It’s uplifting to witness women supporting each other, whether it’s friends offering help or strangers extending support to those they’ve never met. In this story, a woman quietly left a letter for her ex-boyfriend’s future girlfriend, offering a heads-up about what to anticipate and sharing lessons from her own experience. The new girlfriend shared this moving act of solidarity on Reddit, where she received an outpouring of encouragement and advice from the online community.
She wrote:
“My boyfriend Steve (30m) and I (28f) have been together for 2 years and have been living together for 8 months. I was cleaning our apartment when I found a note in the back of a cabinet that read:
‘Dear Steve’s Future Girlfriend,
I know it’s you reading this because he’d never clean back here. I’m putting this here because I’m leaving him soon and want to warn you about him:
1-He will not clean;
2-He will not listen;
3-He will make everything feel like it’s your fault;
It’s not your fault, he’s just an incompetent man. I’m leaving him, I suggest you do the same.
Best wishes, Natalia'”
She added:
“I read the note and brought it to show to him and hear his response. He immediately ripped it up and said not to listen to it, that she was crazy and untrustworthy. I told him that the fact that he hasn’t found the note in the 5 years since they broke up is a red flag to me because it does mean he’s never cleaned back there and that he has been cleaning less and less since I moved in.
He told me this is just his ex continuing to manipulate and ruin his life, and I was letting it work. We continued to argue along the same lines, and I eventually left to spend the night at a friend’s place.
Steve has been a great boyfriend so far. He gets along with my family. He has given me gifts and flowers and always tells me how much he loves me. He’s not wrong that the cleaning hasn’t really been brought up before, but the note made me realize it had been less and less and that we needed to have a full conversation about this.”
She went on explaining:
“He texted me afterwards saying he’s sorry that I felt like I had to leave, but that it’s a wrong move for me to take a note over our 2-year relationship and to leave him and our pets alone. I don’t know what to do or what to believe right now. I’m contemplating trying to find and reach out to Natalia.
Steve thinks I should come back home and let it go, that his past should not affect our future. He makes it sound like his ex was manipulative and petty throughout their relationship, but I don’t know what to trust.
When we moved in together 8 months ago, the cleaning was 50/50. Since then, he’s been doing things less and less. I have to remind him to do things like to bring his plates to the sink or take out the trash, and I didn’t have to before. The dishes will pile up unless I do them, to the point he’s had leftover food mold on the plates.”
She continued:
“I’m not a confrontational person, so I was just asking him to fix it when it came up. The note made me reflect on it more and try to have an actual full conversation, and I will say I didn’t feel listened to when I talked to him about it.
I tried to use the note to start a conversation about cleaning, and he got so stuck on the fact that I was listening to his ex instead of him, that he wouldn’t listen to what I think are valid concerns. He thinks I’m letting the note have “confirmation bias” so no matter what he says I’ll think he’s in the wrong.
Also, I didn’t leave him permanently, this all happened yesterday and I only spent one night at a friend’s because I didn’t feel like our conversation was going anywhere last night, and he wouldn’t let me sleep until I let it go. I’m going back today and wanted to get advice and feedback before I do.”
Other Redditors chimed in, sharing their own insights and offering advice to her.
