Being a parent to a cocky, disrespectful teenager is far from easy, and different parents have different approaches to getting their children to behave.
One mom, Heidi Johnson, wrote a handwritten letter to her son, Aaron, and shared it on Facebook. She didn’t intend for the post to go viral. She didn’t even intend to make the post public. It was supposed to just be for friends to see, but she does not regret her post or the fact that it’s public.
In the letter to her 13-year-old son, Johnson reprimanded her son treating her like a “roommate.” She went on to give him an itemized bill for rent, food, etc that totaled over $700. If he was going to treat her like a roommate instead of his mom, she would do the same.
Johnson signed the note, “Love Mom,” and she truly does love her son. She followed up the post with another post explaining some backstory to the situation.
She also reassured parents who were criticizing her that “I am not going to put my 13 year old on the street if he can’t pay his half of the rent. I am not wanting him to pay anything.
I want him to take pride in his home, his space, and appreciate the gifts and blessings we have.”
She added that she never intended for Aaron to pay the bill. Instead, she wanted him to “gain an appreciation of what things cost.”
The reason Johnson wrote the note was to make sure her son understood “what life would look like if I was not his ‘parent,’ but rather a ‘roommate.’ It was a lesson about gratitude and respect from the very beginning.”
Johnson also explained that before she wrote the note, her son had lied about doing his homework, and when she told him she was going to restrict his internet access, he responded, “Well, I am making money now.”
She explained that the money he was referring to was a little bit of income he was making from his YouTube channel, but not nearly enough to pay for food and rent.
The public note has not hurt Johnson’s relationship with her son. She explained, “He and I still talk as openly as ever. He has apologized multiple times.”
Johnson has also had parents turning to her for advice since she posted the note to her son.
She explains, “My post seems to have opened a door, and people feel safe coming to me and asking for advice, venting, or even just have someone bear witness to their experience by listening and opening up and sharing a piece of myself in return.”
The Ring and the Revelation
I had planned it for months. Every extra shift, every skipped luxury, every penny saved went towards that little box. It wasn’t the biggest diamond, I knew that. But it was elegant, minimalist, exactly what I thought she’d appreciate. It felt like us – understated, genuine, built on something real, not flashy. I was so proud of it, so proud of the effort, so hopeful for the future it represented.
The moment arrived, the words tumbled out, earnest and heartfelt. I opened the box, my heart pounding with a mixture of nerves and pure, unadulterated love. And then, she looked at it. Not at me, not at the significance of the gesture, but at the ring itself.
Her reaction wasn’t joy, or tears, or even surprise. It was a dismissive glance, a slight frown, and then, she took the box from my hand and tossed it aside. “The diamond is too small,” she said, as if commenting on a minor imperfection in a piece of furniture.
My world tilted. The air left my lungs. Broken. That’s the only word that comes close. I felt utterly broken, exposed, and profoundly helpless. All the effort, all the love, all the hope – reduced to the size of a stone. It wasn’t just the ring she had rejected; it felt like she had rejected me, the part of me that had worked so hard, that loved her enough to offer everything I had. Her words, her casual dismissal, crushed me in a way I hadn’t thought possible.
I don’t remember exactly what I said, or if I said anything at all. I just remember the feeling of numb disbelief as I bent down, picked the small, rejected symbol of my love from the floor, and walked out.
Now, days later, my phone is a constant buzz. Her name flashes across the screen, message after message, call after call. She wants the ring back. Her ring, she calls it.
But honestly? Looking at the ring now, it doesn’t represent a future together anymore. It represents that moment, that crushing realization, the feeling of being utterly unseen and unappreciated. The desire, the hope, the love I felt in that moment of proposal – it’s gone. Washed away by the cold, hard truth of a diamond that was “too small.” I’m not interested anymore. Not in the ring, and not in trying to rebuild something that shattered so completely over something so superficial.
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