My MIL Called Me Ungrateful for Not Eating Food She Cooked While I Was on a Pre-Surgery Diet, and My Husband Backed Her Up

When Mel has surgery scheduled, she has no choice but to follow a strict diet in preparation. But one day, her mother-in-law shows up, ready to cook up a storm and disrespect Mel’s new regime. Soon, tempers flare…

My husband, Dave, and I have always had a solid relationship. Sure, like most couples, there are ups and downs, but we handle them pretty well in general.

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A smiling couple | Source: Midjourney

Except when it comes to his mom, Margaret.

Margaret has a knack for inserting herself into our lives, often under the pretense of being helpful. She’ll just drop by unannounced, often claiming to be worried about how I’m taking care of her son.

“Mel, it’s just my mom’s way of showing her love,” Dave would say, dismissing it all. “She’s always been so dramatic, and that’s just one of those things.”

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A smiling older woman | Source: Midjourney

But to me, it just felt invasive.

Recently, things took quite a turn for the worse. I have a chronic condition that requires surgery on my spine. As a result, my doctor has put me on a strict pre-surgery diet.

“It’s not going to be great, Mel,” he told me when I went for my last check-up. “But it’s necessary, I promise you. We need you to cut down on your body weight so that after the surgery, the stress on your spine will be less.”

A woman sitting at a doctor's office | Source: Midjourney

A woman sitting at a doctor’s office | Source: Midjourney

I understood the assignment, and I was committed to my health.

“Look, honey,” I told Dave when I went home after my appointment. “You don’t have to change your diet at all. I’ll still get you everything you want to eat, and cook what you want, too. But there’s a bunch of food that I have to avoid.”

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A couple standing in a kitchen | Source: Midjourney

“No,” my husband reassured me. “I’ll do it with you. Just put the list of forbidden items on the fridge, and I’ll know what to avoid.”

I had to admit, I was surprised by Dave. This man loved his fried food. The greasier the better when it came to my husband’s diet. But this change was good for both of us, and I loved that he was being supportive.

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Notes on a fridge | Source: Midjourney

So, we began diligently avoiding sugar, limiting carbs, and eating lots of greens and lean proteins. It was quite a lifestyle change, because now I had to be strict about everything I put into my mouth. But I knew that it was going to be worth it in the end.

But then, Margaret turned up like a storm about the disrupt our peace.

Last weekend, as I was reading in our home office, Margaret showed up with bags full of groceries.

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A person holding a grocery bag | Source: Midjourney

Without even asking, she started preparing Dave’s favorite meal: fried chicken, mashed potatoes drenched in butter, and a decadent chocolate cake.

“Do you need any help?” I asked her when I realized that she was about to cook up a storm.

“No, darling,” she said. “You go and relax; I’m fine here.”

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An older woman cooking | Source: Midjourney

So, I let her take over the kitchen. The aroma filled the house, and I felt my stomach rumble. But I knew that I couldn’t eat any of it. On one hand, I felt that Margaret was being inappropriate, but on the other hand, I was glad that Dave was getting some good food that he enjoyed.

When dinner was ready, I politely declined.

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A plate of fried chicken | Source: Midjourney

“I’m really sorry, Margaret,” I began while taking out my salad greens and leftover grilled chicken from the fridge.

“What are you doing?” she asked, looking at the food that I laid out on the counter, ready to make myself dinner.

“There’s more than enough food, Mel. You don’t need to make more,” she huffed.

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A woman looking into a fridge | Source: Midjourney

“I’m just making my dinner,” I said slowly. “As incredible as your meal smells and looks, I can’t eat any of it. I’m on a strict diet for my surgery. I cannot afford to have any slip-ups.”

Instead of understanding the situation like any rational person, my mother-in-law’s face twisted in displeasure.

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An angry older woman | Source: Midjourney

“Oh, come on, Mel,” she said. “I worked really hard on this meal. Just a little won’t hurt.”

“I appreciate it, and I’m so grateful that you’re here and that you cooked this meal for Dave, but I just cannot risk it. This surgery is too important,” I insisted.

Cue the meltdown.

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A close-up of an expressionless woman | Source: Midjourney

She started muttering under her breath about how ungrateful I was, making a big show of serving Dave a heaping plate of food. I felt a knot form in my stomach, not from hunger, but from the tension.

Then, she turned to Dave.

“Isn’t it a shame? I go through all this trouble, and she can’t even try a bite of it.”

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A plate of food | Source: Midjourney

I looked at my husband, expecting him to defend me. Instead, he shrugged and put a forkful of mashed potato into his mouth.