- I’m so glad for you. It wasn’t two wasted years since they taught you a valuable lesson. I’m especially grateful for Natalia! Please tell her we love her for her kind solidarity and witty ways. Absolutely, leave a note — but better yet, leave two. One in the same place (he’ll look there; manipulative narcissists aren’t that dumb), and another in an even less likely spot. Sending you my best. You got this, girl! © occasionalpart / Reddit
- Well, he’s not cleaning, he’s not listening to you, and he’s making it out to be your fault “for trusting a note over him.” So, it seems the ex’s assessment might be accurate. It doesn’t look like he’s open to discussing his poor housekeeping, and personally, I don’t think you’ll be able to address it now without the note coming up. Ultimately, it’s up to you to decide whether this is something you can tolerate. It seems he hasn’t learned anything from his last relationship. © VonBoo / Reddit
- You’ve been living together for less than a year, and you’re already having to play mommy, reminding him of basic chores and daily tasks! If Natalia were truly such a manipulative, crazy person, she would have made much harsher and more dramatic accusations than these. © Arya_kidding_me / Reddit
- It’s almost ironic how easy it would have been for him to shut this entire thing down with the simplest of responses: “Hmm, you’re right, I’ll make sure to clean more.” That would have immediately countered points 2 and 3. But he’d rather be right, and he’d rather play the aggrieved party. You didn’t do anything wrong by trying to have a conversation off the back of that note. His reaction should tell you everything. © Mobius_Stripping / Reddit
- I’d be willing to bet money that the note is right. He sounds like the kind of man who will stop doing anything the second he decides a woman is fully trapped. The slow tapering off you’re witnessing is him testing the waters. He needs to figure out whether he just needs to waste enough of your time to get to that stage, or whether you need a ring or a baby to feel trapped. © Extension_Drummer_85 / Reddit
- “Don’t expect to change a man unless he’s in diapers.” This behavior will continue on, he’s gotten away with it before up to a certain point. He wants someone to pick up after him like his mommy.
Any time a guy says, “My ex is/was crazy,” is a MASSIVE red flag right there. It’s something guys have been saying since the dawn of time to belittle their former partners. He’ll say the same thing about you to his next girlfriend. You have to ask yourself, “Was she crazy, or did he drive her crazy with his behavior and laziness?” I’d leave your own note when you do finally dump him. And reach out to his ex, see what she has to say. © Equal-Brilliant2640 / Reddit
When trust is broken between couples, it often leads to a surge of emotional and psychological turmoil, including feelings of uncertainty and profound confusion. In a different scenario, a woman shared a fascinating story of her own sleuthing skills. She discovered her husband was cheating simply by paying close attention to his breakfast order.
‘I Protest!’ My Wedding Was Stopped by My Mother-in-Law, but in the End, I Had to Thank Her for It – Story of the Day
I was sure he was the one. I imagined my wedding day a thousand times, picked my perfect dress, and chose all the decorations, food, and drinks. Successful in life, I could afford everything. But I never imagined my MIL would be the one to tell me the truth and save me from a huge mistake.
When I was little, I often imagined the day I would get married.
Growing up as an orphan in foster homes, it was hard to picture what my own family would look like. Sometimes, sitting by the window, I thought maybe I would never have a family.
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I wish I could go back and reassure little Penelope and tell her things would get better. I would have never believed back then that my own wedding would take place in such a beautiful setting.
A lot has changed since those days. I built a career from scratch and had everything I once lacked in my childhood.
For a long time, I couldn’t find that perfect prince I always dreamed of. But finally, I did, and the day of my wedding arrived.
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I sat in front of the mirror in my wedding dress, everything ready for the best day of my life.
The dress was a vision of white lace and satin, making me feel like a princess. Behind me sat Nellie, my best friend, fiddling nervously with the edge of her dress.
“I can’t believe it. I used to only dream of this day,” I said, my voice filled with wonder as I stared at my reflection.
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“Penelope! Why do you say that? You’re a beautiful woman. A wedding was only a matter of time for you,” Nellie said, trying to sound encouraging.
Her eyes, however, betrayed a hint of worry.
“I didn’t always think so… But Colin, he’s so wonderful. He loves me so much,” I replied, a dreamy smile spreading across my face.
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Nellie hesitated, her voice unsure. “Are you sure he’s the one? Have you ever had doubts?”
“What do you mean, Nellie? We’re getting married in a couple of hours and you’re asking me this? Of course, I’m sure! He’s the first who ever loved me,” I said, my tone a mix of surprise and irritation.
“Maybe he loves your success and money… That’s what I mean,” Nellie said softly, avoiding my gaze.
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“What!? No, he’s not like that,” I retorted, my heart beating faster with unease.
“Listen… I need to confess something…” Nellie started, her voice trembling.
“What is it?” I asked, my curiosity piqued, but my nerves frayed.
