For someone who was called “fatso” and had no intention of becoming a famous Hollywood star, this actress has certainly made a name for herself. After her breakout role, she garnered so much attention that she earned a special accolade.
This actress once revealed that her mother never wanted a daughter, and she grew up sheltered because of her strict father. Despite being bullied and called ugly, she eventually found peace and married the love of her life.
What was Her Childhood like?
In her memoir, “This Is Just My Face: Try Not To Stare,” the actress wrote about her childhood and mother, who she confirmed during an interview in 2017 still sang in subways.
The actress’ mother had been a teacher at her school until the fourth grade. Originally from the southern state of Georgia, her mom then took a sabbatical and started singing in the subway.
Her mother realized she could make more money performing than working for the Board of Education and decided to stick with it. The celebrity recalled her mother taking her and her brother to the subway, where she would sing for around five hours.
The actress remembered sitting on a bench within eyesight or earshot, doing her homework or reading books. Her mother performed at New York City’s Penn Station while she wandered around the station or visited a nearby bookstore.
At the bookstore, she was allowed to pull books off the shelves and read without paying. She suspected they permitted this because they knew her mother. Every now and then, she’d ask her mother for money to buy a new “Clue” book or the latest “Nancy Drew.”
Her mother always gave her the money, encouraging her to focus on reading. On the other hand, her father was very strict. He was from Senegal, studied architecture in France, and later became a cab driver when he moved to New York.
The actress shared that both her parents spanked her growing up, but she rejected labeling it as abuse, even when directly challenged. She emphasized that people often interpret others’ experiences through their own lens.
For her, spanking was a culturally rooted form of discipline common in communities of color, not an act of cruelty. She explained that her father’s upbringing in Africa, where safety and community were stable, shaped his beliefs about discipline.
After moving to Bed-Stuy, Brooklyn—a much more dangerous environment—he felt strong discipline was necessary to protect his children. Although it took years for father and daughter to fully understand each other, she never considered him abusive, especially seeing how relaxed he became with his younger children later.
She recalled a tender memory of her father carefully granting her small bits of independence, such as letting her fetch the mail while he watched closely from the doorway.
He would warn her against using the staircase, fearing for her safety, and waited to hear her shout from the elevator when she entered it out of his view. Ironically, her brother, who was only 11 months older, had far more independence. Unfortunately, part of her childhood also involved bullying.
Life’s Harsh Realities
When she turned six, the actress, who was raised in Harlem, started noticing what other children said about her. She spoke about the bullying she endured at that age regarding her weight, “You know, it’s, like, that weird thing where, like, I realize this thing about myself – I’m not magic, so now I have to pick you apart. And I have to pick myself apart.”
The star added, “And I think that was the age where people started calling me Fatso and you-this and you-that, blah, blah blah. That’s what helped me to notice.” In her book, she wrote about praying in the fourth grade for God to make her less sensitive because of how badly she was mocked.
At that time, her parents’ marriage was crumbling; they separated when she was 12, leaving her feeling “unhinged.” She recalled crying for hours and experiencing tightness in her chest when someone said something hurtful.
Panic attacks made breathing difficult, and she sometimes felt like she might die. Noticing that she could cry for up to three hours during school, she began praying about her sensitivity, unaware she was dealing with a medical condition.
The actress battled depression and anxiety unnoticed throughout elementary and junior high school. The issues persisted into high school, with the panic attacks intensifying during her commute to school.
After transferring schools, her struggles worsened, and she realized her issues were not just about being bullied for her weight. She eventually sought medical help and spoke about her struggles.
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Another painful memory was the rejection she felt from her mother. She recalled, “My mom always told me that she never wanted to have a daughter.” The star acknowledged how harsh that sounded but explained it prepared her for understanding that “being a Black woman was not going to be easy. That’s what my mom told me.”
Her mother believed having a daughter was hard because girls lead difficult lives. The actress said, “Those were the first lessons I got about being a Black woman. Today, as an adult, I would really like to erase that narrative from my life.” Despite these challenges, stardom found her.
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Becoming an Actress and Getting Hate
By 2010, the actress had become a well-known celebrity, staying in luxurious hotel suites for interviews. That year, she was based in the UK for the London Film Festival. She confessed that she hadn’t planned for the life she now had.
