As parents, we tend to teach our children to know right from wrong, but oftentimes, because of different reasons, we fail. One father learned that his daughter was bullying a girl who had cancer at school. Things went far and she even pulled the girl’s wig off. This made the father angry so he decided to take matters in his own hands and punished his daughter in a way that caused a stir, as well as mixed emotions, on the Internet. Since many slammed him for how he dealt with his bully daughter, the father later deleted the post.
“My ex-wife and I have a 16-year-old daughter together of which I have full custody (she has moved on with her new family)… My daughter recently got in trouble at school for making fun of a student that lost her hair from cancer treatment. Including pulling off her wig,” he started his post.
“Apparently there is some pre-existing bad blood between the two of them, but I don’t think that even begins to excuse her behavior.”
As it turned out, his daughter was now dating this other girl’s ex-boyfriend and that was the reason why they weren’t fond of each other.
“At some point the other girl mentioned how my daughter’s boyfriend was just using her for sex (this was actually a big shock to me as I had no idea she was sexually active) and called my daughter a sl*t,” the father shared with CafeMom. “That’s what escalated the situation and resulted in the wig incident. Supposedly they have been arguing in class ever since my daughter started dating the guy in question. Basically just stupid teenage ‘he said she said’ nonsense.”After he learned of what was going on and what his daughter did, he gave her two options to choose from in order to teach her a lesson. The first one was for him to throw all her electronics away, and the second one was for her to go to the hairdresser and get a bald haircut. The daughter chose the latter and went to school with a bald head.
“…Everyone thinks I went way overboard. Her mother went ballistic at me saying it will make her the target of bullying (kind of the point, teach her some compassion),” the father wrote.
He believed he did just the right thing, but not many agreed with him. A lot of people took their time to comment on the situation. One person wrote: “Your daughter is a bully because you are a bully. I seriously doubt this is the first time you used abuse and humiliation to ‘teach her a lesson.’” Another person added: “There’s a term for what you did. It’s called child abuse. Taking away her electronics would have been an appropriate punishment. Grounding her would have been an appropriate punishment. Disrespecting her right to bodily autonomy and humiliating her is not an appropriate punishment. She’s unlikely to learn from it and if anything it risks perpetuating a cycle of bullying.”
However, there were also those who praised his parenting. “I support your decision completely. You’re her parent so you have every right to do this, it’s not abusive, it’s real life. If she’s comfortable attacking someone for something they have no choice over she needs to see how it feels,” someone in support of the father wrote.
“She will see what kind of impact actions like hers have on the victim and that will teach her a very important lesson,” another supporter added.
So, what do you think? Do you believe the father went too far with the punishment? Share your thoughts with us in the comment section below.
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SINGLE MOM OF FOUR BUYS USED CAR—WHAT SHE FINDS IN THE TRUNK WILL LEAVE YOU SPEECHLESS
A single mother of four, Jennifer, needed a used car to help her get to work. The car’s previous owner asked her to open the trunk when she got home. What she found inside turned out to be life-changing.
Jennifer became a single mother when her husband, Adam, left her after learning she was pregnant with their fourth child. He said, “Another child to feed? No way! I’ve had enough!” and then left their trailer and filed for divorce.
Jennifer was heartbroken. Even though the pregnancy was unexpected, she had hoped Adam would support her during this tough time, especially since they were already struggling financially.
After their separation, Adam stopped giving Jennifer money for their children. He said he couldn’t find a job and that no one would hire him because he didn’t graduate from college.
Soon after giving birth, Jennifer had to find a job because she was running out of money for food, diapers, and milk. She walked through various restaurants and shops looking for work but faced rejections because she had four small children.
One employer told her, “It’s difficult to hire mothers with young children because something always comes up. Either your child is sick, or you have no one to leave them with, so you have to miss work. It’s too much for us to handle.”
With no luck in her neighborhood, Jennifer started looking for work in a nearby city. She used the last of her money to take a cab and asked her neighbors to watch her children for the afternoon.
When Jennifer arrived in the nearby city, she saw a job opening for a housekeeping position at a local hotel. She went in, applied, and was hired on the spot. The HR manager told her, “We badly need staff, especially with the summer season coming up. We’ll be fully booked soon.”
Desperate for work, Jennifer took the job, even though it meant commuting to another city every day. She thanked the HR manager and went home to share the good news with her kids.
After spending nearly $30 on cab fare, Jennifer realized she couldn’t afford to commute daily. She needed a car but didn’t have the money for a new one. Her best option was to buy a used car.
Jennifer found a used car she wanted but wondered if the owner would lower the price. She explained, “I’m a single mom of four, and it’s been hard to earn money. I need a car to get to a job in a nearby city. Could you possibly sell it to me for $5000?”
Understanding her situation, the owner agreed to the lower price. “If you can buy the car by tomorrow, I’ll sell it to you for $5000,” he said.
Jennifer was extremely grateful for the owner’s willingness to help. She decided to apply for a loan at the bank to afford the car. Unfortunately, her loan application was quickly rejected due to her bad credit.
Running out of options, Jennifer thought hard about her next move. She couldn’t move to the new city because her oldest child, Ethan, had just started school near their trailer park.
Rent in the nearby city was also much higher, and she wouldn’t be able to bring the trailer with her. She needed a car to commute to work and to pick up her children from school and daycare.
Then, she remembered a family heirloom her late mother had left her—a gold chain necklace that had been passed down through generations. Jennifer felt emotional at the thought of selling it, but she knew she needed the car to support her children and secure their future.
As Jennifer struggled to find a solution, she realized she couldn’t move to a new city because her oldest child, Ethan, had just started school nearby.
The car owner, Jeff, smiled and said, “Congratulations on your car. It’s a great purchase.”
As Jennifer signed the paperwork, Jeff quietly placed something in the trunk. When she was about to drive away, he called out, “By the way, check the car’s trunk when you get home. I left something for your children inside.”
Jennifer, busy with commuting to work and managing her children, forgot to check the trunk until she later found a note in the car’s glove compartment.
The note read, “I hope you and your children liked the gift I left inside the trunk. May it be of great help to you.” Curious, Jennifer decided to open the trunk to see what the gift was.
At first, Jennifer was puzzled when she saw only a white envelope in the trunk. It was the same envelope she had used to pay for the car. When she opened it, she found her $5000 payment untouched.
Overwhelmed with emotion, Jennifer cried, touched by Jeff’s kindness. She drove back to the dealership after work to thank Jeff.
Jeff told her, “The world throws challenges at you, and it’s up to you to rise or succumb to them. I’m proud of you for staying strong for your children. I thought you could use the money more than I could. Just don’t forget to pay it forward.”
What can we learn from this story?
1. Compassion makes a big difference. Jeff, who owned a successful car dealership, chose to help Jennifer, a struggling single mom, in a meaningful way.
2. Determination pays off. Jennifer worked hard to support her children despite many obstacles and rejections.
3. Inspire others. Sharing stories like this can uplift and motivate those around you.
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