For my 35th birthday, my husband handed me a beautifully wrapped box and a smug grin. Inside was a gift that shattered my confidence and lit a fire in me. A year later, I delivered a surprise of my own, one that left him begging for forgiveness.
The house buzzed with laughter and chatter. Balloons in soft pastels floated near the ceiling, and a “Happy Birthday” banner stretched across the living room. Plates of snacks and cake slices sat on every table.
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My kids ran around, giggling, their faces sticky with frosting. Friends and family filled the room, glasses clinking in celebration.
“Okay, okay! Everyone quiet!” my husband, Greg, called out, raising his phone. He grinned as he started recording. “The birthday girl is about to open her gift!”
I smiled nervously, my heart pounding. Greg wasn’t usually one for surprises, so this had to be something special.
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He handed me a box wrapped in glittery paper. “Go on, babe,” he said, giving me an encouraging nod.
“What is it?” I asked, holding the box carefully. It wasn’t very heavy, but it had some weight to it.
“Open it and find out!” Greg said, still filming.
I tore at the paper, revealing a sleek black box. I opened it, my smile freezing as I stared inside. A digital bathroom scale gleamed up at me.
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“Wow,” I said, forcing a laugh. “A weighing scale?”
“Yes!” Greg exclaimed, laughing loudly. “No more ‘big-boned’ excuses, babe. Just figures!”
The room went quiet, save for a few nervous chuckles. My cheeks burned. I glanced around at the guests, who avoided eye contact. I did put on a lot of weight while carrying our third baby and didn’t have any time to lose it while breastfeeding and managing the house.
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“Thanks,” I said, swallowing the lump in my throat. “This is… thoughtful.”
Greg clapped his hands. “I knew you’d love it!” he said, oblivious to my discomfort.
That night, after the guests left, I lay in bed staring at the ceiling. Silent tears rolled down my cheeks as my husband snored beside me, oblivious.
I thought back to his laughter and the way everyone had looked at me. The shame was unbearable.
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But then another feeling rose—anger.
“This isn’t how it ends,” I said aloud, wiping my tears. “I’ll show him. He’ll regret this.”
The next morning, I laced up my old sneakers. “Just a walk,” I told myself. “One mile. You can manage that.”
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The air was crisp as I stepped outside. My muscles ached from lack of use, and my feet protested with every step. As I trudged along the sidewalk, I caught a glimpse of my reflection in a store window. My heart sank.
“This is pointless,” I thought, slowing down. “What difference can one walk make?”
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But then, I remembered Greg’s laugh and those cruel words. My hands clenched into fists. “One walk is a start,” I told myself firmly. “Just keep going.”
I came home sweaty and exhausted, but a tiny spark of pride warmed me. The next day, I did it again. And the day after that.
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I began swapping my sugary morning coffee for green tea. At first, it tasted like warm grass, but I stuck with it. Instead of chips, I snacked on apple slices. It wasn’t easy. The kids’ snacks called to me from the pantry, and the temptation to quit nagged at me.
One night, as I stared at the chocolate bar Greg had left on the counter, I whispered, “No. This isn’t who I want to be anymore.” I grabbed a handful of almonds instead.
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Two months in, I was walking two miles a day. My pace quickened, and my breath no longer came in ragged gasps. My scale showed that I’d lost seven pounds. It wasn’t much, but it was something.
I decided to try yoga. A YouTube video promised “gentle stretches for beginners,” but 10 minutes in, I was sweating buckets and cursing the instructor’s calm voice. Still, I kept at it, laughing at myself when I toppled over during tree pose.
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“Mom, you look funny!” my youngest giggled, pointing at me.
“Thanks, sweetheart,” I said with a grin. “I feel funny, too.”
As the weeks passed, my body grew stronger. I noticed my clothes fitting better. A friend I hadn’t seen in months stopped me at the grocery store.
“Wow, you look amazing!” she said, her eyes wide. “What’s your secret?”
“Just taking care of myself,” I replied, feeling a glow of pride.
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By the time my youngest started daycare, I was ready for the next step. I joined a gym and signed up for a personal trainer. The first session was brutal. I felt out of place among the sleek, fit women lifting weights with ease. But my trainer, a kind woman named Emma, encouraged me.
“Everyone starts somewhere,” she said. “You’re here, and that’s what matters.”