Just two years earlier, at 24, she was working as a receptionist to support her psychology studies in college when she auditioned for a film on a whim. She had just enrolled for her third year when she auditioned. Her resume listed only three minor college theater roles, yet she secured the lead role in “Precious.”
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She canceled her classes to star in the film, which became a breakout hit at Sundance in early 2009. The movie received three Golden Globe nominations, including Best Actress for Gabourey Sidibe, along with an Academy Award nomination.
After her nomination, a famous radio host went on air, claiming it was an anomaly. He alleged that Sidibe’s Hollywood peers were only “pretending” she was one of them and said she would never act again because of her weight.
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The star shared that she had never dreamed of becoming an actress and felt overwhelmed by the film’s success. She explained that she has a neutral accent, stating, “I don’t have what we call the blackccent.”
However, despite no formal acting training, she recognized that her character would have an accent, so she deepened her voice to fit the role. Part of her Hollywood success came from her hustle and hard work.
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Despite two psychics predicting fame for her, Sidibe never believed she would gain the same recognition as her Hollywood idols. Today, she excels both in front of and behind the camera, although her journey also included a significant decision regarding her health.
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Going Under the Knife
In May 2016, after enduring bullying and struggling with weight loss, Sidibe underwent laparoscopic bariatric surgery. She made the decision after she and her brother were diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes.
The actress did the procedure because she didn’t want to worry about the effects that come with having diabetes. She explained, “I genuinely [would] worry all the time about losing my toes.”
Gabourey Sidibe at the 13th premiere and after party of the New York Film Festival Opening Night Gala on September 30, 2016 | Source: Getty Images
Sidibe expressed frustration that people assumed they cared more about her health than she did. “But I care more than anybody really knows. Of course I care. It’s been my body my whole life, and I didn’t want to be afraid anymore. And I’ve been feeling like that for some time,” she said.
Even after surgery, she continued to obsess over her body, eating habits, and weight. However, she learned to trust herself and embraced the mantra “faith over fear,” understanding that her decisions were personal.
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Initially, she weighed herself five or six times daily, tracking natural fluctuations. Eventually, she stopped that behavior and now weighs herself every two weeks or whenever she feels the need.
For the first 17 days post-surgery, Sidibe consumed only liquids and became depressed. However, by 2017, she was following meal plans, eating five times a day, cooking, consulting her nutritionist, and using apps to log her meals.
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She also became more active, using her Apple Watch to track her movements. The actress had tricycles both at her Los Angeles home and on set in Chicago, riding them during lunch breaks.
She revealed that she felt stronger, more mobile, and no longer feared losing her toes. After her breakout role in “Precious,” she was featured in People magazine’s World’s Most Beautiful issue, an honor she called “really dope!”
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Still, Sidibe acknowledged that she likely would not have been included if she weren’t an actress. She pointed out that such lists typically feature celebrities, not regular people.
While she believes she’s beautiful—crediting her parents for her features—she often doubts whether others genuinely see her that way. “Other than my very obvious beautiful [expletive] features, like my cheekbones, my skin-tone? Get out of here. Gorgeous!” she said, affirming her self-worth with humor.
The actress admitted that she spent much of her life hearing she was ugly, both from outsiders and within her own community. Even after being named one of the Most Beautiful at 26, internalizing that recognition was difficult.
Decades of negative conditioning weren’t easily undone, even by career success. Though she now believes in her own beauty, she remains skeptical of outside praise.
“Yeah, I’m beautiful, but I’m not convinced that you’re convinced of that,” she said. Sidibe described her beauty as something deeply personal: “My beauty is like my own secret in this way.” She explained that maintaining confidence is a daily practice, not a permanent achievement.
Confidence, for her, is like applying lipstick—it needs daily renewal. High heels, a good hairstyle, intelligence, friends, and humor all contribute to her sense of self-worth. For Sidibe, confidence isn’t automatic; it’s something she cultivates consciously. Despite her size, she enjoys photo shoots and embraces her body.
Accepting Herself and Fighting for Others
Sidibe once said about photo shoots, “I feel like a model. It justifies everyone in my life who told me I wouldn’t be anything until I lost weight.” It also justified the little girl who cried, thinking she didn’t belong in front of a camera.
