Humankind has been trying to solve the mystery of dreams for as long as they’ve existed. Today there is even a special discipline in the study of dreams called oneirology. Those who prefer the esoteric side of things over science love to interpret their dreams according to various dream books and believe that they can predict the future. But psychologists think that dreams accurately reflect our current condition and that our subconscious tries to tell us something important via dreams from time to time.
We at Bright Side have learned that there are dreams that are common for all of us. Each of us sees these types of dreams every now and then. These dreams are caused by our ancient instincts, a cultural code, the experience of our ancestors, and personal experience. A psychologist and an expert in the field of dreams, Patricia Garfield, calls them “universal dreams” and says, “Like a hearty stew that is rich with local produce, the universal dreams differ among different peoples, but they are all nourishing variants of the same wholesome meal. They are as old as humanity and as widespread as our globe.”
1. Falling
In adulthood, we see falling more often than flying. According to the psychologist Ian Wallace, a dream about falling symbolizes the fear of losing control. You can’t control something in your life anymore because some drastic changes that you were not ready for took place in your life. Think about what sphere of life (work, relationships, finances, health, etc.) you feel most suppressed or vulnerable in as well as the ways to correct it.
Some scientists explain dreams about falling with simple physiology. As the body is sinking into sleep, the nerve system starts to calm down, your blood pressure and heart rate decrease and your falling asleep brain (especially if it was overwhelmed during the day) can perceive this physiological change as danger or an approaching death and therefore, makes you wake up suddenly.
The opposite version of this dream is flying which signifies freeing oneself from some hard burden and getting the desirable freedom.
2. Teeth that fall out and injuries
Our subconscious interprets teeth as an indicator of strength, and an ability to “bite off” a piece of the world. “Perhaps, you have recently been feeling unarmed and helpless in the real world,” Penney Peirce explains.
Patricia Garfield, another expert who’s studied dreams for many years, connects dreams about teeth falling out with hidden anger. As a rule, when we suppress anger, we clench our jaw, and our teeth might start to creak and grind. This dream might be signaling that it’s high time to get rid of negative feelings.
We often have dreams where someone close to us is wounded or sick. Those dreams cause consternation; however, from psychology’s point of view, things are not that bad. It’s simply our fears of the future and inevitable changes with those close to us. If you see your own death, it means that some part of you is dying and staying in the past to give space to something new.
“Opposite” dreams about birth and recovery usually appear when something new is taking place in a person’s life (like a new job or project) and symbolize a new experience.
3. Failure at an exam or public performance
You’re about to take an exam and suddenly realize that you don’t remember anything or you can’t say a word when standing in front of a big crowd. These dreams might be experienced not only by students and school kids but also by people who have graduated a long time ago. It’s likely that you had some stress shortly before going to sleep or was extremely worried about something. In this case, it’s better to take a short break and relax.
4. Being chased or persecuted
Such dreams have several different meanings. An expert in the field of dreams named Lauri Loewenberg says, “People that tend to avoid conflict, who are afraid of ruffling feathers or causing issues will have the recurring dream of being chased.”
Pay attention to the thing chasing you — they symbolize an unpleasant feeling or situation that you try not to think about in real life. It can be debt or addiction. Are you chased by a person you know? Think about what or who you associate this person with. They might indicate some other person or even a part of your personality that you don’t want to admit (like a hidden talent or aspiration) in your dream.
There’s also a theory saying that dreams about running away from someone are simply the echoes of primitive instincts that are in our genes thanks to our ancestors. All because they were constantly running from predators.
5. Inappropriate clothes or an absence of any
In your dream, you turn up in a public place wearing inappropriate clothes or not wearing anything at all. In this situation, it’s important to pay attention to the feelings you encountered in your dream. These dreams are usually followed by a feeling of shame and embarrassment.
Psychologist Ian Wallace notes, “It means that you feel vulnerable at your new job or in your new relationship and are afraid that others will learn about your weaknesses and disadvantages.” However, if you don’t feel any shame in your dream but instead feel proud of yourself, the dream has the opposite meaning. Perhaps you feel a lack of recognition and admiration and would like others to see your talents as well as your personality more.
6. A catastrophe or an apocalypse
We’ve all dreamed about natural or man-made disasters where we’re scared for our own lives and the lives of those close to us. These dreams might indicate personal problems that have gotten out of control or are a result of feeling threatened by something. Of course, constant messages in the media about catastrophes and terrorist acts worsen the situation. As a result, we start feeling vulnerable in the modern world.
