I take it that everyone of us must navigate our own lives and take responsibility for our decisions? However, it is in our nature as humans to want to help friends who are actually in need. However, what would you do if your friend—the one you always stand by—started confiding in you about all of their issues, repeatedly, and with no sign of stopping? This Reddit member is exactly in that predicament. She wondered if she was managing the matter with her buddy correctly, so she looked to the large internet community for advice.
I(32F) am a single mother of two kids (6M and 5m F). I am a single mother by choice (my kids are donor conceived).
I am lucky enough to have a good job (French teacher in a private school), and a paid off house (parents’ life insurance and inheritance).
Before I had either of my kids, I made sure to have a year’s living expenses saved, then I would take a sabbatical to recover from birth, as well as bond with my kids. While on sabbatical, I still tutor some kids for some extra income.
My friend (34F), just had a baby 2 months ago. She is the breadwinner in her household, and her husband has been unemployed since he was laid off during COVID.
It was great to be pregnant at the same time, as well as having a friend with a newborn. But it has turned sour.
She has been saying how jealous she is of me being able to take off a whole year from work, how she would have loved to not worry about losing their home, how she doesn’t even have a couple hundred dollars in her savings account, let alone a whole year’s worth of living expenses….
I usually ignore it, or brush it off, because I kind of can understand the stress she is under.
Well, starting about 10 days ago, she started hinting at not being able to afford daycare, and any mention of her husband taking care of their kid is brushed off. Then she started remarking on how much free time I must have, which I deflected by saying -truthfully- that being a single mom to a baby and a small kid left me no free time actually.
Then last night she came out with it, and asked if I could “do her a favor” and watch her kid while she’s at work. I was firm, but polite, when I said that I couldn’t, that I am not capable of watching two kids under 6 months.
She started almost begging me, saying she can’t afford daycare, and if she is not back at work, she will lose her job, and they will end up homeless. I again brought up her husband, and she said that he was not good with kids, and isn’t capable of taking care of her kid.
I kept saying no, she kept pushing, until it escalated to her calling me heartless, and me telling her that it’s not my problem she chose to have a kid with a useless man.
Now she blocked me, I am feeling very guilty about what I said, and feeling like an AH.
Miss Italy Pageant Holds Ground Against Woke Pressure, Remains “Only Women Since Birth”
Like Miss America, Miss Italy has made the audacious decision to honor tradition by announcing that only biological women would be permitted to vie for the esteemed title. The event’s creator, Patrizia Mirigliani, resolutely declared that Miss Italy will preserve the essence of authentic womanhood in the competition and refuse to jump on the flashy bandwagon of trans activism.
Recent Miss Netherlands pageant events, in which a biological male winner emerged victorious, have provoked intense discussions and outcries of transphobia from numerous quarters. Miss Italy, however, is unwavering in its determination to uphold the competition’s integrity and honor the natural beauty of women who identify as female.
Mirigliani gave a clear response to the issue when she said, “I think it’s a bit ridiculous that beauty contests have been trying to make the news lately.” However, Miss Italy will not sacrifice its morals in the name of political correctness. Participation is restricted to biological women; individuals who do not identify as such are not permitted.
Miss Italy has welcomed applicants with tattoos, piercings, and hair weaves as a way to accommodate changing social norms throughout the years. But the pageant crosses the line when it comes to redefining what it means to be a woman.
“Since its inception, our competition has upheld that participants must be women from birth,” Mirigliani added. This choice is a reflection of our awareness that beauty may change and that we must stick to our essential principles. We will not compromise on what it means to be a woman, but we will celebrate individuality and expression.
Rikkie Valerie Kolle, the transgender winner of the Miss Netherlands contest, talked about her experience and path toward empowerment. Although Miss Italy’s victory demonstrates her personal development, her unwavering choice pays homage to the pageant’s heritage of showcasing female beauty and its history.
Their conviction has not wavered in the face of the controversy regarding Miss Italy’s position. They remain steadfast in the face of opposition and criticism, refusing to yield to contemporary narratives that seek to conflate the distinctions between the biological sexes.
Conservatives everywhere are praising Miss Italy for her choice to honor custom and stress the value of honoring women who have encountered particular difficulties and experiences. Many people view the pageant as a timeless institution, thus it is admirable that Miss Italy is committed to maintaining its historical roots.
Even though the world is changing quickly, Miss Italy is still a steadfast champion of femininity who presents women’s beauty in its purest form. As the tournament go forward, it sends a strong message to aspirant women everywhere, encouraging them to embrace their individuality and inherent beauty instead of letting attempts to redefine womanhood get in the way.
In a culture where limits are being pushed, Miss Italy’s choice shows that customs don’t have to be given up in order to welcome change. They continue to provide an enticing platform where women may shine, inspire, and make a lasting impression by being true to their ideals.
The Miss Italy pageant is an institution that celebrates femininity, honors history, and highlights the strength of being a woman, not merely a competition. Miss Italy remains steadfast and unwavering in its dedication to womanhood and encouraging future generations of women as the journey progresses and new tales are recorded.
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