However, reaching that confidence took time, only happening around age 21. She recalled becoming tired of letting others define her worth. Lee Daniels, the director of “Precious,” had high praise for her.
He said, “[Gabby] may be in a state of denial or on a higher plane than the rest of us, but either way, she breaks your heart in the movie.” Responding to his comment, she stated, “I was like, ‘What the hell? I’m in denial?’ No, I know what I look like. I’m very much aware.”
When asked where her confidence came from, she explained, “It came from me.” She added, “One day I decided that I was beautiful, and so I carried out my life as if I was a beautiful girl.”
Sidibe said what helps her is wearing the colors she loves and the makeup that makes her feel pretty. Advising others struggling with self-image, she said, “It doesn’t have anything to do with how the world perceives you. What matters is what you see. Your body is your temple, it’s your home, and you must decorate it.”
In 2021, she partnered with the Child Mind Institute and its May Mental Health Awareness campaign. Her own struggles with depression inspired her to work alongside the nonprofit organization to launch Getting Better Together.
The star revealed that she was 19 or 20 when she was diagnosed with anxiety, depression, and an eating disorder. In a video, the actress shared, “I remember having almost no one, really, to turn to. I couldn’t talk about it with my parents, or my friends or my friend’s parents. Everyone would tell me I was too young, too young to feel sad all the time or too young to feel stressed out.”
She explained how people around her tried to convince her that she wasn’t feeling what she felt. Fortunately, her instincts, which told her something was wrong, were louder, and she managed to save herself.
However, she recognized that not everyone had the ability to do the same or even to recognize that they needed help. That realization inspired her to start the Getting Better Together initiative. She urged, “If you or a young person you know is struggling, please go to ChildMind.org for resources and help.” Since then, she’s gotten married and welcomed children.
Celebrating Love and Growth
Gabourey Sidibe has since married Brandon Frankel, and together they share two children. In April 2025, the couple uploaded various images of their twins, Cooper and Maya, as they celebrated their first birthday.
The proud parents reflected on a full year filled with love and laughter. They described the twins as hilarious, sweet, and remarkably well-behaved. From walking and talking to dancing, hugging, and even demanding songs or calling every animal “CAT!”, the little ones have blossomed into vibrant mini humans.
Their parents expressed feeling honored to watch them grow and excited for all the learning and discovery ahead.
“We LOVE being your parents—the best is yet to come!” they wrote in a heartfelt celebration of the milestone.
The month before, the couple celebrated their wedding anniversary with help from Brides magazine.
For their fourth anniversary, they graced the magazine’s cover in 2022, and the publication honored them by inviting readers to revisit their love story through a special link in their bio.
I Overheard My Husband Telling His Friend He’s with Me for My Money – The Lesson I Taught Him Was Harsh
Laura’s seemingly perfect marriage unravels in a single, devastating conversation, revealing a truth that plunges her into the depths of deception. As she confronts the harsh reality of her husband’s betrayal, she crafts a meticulous plan for revenge, navigating through the turbulent waters of love, deceit, and self-discovery.
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Life’s vibrant tapestry is often painted with unexpected colors, weaving the most indelible stories. Mine was a hue I never thought would streak across my world. It was a regular evening that unfolded into a revelation so stark, it felt like the universe itself had slipped on its axis.
Ten years ago, fate, in its mysterious ways, orchestrated a meeting that now feels like a beautifully crafted irony. A party I had no intention of enjoying became the stage for my encounter with John.
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There he was, a beacon of charm in a sea of mundane, pulling me from the shadows with a Southern accent that wrapped around my heart like a warm blanket. His demeanor, a blend of earnestness and ease, was impossible to resist.
What followed was a whirlwind romance that felt like it was lifted straight from the pages of a fairy tale. John was everything I had wished for — his kindness, wit, and even his silliness brightened every day.
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John understood me in ways I didn’t even understand myself. In his eyes, I was loved, valued, and cherished. What more could I ask for?
Fast forward to last week, a time when the anticipation of an upcoming trip with friends was the most exciting thing on the horizon. Little did I know, my excitement was about to turn into a heart-wrenching epiphany.
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John, engrossed in a video call, was oblivious to my early return from work. I moved silently, not wanting to disturb, but fate had other plans. What I overheard froze me in my tracks and shattered my world into unrecognizable fragments.