Sometimes, when having a nightmare, we try to shout out loud but feel that our voice has left us, which causes an even bigger fear. Psychologists explain it as sleep paralysis. During the last phase of sleep, when we have dreams, our brain purposefully paralyzes the body so that we can lie still and not “live” in our sleep by running, jumping, etc. People who have sleep paralysis usually wake up before the end of the last phase and enter a state between sleep and reality for a short period. This can be felt as an inability to move, speak, and, in some cases, breathe.
7. Faulty equipment or vehicles
You try to use some gadget or device, and it breaks right away. For example, your phone stops working, and you can’t call anyone. According to Patricia Garfield, these dreams are more often experienced by women and symbolize worries about relationships or losing an emotional connection with someone.
Dreams in which you’re trying to operate a vehicle that doesn’t work properly or breaks down are in the same category. You are likely missing support and can’t cope with a difficult life situation by yourself.
8. Pregnancy
As strange as it might sound, it’s not only women who can have dreams about pregnancy. A psychologist name David Bedrick says, “Pregnancy symbolizes something new growing inside us.” You subconsciously dream about “giving birth” to a new fascinating creative project. It can be anything from writing a book to repairing a house. It’s time to set a goal and show the world how you can take on this new role.
If you’re not pregnant in real life, you may be seeking fulfillment after having such a dream.
9. Being late
Dreams that have you running after a departing train or running late for an important meeting can occur quite often. According to a dream expert, Michael R. Olsen, they can symbolize the fear of missing out on something very important in your relationships or in the upbringing of your child, for example. If you’re constantly overwhelmed and don’t have much time to accomplish things in real life, your subconscious is signaling that it’s time for you to reconsider your schedule and free up time for really important things.
10. An unknown room
Dreams about new rooms are about self-knowledge. If you find yourself in an unknown house in your dream, it means that you don’t know yourself well and try to neglect some sides of your character. A separate unfamiliar room symbolizes that you have a hidden talent, skill, or opportunity that you don’t use.
A psychotherapist named Eddie Traversa thinks that we subconsciously associate some rooms with certain processes. A kitchen is a place where products get transformed into a finished dish which means that you’re currently going through some inner changes. A bathroom is a symbol of freeing oneself from unnecessary baggage. It might symbolize that it’s time to get rid of something that is not needed any longer. A bathroom is a symbol of cleansing and it means that you feel the necessity to clarify things or see them in a different light. A bedroom signifies the things that worry you in your romantic relationship.
Have you ever experienced any of these dreams or do you usually see something different? Please tell us about it in the comments!
My MIL Moved in with Us — I Found Her Showing a Strange Sign In the Window Every Night
When Rosa’s mother-in-law, Victoria, moved in to help care for her five-year-old granddaughter, life seemed to be falling into place. But late at night, Victoria’s strange hand gestures in the window revealed a secret Rosa never saw coming. A secret that would change their lives forever.
I thought having Victoria move in with us would be a win-win where Clara would get to spend more time with her grandma, and I could finally get back to work.
But as the days passed, little things about Victoria started to feel off.
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Life hadn’t always been easy, but it had been good.
I had a loving husband, Mark, and a beautiful five-year-old daughter, Clara, who brought light into every corner of our lives.
Mark worked hard to provide for us, and although money had been tight lately, we always found a way to make things work.
Victoria, my mother-in-law, had always been part of that “good” life.
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She was kind, helpful, and never the stereotypical meddling mother-in-law you’d hear horror stories about.
From the day Mark and I got married, she welcomed me with open arms, treating me more like a daughter than an in-law.
Victoria had faced her share of heartache. She lost her husband five years ago, just a year after Mark and I got married.
I still remember how devastated she was during that time. She tried to stay strong for Mark, but you could see the sadness in her eyes.
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Honestly, it wasn’t easy for any of us, but things started to look up when Clara was born.
Victoria had always dreamed of being a grandmother, and Clara’s arrival brought her a joy I hadn’t seen in years. She even moved in with us for a few months to help me navigate the chaos of being a first-time mom.
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Those months were some of the best of my life. She was supportive, loving, and full of wisdom I didn’t even know I needed.