Just then, Colin’s father, Richard, peeked in. “Girls, hurry up, everything’s ready. Are you all set?” he asked, his booming voice breaking the tension.
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“Yes, almost,” Nellie replied quickly, standing up.
“Penelope, come out when you’re ready. Nellie, come with me, I need your help,” Richard instructed.
Nellie and Richard left, and I was alone again. I stared at my reflection, my thoughts a whirlwind.
What was Nellie going to say? Why now? She was acting very strange today. But I didn’t want these thoughts to ruin this day. The only thing that mattered was my wedding.
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Taking a deep breath, I tried to shake off the unease that had settled over me. I stood up, smoothed down my dress, and forced a smile.
This was supposed to be the happiest day of my life, and I was determined to make it so.
The ceremony began. The hall was filled with people, all dressed in their finest clothes. The air was thick with anticipation and the scent of fresh flowers. Richard, Colin’s father, walked me down the aisle since I had no parents. I clutched his arm tightly, trying to steady my nerves.
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There were barely any guests on my side, just Nellie, whom I didn’t see as I walked. Something felt off, but Richard hurried me to the altar, his grip firm and reassuring.
As we reached the altar, I saw Colin waiting for me with a smile that made my heart skip a beat.
All my doubts seemed to vanish when I looked into his blue eyes. He looked so handsome in his suit, and his smile was so genuine.
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Sensing my nerves, he took my hands in his, his touch warm and comforting.
“You look beautiful,” Colin whispered, his eyes shining with emotion.
“Thank you,” I whispered back, feeling a bit more at ease. “I’m so happy.”
The priest cleared his throat, signaling the start of the ceremony. I took a deep breath, ready to begin.
It was time for the vows, and I offered to go first. I had so much to say to Colin, to thank him for his kindness and love.
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“Colin,” I began, my voice steady despite my nerves. “From the moment we met, you have been my rock, my comfort, and my joy. I promise to love you, to support you, and to stand by your side for the rest of our lives.”
Colin smiled, squeezing my hands. Then it was his turn. His vows were short. It was as if he was rushing. He seemed eager to get through them quickly.
“Penelope, you are my everything. I love you and I promise to be with you always,” he said simply.
Finally, the priest said, “If anyone here objects to this union, speak now or forever hold your peace.”
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The room was silent. The priest was about to continue when suddenly, a voice shouted, “I protest!” It was my mother-in-law, Megan.
She stood in the middle of the hall, her face set with determination.
“I protest this marriage!” she repeated, her voice echoing through the hall.
Everyone was stunned. The guests turned to look at Megan, their faces a mix of shock and confusion.
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The priest paused the ceremony, and his brow furrowed in concern before he retreated to his office until we could resolve the issue.
The hall erupted in chaos. Guests were bewildered, their murmurs growing louder as they tried to understand what was happening.
Colin shouted at his mother, his face red with anger.
“Mom, what are you doing? This is insane!” he yelled, not letting her speak. Richard, looking equally furious, tried to forcibly remove her from the hall.
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“Get out, Megan! You’re ruining everything!” Richard demanded, grabbing her arm.
But I stepped forward, my voice firm. “Stop! Everyone, stop!” I said, raising my hands. “I want to hear what Megan has to say.”
The room fell silent, all eyes turning to me. Colin looked at me with a mixture of anger and desperation. “Penelope, you can’t be serious. She’s crazy!” he insisted.
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I ignored him and turned to Megan. “Please, go on,” I said quietly.
Megan took a deep breath, her eyes filled with determination. “Penelope, you’re making a mistake.
You need to stop this wedding before it’s too late. Colin doesn’t love you. He’s only after your money. That’s why he’s rushing this marriage,” she said, her voice trembling with urgency.
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Richard and Colin tried to silence her again. “Don’t believe her, darling. It’s all lies,” Colin pleaded, his eyes wide with panic.
It was hard to believe. My heart was pounding. What proof did she have? But why would she lie and embarrass herself in front of everyone? Could it be true?