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Six months in, my transformation was undeniable. The scale showed I’d lost 30 pounds, but the real victory was how I felt. I could chase my kids around without gasping for air. My arms, once soft and weak, were now strong and toned.
One afternoon, while shopping for new clothes, I caught sight of myself in the mirror. For the first time in years, I smiled at my reflection. “You did this,” I whispered. “You’re incredible.”
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Strangers began complimenting me. A barista at my favorite café said, “You have such a glow about you!” My confidence soared.
That’s when I decided to take it further. I enrolled in a fitness trainer certification course. It was tough juggling classes, workouts, and motherhood, but I was determined. I wanted to help other women feel as empowered as I did.
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The day I passed my final exam, I celebrated with my kids. “Mom’s a trainer now!” I announced, pulling them into a hug.
“You’re the strongest mom ever,” my oldest said, beaming up at me.
“No,” I said, smiling. “I’m just the happiest.”
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As I hung my certificate on the wall, I thought back to where it all began. The scale Greg had given me still sat in the bathroom, but it no longer held power over me. It was just a tool, not a measure of my worth.
My journey wasn’t over, but I had become stronger.
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Greg didn’t notice me at first. For months, he came home late, barely glancing in my direction as he settled into his usual spot on the couch. But then, after I lost nearly 40 pounds and started wearing clothes that hugged my toned figure, something shifted.
One evening, as I served dinner, he looked up from his phone. “You’re really looking great these days, babe,” he said, a sly grin spreading across his face.
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“Thanks,” I replied curtly, not bothering to meet his eyes.
Over the next few weeks, his compliments came frequently. “I always knew you had it in you,” he said one morning, watching me prepare a smoothie. “Guess my little push worked, huh?”
I froze, the blender’s hum momentarily drowning out his words. A “push”? That gift—his thoughtless, humiliating scale—wasn’t a push. It was a shove into pain and shame. I kept my face neutral and sipped my drink, but inside, I simmered.
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Soon, Greg began inviting me out to dinner. “Let’s reconnect,” he suggested. He bragged about my transformation to his friends, saying, “She couldn’t have done it without me.” His words turned my stomach.
I realized his sudden attention was about control. He saw me as his accomplishment, his trophy. But I wasn’t anyone’s trophy. Not anymore.
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As Greg’s birthday approached, I knew exactly what I would give him. I bought a box the same size as the one he had handed me a year ago. I even used the same glittery wrapping paper.
His birthday party was a small gathering at home, just a few friends and relatives. I set the wrapped box on the table and smiled sweetly. “Here’s your gift, Greg. I hope you like it.”
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His face lit up as he tore into the wrapping paper. When he lifted the lid and saw the crisp stack of divorce papers, his smile vanished.
“What…what is this?” he stammered, his hands trembling.
“Figures, babe,” I said calmly. “No more ‘married excuses.’ I filed for divorce.”
The room fell silent. Greg’s face turned pale, and then bright red. He stood, knocking his chair back. “You’re joking, right? This is a joke!”
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“No joke,” I replied, standing tall. “You made me feel small, Greg. You didn’t believe in me, but I believed in myself. And now, I’m done.”
He dropped to his knees, his voice pleading. “Please, don’t do this! I didn’t mean to hurt you. It was all a misunderstanding. You’re amazing now—all thanks to me!”
I shook my head, my voice steady. “No, Greg. It’s thanks to me. I’m stronger than you ever gave me credit for.”
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I grabbed my gym bag, my heart lighter than it had been in years. I walked past the stunned faces of the guests, out the door, and into the crisp evening air.
That week, I moved into my new apartment, filled with light and warmth.
For the first time in years, I felt free. And that was the greatest gift of all.
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Dolly Parton ‘Bathed Once a Week’ & Lived in Shack with Family of 14 — Now Donates Millions to Those in Need
Dolly Parton has maintained her modesty throughout her extraordinary career as a performer, businesswoman, and philanthropist, while accumulating enormous recognition and wealth. Success has unsurprisingly followed her throughout her journey.
Parton knows the hardships of poverty having grown up in a large family. Despite her success as a hugely important Hollywood actress today, she has never forgotten her lowly roots.
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The genuine Dolly Rebecca Parton, the music icon, was welcomed home by her parents on January 19, 1946, at their home on Locust Ridge in Sevierville, Tennessee. She has eleven siblings and was born in a one-bedroom cottage.
Her father, sharecropper Robert Lee Parton, worked in construction to augment his income because he was unable to attend school and was hence illiterate.