John’s friend, Adrian, unknowingly twisted the knife deeper with his words, “Bro, you hit the jackpot with Laura. She’s got the cash. You’re set for life, man. No need to spend a dime on vacations. Laura’s got it all.”
John’s reply was a cold, heartless echo, “You think it’s easy looking at her every morning? That’s the price I pay.”
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The air left my lungs. The warmth drained from my body. The man I loved, the man I trusted with every fiber of my being, saw me not as his partner, but as a financial safety net. The realization was as painful as it was shocking.
To him, my worth was not in the love I gave but in the money he thought I possessed. And his view of my appearance, something he had always made me feel was beautiful in its uniqueness, was now just another part of his sacrifice.
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To think, I am not what many would consider wealthy. Yes, I have a respectable job as a financial analyst, pulling in $300K a year, but it’s a result of grueling 70-hour weeks.
My parents’ recent business success does not translate to an endless stream of money for me. And here I was, thinking we were partners in both love and life, only to find out I was merely a means to an end for John.
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With my heart pounding and my mind racing, I made my way upstairs. Lying in bed, the gravity of what I had just discovered weighed heavily on me.
John’s betrayal was not just a breach of trust; it was a calculated deception. Yet, amidst the emotional turmoil, a plan crystallized — not for revenge, but to teach a lesson in value and respect.
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The decision was made. I would not confront John, not yet. Instead, I would let the truth reveal itself through actions, not words. In the days that followed, I meticulously crafted my response to his deceit, a response that would teach him the true cost of underestimating someone’s worth.
It was time for John to learn that the value of a person is not in their bank account but in their heart and soul. And this lesson, I vowed, would be one he’d never forget.
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In the wake of betrayal, a simmering resolve took root within me. With each passing day, my plan gained clarity, crystallizing into a course of action that felt both righteous and inevitable.
John, blissfully unaware of the storm brewing beneath the calm facade I presented, continued to play the part of the doting husband. It was a performance that might have fooled me once but now served only as a grim reminder of the deception I had lived with.
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Setting the stage for my revelation, I adorned our space with the trappings of a romantic evening — a meticulously prepared dinner, the soft glow of candlelight, and an ambiance of warmth and intimacy. It was against this backdrop that I unveiled the concocted tale of an impending inheritance, watching John’s reaction closely.
“My parents have decided it’s time,” I began, my voice laced with feigned excitement. “They’re planning to transfer a substantial part of their fortune to me. It’s a kind of early inheritance.”
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John’s eyes lit up, a gleam of avarice flickering within. It was the reaction I had anticipated, yet witnessing it firsthand filled me with a cold satisfaction.
“However,” I continued, carefully observing his expression, “there’s a small matter we need to sort out first. My parents insist on us signing a postnuptial agreement. It’s just a formality, really, to ensure that the inheritance is managed properly.”
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The mention of a postnuptial agreement didn’t deter him; if anything, it seemed to embolden him, likely buoyed by visions of the wealth he thought was within grasp.
“Of course, darling,” he replied, his words dripping with a feigned affection that mirrored my own. “Whatever makes you happy.”
Throughout our conversation, I maintained a careful balance of affection and assertiveness, painting a picture of a future filled with luxury and ease — a future that hinged on his compliance.
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“And there’s more,” I added, the final lure in my carefully laid trap. “Once everything is settled, I was thinking… we could celebrate. Maybe even get you that new car you’ve been eyeing.”
The hook was set, and John, driven by greed, took it with fervor. His signature on the postnuptial agreement was swift and without hesitation, a testament to his blinding avarice.
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With the document securely in hand, I wasted no time. The very next day, I consulted with an attorney, laying out my case and initiating divorce proceedings. My heart, though heavy with the weight of betrayal, was also buoyed by a sense of impending liberation.
When the moment of confrontation finally arrived, John’s demeanor shifted dramatically. Gone was the confident charade, replaced by a man grasping at straws, pleading for understanding and forgiveness.
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“Laura, please,” he begged, his voice cracking under the pressure of his unraveling world. “You’ve got it all wrong. We can work this out.”
But his pleas fell on deaf ears. He had underestimated me for too long, seeing me through a lens tainted by his biases — a foolish, unattractive woman who would cling to any semblance of love. How wrong he was.