There was no time to think. Megan had no evidence, and I wanted to trust Colin and accuse her of lying. But suddenly, Nellie burst into the hall, her face pale but resolute.
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“Wait!” Nellie shouted, supporting Megan. “Penelope, I need to tell you something.”
“What is it, Nellie?” I asked, my voice shaking.
“I wanted to tell you earlier, but Richard stopped me and forbade me from attending the wedding,” Nellie confessed, glancing at Richard.
“But I can’t stay silent while you’re being deceived. Colin has been cheating on you with me.
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Even after the bachelor party, he came to my place. He only cares about your money.”
The words hit me like a ton of bricks. I felt my knees go weak, and I had to steady myself on the altar. “Is this true, Colin?” I asked, my voice barely above a whisper.
Colin’s face turned ashen. “Penelope, it’s not what you think. I love you,” he stammered, but his eyes betrayed him.
I was in shock. Betrayal, anger, and heartbreak all washed over me at once. I listened to everyone, but their voices felt distant. I turned and fled the wedding, my heart shattered.
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How could I have believed such a man? And my best friend, nearly allowing me to make the biggest mistake of my life. I had no one left.
As I ran out of the hall, the only person who seemed to truly want to save me was Megan, my mother-in-law.
Her courage to stand up and speak the truth, despite the consequences, was the only thing that saved me from a lifetime of regret.
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Nearly a month passed since my wedding was called off. The days felt surreal, a blur of emotions and realizations.
I blocked Colin on everything; he tried to apologize and even stalked me for a while, but I didn’t want to see him.
Everything became painfully clear—he was only interested in my money. I still talked to Nellie, but our relationship was strained. I could never trust her like before. But when one door closes, another opens.
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The day I fled the wedding, a man named Tony saw me on the road. I was a mess, still in my wedding dress, tears streaming down my face. He pulled over, his concern evident. “Hey, are you okay? Do you need help?” he asked gently.
I looked at him, my vision blurred with tears. “I… I don’t know. I just need to get away,” I managed to say.
Tony nodded, offering a kind smile. “Hop in. I’ll take you somewhere safe.”
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I couldn’t refuse. He genuinely helped and supported me without knowing anything about my money or past.
He just wanted to help. Since then, we kept in touch, and he became bolder, asking me out. It was hard after Colin, but I decided to take a chance with Tony, and it paid off.
Sitting at dinner with him one evening, laughing genuinely, I realized that Megan screaming “I protest” had saved my life. Tony was kind, funny, and didn’t care about my status or wealth.
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He simply wanted to be with me for who I was. We talked about everything and nothing, sharing stories and dreams. For the first time in a long while, I felt truly happy and free.
As we finished dinner, Tony looked into my eyes and said, “Penelope, I’m glad I met you. I want to get to know you even more.”
“I feel the same way, Tony,” I replied, smiling. His sincerity was something I hadn’t experienced in a long time.
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Megan’s intervention, though shocking and painful, turned out to be a blessing in disguise. It steered me away from a disastrous marriage and toward a chance at real happiness.
Reflecting on everything, I felt grateful for Megan’s courage to speak out. She risked her relationship with her son to protect me. Now, I could finally look forward to a future filled with genuine love and trust.
One day, I decided to reach out to Megan to thank her for her bravery. We met for coffee and talked about everything that had happened. She was relieved that I understood her intentions.
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“Penelope, I only wanted what was best for you. I’m sorry it had to be so dramatic,” Megan said, sipping her coffee.
“I know, Megan. Thank you for looking out for me,” I replied, feeling a weight lift off my shoulders. The tension I had felt melted away as we shared a genuine moment of understanding.
From then on, Megan and I developed a close bond. She became the mother figure I had always longed for, and I was grateful for her presence in my life. She provided advice, support, and most importantly, love.
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As for Tony and me, we took things slow, savoring every moment together.
We built a relationship based on mutual respect and love, something I never thought possible after Colin.
We enjoyed simple pleasures—walks in the park, quiet dinners, and endless conversations.
Looking back, I realize that sometimes the most unexpected events can lead to the greatest blessings.
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