The legendary country singer grew up surrounded by music because of her family’s strong musical heritage. Despite their challenging living conditions, singing brought them together and brought them joy.
In 1965, in Nashville, Tennessee, Dolly Parton posed for a picture. | Source: Getty Images
Parton learned to sing from her mother, the entertainer Avie Lee Owens. She played her a variety of melodies, including Elizabethan ballads and church hymns that had been passed down through the years in her family.
Parton’s grandfather, Jake Robert Owens, composed the hymn “Singing His Praise” while serving as a priest. A number of Parton’s siblings developed a passion for music, and a few of them participated in her family band.
Sam Owens, a musician and singer-songwriter in his own right, was another uncle of Parton. When she was a little child, her uncle—who loved music—was the first to see that she had the ability to become a well-known musician.
Stella Mae, Cassie Nan, the twins Freida Estelle and Rachel Ann, Willadeene, David Wilburn, Coy Denver, Bobby Lee, Robert, and Larry are among Parton’s siblings. After a fight with cancer, Robert passed away in 2021, while Larry passed away at birth.
Parton often assisted her parents in taking care of the younger children because she was the fourth of her twelve siblings. She shared a little roof with her family.
Their log cottage had no running water or electricity at the time, and it only had a living room and one bedroom. The building is still standing today.
Parton has never shied away from talking about her modest upbringing or how it shaped the way she saw the world. She knows what it’s like to be poor; she grew up in a huge household with little money.
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Parton talked back to The Guardian in 2016 on her early years spent in the remote Tennessee highlands, emphasizing the happy memories from that time in her life. She stated:
“Obviously, there were problems, but I would rather look back on the good times.”
She recalled the times she had spent with her siblings, singing in church, and doing household chores that she didn’t really enjoy. She also remembered all of the laughs she had with her family in the past.
Parton talked about how her siblings would always sing and how she would always attempt to get them to back her up when she pretended to be the lead vocalist on stage, but they would never show any interest.
Parton remembered that her brothers would frequently cram themselves into their small home, which resulted in a lot of mocking and fighting. But they remained a family through all of the turmoil.
The cottage was too small for them to comfortably hang out in, she said, so they spent most of their time outside. The courtyard functioned as an addition for socializing over meals, entertainment, and games.
Parton stated that her family was constantly appreciative of their access to food and a roof. Her parents consistently stressed that other families suffered more than their own, even though it was not exactly what they desired. She remembered:
“I never felt poor, even though we were.”
Parton’s enthusiasm and musical ability would ultimately enable her to become one of the most popular and successful country music artists of all time, despite her family’s humble beginnings.
Growing Up in Poverty
Parton said that although she had happy childhood memories, being poor meant having to endure difficult living circumstances. She and her 14-member family essentially lived in a shanty and had little access to needs.
She revealed that she was just eight years old when she first saw a toilet and bathroom in her aunt’s house and was attracted by them in a March 1978 Playboy magazine interview with journalist Lawrence Grobel.
Parton revealed that she and her siblings were terrified to use the restroom because they believed it would swallow them up, while laughing at how naive and innocent they were at the time. “It was just very strange,” she remembered.
For Parton and her family, taking a daily shower was not an extravagance. Frequently, they would produce their own soap, and occasionally, they would cram themselves into the truck and head to the river to have a bath.
Although there was a brook close by, they all chose to bathe in the river since it served as their “big bath.” As their homemade soap cascaded down the river, they would swim together and give each other’s hair a bath.
Parton compared their river bath to a “bathtub,” jokeing about how filthy they were back then and how it would have left a ring around the Little Pigeon River. For them, taking a river bath was a midsummer rite.
Every member of the household would have a pan of water to wash as much as possible in the winter. Parton answered Grobel’s question about how frequently she and her family took winter baths by saying:
“Well, as the saying goes, we bathed once a week whether we needed to or not.”
Parton started to value bathing more after she started high school. She would bathe every night because her younger siblings would not wash their hands before bed. She disclosed:
The children urinated on me each night. In the bed, we slept three and four. Every night, I would wash. The kids would also wet on me as soon as I went to bed, so I would have to get up in the morning and repeat the entire process.”
On November 5, 2019, in New York City, Dolly Parton is present at the We Are Family Foundation event held at Hammerstein Ballroom. | Found via Getty Images
Parton was not hesitant to express her opinions, explaining that while getting peed on would seem unhygienic to some, the urine actually provided some warmth during the winter.
