times just to keep an eye on things.
The teacher never forced Johnny to eat again, and the boy recovered his good humor and enthusiasm.
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What can we learn from this story?
- Children and their boundaries should be respected. Johnny’s teacher was teaching him that adults had the right to impose their will on children against their welfare.
- Raising a child is about setting and respecting boundaries — theirs and ours. A child whose boundaries are not respected is insecure and has low self-esteem.
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Every Day after 21 Year Old Sons Death, Grieving Mom Finds Baby Toys on His Grave
A grieving mother who frequently visits her son’s grave is startled when she begins finding baby toys there and soon uncovers a heartbreaking truth about her son’s hidden life.
“Musician? Are you out of your mind, Leonard?” Kenneth snapped when his son expressed his desire to pursue a career in music.
Leonard, fresh out of high school at 18, was eager to follow his passion. But his parents had different expectations—they wanted him to become a lawyer, a path Leonard had no interest in pursuing.
After taking a gap year to explore his options, Leonard realized his heart was set on music. When he shared his dream with his parents, their response was anything but supportive.
“What’s wrong with wanting to be a musician, Dad?” Leonard protested. “Plenty of people follow their passion and find success. I don’t want a dull office job!”
His father’s reply was firm. “I’ve made myself clear, son. You’re going to become a successful lawyer, just like your grandfather and me.”
“There’s no way, Dad! You can’t force me into a career I don’t want! I’m going to follow my dreams, and that’s final!” Leonard declared.
Leonard’s mother, Lily, tried to mediate. “Your father just wants the best for you. He doesn’t want you chasing an uncertain dream. So many people have big aspirations, but few make it.”
“If he really cares, he should support me!” Leonard retorted.
“Watch your tone, Leonard,” his father warned. “If you want to live here, you’ll listen to us. If not, you’re free to leave.”
“Fine, Dad. I don’t need your support. I’ll make it on my own!” Leonard stormed off to his room, packing his things. That evening, despite Lily’s pleas, he left home vowing never to return.
Three years passed without any contact. Lily tried calling her son, but every call went unanswered. Then, one morning while making breakfast, Lily received a phone call that shattered her world. Leonard had been in a motorcycle accident and died before reaching the hospital.
Lily collapsed in grief, and Kenneth, equally heartbroken, accompanied her to Milwaukee to identify their son’s body. The loss of Leonard drove a wedge deeper between the couple, with Lily blaming Kenneth for pushing their son away.
While Kenneth withdrew into guilt and silence, Lily visited Leonard’s grave daily. One day, she noticed a small teddy bear left at his headstone. At first, she thought it was left by mistake and moved it aside. But when she returned the next day, more toys had appeared.
Puzzled, she asked the cemetery caretaker, but he had no answers. Then, on her next visit, she saw a young woman standing by Leonard’s grave, holding a baby. The woman placed a toy near the grave before turning to leave.
Lily’s curiosity overwhelmed her, and she approached the woman. “Excuse me, do you know my son? Have you been leaving these toys?”
The woman looked startled. “Are you Leonard’s mother? I’m Carrie, his girlfriend. This is Henry, our son.”
Lily was stunned. The child in Carrie’s arms was the spitting image of her late son. Carrie explained how she and Leonard had met after he moved to pursue his music career. They had fallen in love, moved in together, and when Carrie became pregnant, Leonard was overjoyed, even writing a song for his unborn child. Tragically, just as their baby boy was born, Leonard lost his life.
Carrie had been visiting Leonard’s grave and leaving the toys he had bought for their son, unsure of how to approach his parents. She revealed that Leonard had always hoped to reconnect with his family once he found success.
Hearing Carrie’s story, Lily’s heart ached, not just for the son she had lost, but for the family she never knew existed. She couldn’t bear the thought of losing her grandson too, so she invited Carrie and Henry to live with her. Reluctant at first, Carrie eventually agreed.
From that moment, Lily and Kenneth’s lives changed. Kenneth, once so strict, became a doting grandfather to Henry. The joy the little boy brought into their home helped mend the strained relationship between Lily and Kenneth. Together, they supported Carrie in getting Leonard’s song released by a well-known label, and Henry, now five, dreams of following in his father’s musical footsteps, with his grandparents cheering him on.
This story teaches us the devastating effects of anger and impatience. Leonard’s hasty departure and Kenneth’s rigid stance only deepened the divide between them. But it also shows the power of love and acceptance. By opening her heart to Carrie and Henry, Lily not only found healing for herself but also for her family, rebuilding the bond they thought was lost forever.
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