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As I stood firm in the face of his desperation, I saw the dawning realization in his eyes. The realization that he had gravely miscalculated, that the woman he saw as weak and dependent was, in fact, his equal in strength and resolve.
In the end, the divorce was finalized, and with it, the closing of a chapter marked by deception and heartbreak. But from its ashes rose a new beginning, one built on self-respect and the knowledge that I am more than the sum of my financial worth or physical appearance.
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As I reflect on the journey, I am reminded of the power of self-worth and the importance of standing up for oneself. John’s betrayal, though painful, served as a crucible, forging a stronger, more resilient version of myself. And for that, I am grateful.
As I embark on a new chapter, one nearly stolen by deceit, I wonder—how would you have navigated this turmoil? What decisions would you have made in my place?
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While you’re thinking about the answer, here’s another story for you:
Husband Expects Pregnant Wife to Juggle Over 40 Hours of Work and Handle All Household Duties — The Family Discovers the Truth on Thanksgiving
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In November 2021, an anonymous female poster shared a poignant narrative in Reddit’s “AITA” forum. The woman, aged 24, recounted a story about her sister, 32, and her husband, 38, who was the epitome of weaponized incompetence.
Despite juggling a full-time job of over 40 hours a week, managing the entire household, and caring for their four children — 10F, 8M, 5M, and 3F — while pregnant, her sister’s husband contributed nothing.
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The woman found it astonishing that her sister woke up at 4 a.m., handled breakfast and chores, and got the kids ready for school, all while her husband stayed home, worked, and indulged in video games after she picked the children up. Notably, the woman mentioned that her sister actually earned more than her husband.
What Happened When OP and Her Fiancé Stayed with Her Sister?
While their home was being renovated, the woman and her fiancé, 26, had to stay at her sister’s place for six weeks. Since the couple worked from home, they were able to offer assistance, and the additional support made the woman’s sister feel happy and relieved.
He claimed the incident had made him the laughingstock of his family.
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The woman contributed by helping her sister with the kids, and her fiancé even drove her to doctor’s appointments. In contrast, the husband only acknowledged his parental role when his family was present, portraying himself as a god-fearing and hardworking father of five.
Despite the woman’s sister desiring to stop having children after the last baby, her husband insisted on having more boys. The original poster was concerned not only for her sister but also for her children, especially as the oldest began to recognize the situation and attempted to assist. However, OP’s sister, driven by pride, adamantly refused to let her child take on any responsibilities.
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OP admitted that she never got along with her brother-in-law, and his behavior had persisted since the birth of his eight-year-old son. Despite attempts to discuss the option of leaving, her sister was resistant and feared that her children would grow up in a broken home.
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Her perspective on divorce differed from OP’s, as her own experience with their parents’ divorce was vastly dissimilar. She believed that her kids needed both their mom and dad together and was reluctant to consider the potential benefits of a divorce, given her situation.
The Thanksgiving Dinner
The weekend before OP shared her Reddit account, her sister and brother-in-law hosted a pre-Thanksgiving potluck, where both their families were in attendance. Anticipating her brother-in-law’s lack of assistance, OP had stayed with her sister a few days prior to help.
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During dinner, as the conversation flowed, OP stated how she and her fiancé were trying to start a family. At this point, her BIL made an “off-handed comment” to the woman’s fiancé about the challenges of fatherhood. This remark triggered the woman, prompting her to retort, “[Like] you would know.”
Startled, he inquired about her comment, and she unleashed her pent-up frustration, labeling him a pathetic excuse for a man who left her 8-month pregnant sister to handle everything for their family. OP passionately expressed her sentiments for nearly ten minutes, leaving her BIL visibly uncomfortable in his seat. After that, she exited the scene.
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Later that night, OP received a call from her sister, who thanked her for standing up for her and conveyed appreciation for her support. But the very next day, OP received a nasty message from her BIL, accusing her of being a terrible person. According to him, her supposed lie in front of his family had angered his mom, who, in response, decided to move in with them to assist her sister.
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He claimed the incident had made him the laughingstock of his family. Despite his perspective, he firmly believed that she was at fault for the consequences. After everything that happened, OP couldn’t help but wonder if she was wrong for calling out her BIL for his questionable behavior.
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