She remembered how cold it would get at home because she lived in the mountains, and she even mentioned that it was almost enjoyable to get pissed on because the room was just as cold as the outside. They would all curl up in bed, she claimed.
distributing millions
Parton has said that her family is wealthy and content in other ways, despite their lack of material wealth. She became humble as she grew older, and even after becoming wealthy, she never stopped helping those in need, just like her family had done when she was younger. She said:
“My greatest love will always be my family.” Although it might occasionally get lost in the shuffle, family is a part of all I do.
Parton claimed that her family was the inspiration behind her music and that her theme park, Dollywood, and one of its acts, Dixie Stampede, are meant to be places where families can enjoy themselves and spend quality time together.
Parton is a self-made millionaire, with a projected net worth of $375 million in 2022 according to Forbes. Her theme park and ownership rights to music publishing were the main sources of her financial success.
In the 1970s, she refused to share the critically praised song “I Will Always Love You” with Elvis Presley, one of the nearly 3,000 songs that she is in ownership of. When Whitney Houston performed the song in the 1990s, this choice paid off.
In addition, Parton is paid a publishing fee for songs that are sold, aired, or featured in motion pictures. According to Forbes, her songs are valued at $150 million, while her royalties have brought in between $6 and $8 million.
But the source of the music icon’s enormous wealth is her well-known theme park, Dollywood, which is one of Tennessee’s most popular travel destinations. According to reports, it earns $3 million annually.
When the theme park was still known as Pigeon Forge in 1968, the country music artist made an investment in it. Later, she gave it a new name, “Dollywood,” a pun on the word “Hollywood.” There is a water park and a hotel in the park.
In addition, Parton just unveiled Doggy Parton, a pun on her well-known name, as a new business. The business, which makes apparel and toys for dogs, was founded because of her passion for animals.
Parton learned the value of sharing her accomplishment with others from her early experiences. She is a businessman and singer in addition to being involved in a number of social and humanitarian organizations and having given millions of dollars to people in need.
In order to collect $13 million for the survivors of the East Tennessee wildfires that devastated Pigeon Forge and Gatlinburg in 2016, Parton teamed together with a group of musicians.
At “Smoky Mountains Rise: A Benefit for the My People Fund,” other well-known performers included Chris Stapelton, Kenny Rogers, Lauren Alaina, Alison Krauss, Reba McEntire, Cyndi Lauper, and Chris Young.
Following her niece’s leukemia treatment at Vanderbilt University Medical Center in Nashville, Parton donated $1 million to the Monroe Carell Jr. Children’s Hospital in 2017.
Apart from extending monetary support to individuals impacted by natural calamities, Parton made a noteworthy impact on the healthcare industry through her magnanimous financial contributions.
When she gave $1 million to vaccine research in 2020 amid the global COVID-19 pandemic, which affected people all over the world, she made headlines. Her input was useful in developing the Moderna vaccine.
Parton’s unwavering commitment to advancing early childhood literacy is another well-known quality. Each month, she provides over a million youngsters with free books through her nonprofit initiative, Imagination Library.
In order to assist kids in learning to read and write, Parton and Robert Lee established a non-profit organization in 1995, drawing inspiration from her father’s personal experience with illiteracy. Although it began in eastern Tennessee, it has expanded to assist children in all 50 states as well as the District of Columbia.
Other nations, like Australia, Canada, and the United Kingdom, have also been affected by the literacy initiative. Parton announced at the Library of Congress in 2018 that the initiative has distributed its 100 millionth book.
When the campaign first began, Parton just wanted to support her father and her hometown; she had no idea it would become so popular. She said with joy, “But then it just took its own wings, and I guess it was meant to be.”
Parton was also pleased that her father was quite proud of having contributed something valuable. Before he died in 2000, he had the opportunity to witness the results of their labor.
Her goals for the Imagination Library are also very lofty. She acknowledged having lofty goals and wishing to donate one billion books in her lifetime.
Despite having a difficult upbringing, Parton never lost sight of the value of community and family. She made the most of her riches by giving millions of dollars a year to a range of humanitarian causes, such as health, education, and disaster relief.
Her lowly beginnings instilled in her the virtues of perseverance, hard effort, and the unifying power of music. She also recalls the love, laughter, and happiness that characterized her childhood home and the family who stood by her side no matter what as she reflects on her life.
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