As the years passed, Clara grew into a bright, energetic little girl who was the center of all our lives. She had a way of lighting up any room she walked into, and we adored her. But as much as I loved being a stay-at-home mom, I knew it was time for a change.
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Clara had started school, and with our finances tighter than ever, I decided it was time to go back to work.
When I brought up the idea to Victoria, she surprised me with an offer I hadn’t even considered.
“I could move in again,” she said one afternoon over tea. “It’d be easier for you to get back to work if someone’s here to take care of Clara. I’d love the company, too.”
The idea immediately appealed to me. It felt like the perfect solution.
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Clara would have her grandmother around, I could focus on restarting my career, and Victoria wouldn’t be lonely at her place.
When I talked it over with Mark, he was fully on board.
“It’s a great idea,” he said, smiling. “Mom loves Clara, and she’ll love having a reason to be busy.”
And just like that, we made the arrangements.
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A few weeks later, Victoria moved back into our home, just like she had when Clara was a baby. I was excited about the change and confident it was the best move for everyone.
What I didn’t expect was how her arrival would bring a wave of strangeness into our lives. The strange, small moments made me question whether I truly knew the woman I had welcomed into my home.
At first, it was nothing. Just little things that I brushed off as quirks. But as the days turned into weeks, Victoria’s behavior started to feel odd.
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One evening, I walked into Clara’s room to find Victoria kneeling by the toy chest. Her hands were moving quickly, rummaging through the pile of stuffed animals, dolls, and building blocks.
“Everything okay?” I asked, leaning against the doorframe.
“Oh, just organizing,” she said without looking up.
Her tone was casual, but something about the way she avoided my gaze didn’t sit right with me.
The next morning, Clara was inconsolable.
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“Where’s Bun-Bun?” she wailed, tears streaming down her cheeks.
Bun-Bun, her favorite stuffed bunny, was nowhere to be found. I turned the house upside down looking for it, checking under beds, behind cushions, and even in the washing machine.
But I couldn’t find it.
A few days later, I was walking past Victoria’s room when something caught my eye. There, perched neatly on her dresser, was Bun-Bun.
I picked it up and walked into the living room, where Victoria was sipping her tea.
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“I found this in your room,” I said, holding up the bunny.
“Oh, yes,” she said with a smile. “I borrowed it to fix a tear.”
I examined the bunny.
“I don’t see any tear,” I said.
“Well, it was very small.”
The explanation didn’t sit right with me, but I decided to let it go. Maybe she had good intentions.
But then there were the pictures.
Victoria started taking photos of Clara constantly. Not just cute candid moments but posed shots.
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She’d ask Clara to change into different outfits, sometimes even ones she hadn’t worn in months.
“Smile, sweetie,” she’d say, clicking away on her phone.
One afternoon, I caught her sending one of the photos to someone.
“Who are you sending these to?” I asked casually.
“An old friend,” she said with a shrug.
“Who?” I pressed.
“Oh, just someone I’ve reconnected with recently,” she said, avoiding my eyes.
Her vagueness made me uneasy.
What kind of friend needed so many pictures of my daughter?
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The strangest thing, though, was what she did every night by the window.
At exactly 9:00 p.m., without fail, Victoria would stand in front of the living room window and make a hand gesture. It looked like she was flashing a “cool” sign and moving it slightly back and forth.
At first, I thought she might be stretching, but the motion seemed too deliberate. One night, I asked her about it.
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“What’s that gesture you’re doing at the window?”
She laughed. “Oh, just stretching my hand out. It gets stiff sometimes.”
But it didn’t look like stretching to me.
I told Mark about it, hoping he’d share my concern.
“You’re overthinking things,” he said, shaking his head. “Mom’s just quirky. You know that.”
I tried to let it go, but the unease gnawed at me.
Who was this “old friend”? Why was she so secretive? And what was she really doing at the window every night?
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The breaking point came when I didn’t see her do the gesture one night.
Honestly, I felt relieved. I thought whatever she was doing had stopped. But then, as I passed Clara’s room on my way to bed, I heard Victoria’s voice through the door.
She was reading Clara a bedtime story. I paused to listen, smiling at the sweet moment. But then she said something that made me freeze.
“Now it’s time for that surprise I told you about,” Victoria whispered. “Let’s get dressed, and remember, Mom doesn’t need to know.”
A woman standing near her daughter’s room | Source: Midjourney
What surprise was she talking about? And why was she keeping it a secret?
Cracking the door open just enough to see, I watched as Victoria helped Clara into her coat.
I stood frozen as they quietly slipped out the back door.
This can’t be happening, I thought and immediately bolted after them.
“Victoria! Stop!” I shouted.
She jumped, startled, and Clara clung to her hand, looking confused.
“Mommy?” Clara’s small voice broke through the tension.
Before I could say another word, I noticed a man standing at the edge of the driveway, just beyond the glow of our porch light.
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He was older, maybe in his sixties, with a calm but unreadable expression. He didn’t move or speak.
Just stood there watching us.
“What is going on here?” I demanded.
“It’s not what it looks like,” Victoria stammered. “We were just—”
“What’s happening?” Mark intervened. “And who’s that?”
He’d just come running from the house after hearing me scream. Victoria couldn’t hide her secret any longer after seeing her son.
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“This… this is Richard,” she said as tears trickled down her cheeks. “He’s my boyfriend.”
Mark and I stared at her, stunned.
“Boyfriend?” Mark repeated, his voice filled with disbelief. “Mom, what are you talking about?”
Victoria took a deep breath as she wiped tears off her cheeks.
“I didn’t know how to tell you,” she began. “Your father’s been gone for five years, and I… I’ve been lonely. Richard and I met a while ago, but I was scared you wouldn’t understand.”
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“He’s deaf and doesn’t speak,” she continued as her gaze landed on me. “So, we’ve been using sign language to communicate. The gesture you saw in the window? It means ‘tomorrow.’ It’s how I’d let him know when it was safe to come by.”
I blinked, trying to process her words. “Safe to come by for what?”
“For this,” she said, gesturing toward Clara. “He’s been wanting to meet you guys and Clara for months, but I wasn’t ready to tell you about him. Clara overheard me talking about him to a friend once, and she got curious. Tonight, she asked if she could meet him, and I thought…” Her voice cracked. “I thought it might be okay if I introduced them quietly.”
A woman talking to her son | Source: Midjourney
Mark ran a hand through his hair, his frustration evident.
“Mom, you couldn’t have just told us? Did you really think sneaking out in the middle of the night with Clara was the right way to handle this?”
Richard stepped forward, his hands moving in slow, deliberate gestures. Victoria translated it for us.
“He says he’s sorry,” she revealed. “He didn’t mean to cause any trouble. He just wanted to meet the people who mean the most to me. And he wanted to give Clara something special.”
A man standing outside at night | Source: Midjourney
She glanced at Richard, who nodded, encouraging her to explain.
“That’s why I took Bun-Bun,” she said, looking at me apologetically. “Richard’s been working on sewing Clara a handmade stuffed bunny to match it. He needed Bun-Bun as a reference. And the pictures I was taking? He’s been designing little outfits for the bunny that match Clara’s clothes.”
I stared at her, speechless. All the strange behavior, the missing bunny, the endless photos, the secret hand signs suddenly made sense.
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“Mom, you could’ve just told us,” Mark said softly. “You didn’t need to hide all of this.”
“I know,” she said, wiping away tears. “I was afraid of how you’d react. I didn’t mean to scare you.”
I crouched down to Clara’s level, brushing her hair out of her face.
“You scared me, sweetheart,” I said softly. “Next time, let’s talk about surprises before sneaking out, okay?”
She nodded, her small arms wrapping around my neck. “Okay, Mommy.”
A woman talking to her daughter | Source: Midjourney
We invited Richard inside that night, and as awkward as it was at first, it didn’t take long for Clara to warm up to him. She proudly showed him her toys while Victoria translated his gestures. He seemed kind, thoughtful, and genuinely caring.
True to Victoria’s word, Richard presented Clara with a beautiful handmade stuffed bunny a week later. It was a perfect replica of Bun-Bun, complete with matching clothes that Clara couldn’t wait to wear herself.
Over the next few weeks, Richard became a regular presence in our lives.
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What started as a series of unsettling mysteries ended with our family growing in an unexpected and beautiful way. Victoria learned to trust us with her truths, and we learned to give her the benefit of the doubt.
Sometimes, even the strangest signs point to the most unexpected joys.
This work is inspired by real events and people, but it has been fictionalized for creative purposes. Names, characters, and details have been changed to protect privacy and enhance the narrative. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events is purely coincidental and not intended by the author.
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