“Maybe just have a small bite, honey,” he said with his mouth full. “Just be polite. Have a piece of chicken and some mash.”

I couldn’t believe it. He was the person who didn’t mind changing up his diet and his routine because he wanted to support me. What was this? What was this change of behavior?

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A man eating at the table | Source: Midjourney

“Dave, you know I can’t. It’s not just about being polite. It’s about my health. You know I only have a few weeks to get ready.”

Margaret’s eyes narrowed as she picked up a plate for herself.

“It’s just one meal, Melissa. I don’t see what the big deal is. Is that really how you speak to my son? And you’re making me feel like my food isn’t good enough for you.”

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A close-up of an older woman | Source: Midjourney

“That’s not it at all, Margaret,” I said, trying to keep my voice calm. “I’m sure the food is delicious as always, but I need to be strict here. I cannot afford any setbacks. This is my spine we’re talking about!”

“Oh, please,” she scoffed. “You’re just being overly dramatic. People have been eating real food like this for centuries without all these modern health scares.”

I could feel the heat rise in my blood. My anger was building, and so was my disappointment.

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A close-up of an angry woman | Source: Midjourney

But before things could escalate further, the doorbell rang.

It was George, my father-in-law, dropping by to pick up some tools. He walked into the kitchen just as Margaret was going on about how I was “too good” for her cooking.

George surveyed the scene quickly and then looked directly at Margaret.

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A smiling older man | Source: Midjourney

“Margaret, you know she’s on a diet for her surgery. This isn’t about politeness or niceties. It’s about Mel’s health. She has been trying to sort out her spine issues for years now, Marg, you know this,” he said. “You need to respect that.”

Margaret opened her mouth to argue, but George didn’t give her a chance.

“If you can’t respect their boundaries, maybe you should stop coming over unannounced.”

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An older woman holding her head | Source: Midjourney

I was stunned.

George had never intervened in these situations before, and to see him take such a strong stance was both surprising and incredibly comforting.

Margaret stormed out of the dining room, clearly upset, but George stayed behind.

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An upset woman storming out | Source: Midjourney

“Oh, gosh,” my husband muttered, putting his piece of chicken down as he pushed his chair back to run after his mother.

George turned to me with a kind smile.

“You did the right thing. Don’t worry about Margaret; she’ll come around,” he said. “Your health is so important.”

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A smiling older man | Source: Midjourney

Dave came running back in, looking thoroughly chastened.

“I’m sorry,” he said. “I shouldn’t have said anything or tried to force you to eat any of this. I just didn’t want to upset Mom, but I realize now that I should have supported you.”

George nodded approvingly.

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A man sitting at a table and holding his head | Source: Midjourney

“You’re right, Dave. This is your family, and you need to prioritize your wife’s well-being.”

“Please, you two carry on eating,” I said, returning to the kitchen. “I’m going to make some salad.”

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A salad with grilled chicken on a counter | Source: Midjourney

While I was in the kitchen, I saw Margaret sitting on the bench outside. I could have gone to her, but I hated the way she had spoken to me.

Later, after the three of us had eaten, George took Margaret home.

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An older woman outside | Source: Midjourney

As we got into bed, Dave apologized to me again and promised to be more supportive in the future.

It felt good to clear the air, but I couldn’t shake the feeling of unease. Before they left, Margaret had just walked past us, not even saying goodbye.

Anyway, I still had bigger things to worry about. My surgery was more important.

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A couple sitting in bed together | Source: Midjourney

YOU WON’T BELIEVE HOW ‘GREASE’ STAR STOCKARD CHANNING LOOKS AT 80

After all these years, I don’t think there’s ever been a Rizzo as charming or relatable as Stockard Channing.

Channing was a talented actress, and her singing in *Grease* was amazing. But now, at 80 years old, she looks almost unrecognizable.

The first movie I ever saw Stockard Channing in was called *The Big Bus*, and I thought it was really funny. Back then, I never could have guessed that she would go on to have such an amazing career.

Today, Stockard Channing is best known for playing Betty Rizzo in *Grease*. *Grease* is a 1978 musical romantic comedy film based on a musical from 1971 with the same name. Many people, including me, think Channing was the best Rizzo out of everyone who has ever played the role.

A lot of people also know Channing from the TV show *The West Wing*, where she played First Lady Abbey Bartlet. Her acting was praised, especially her natural chemistry with Martin Sheen, who played President Josiah Bartlet.

“It just worked,” she said in an interview with *Entertainment Weekly* in 2020.

“We had this chemistry from the beginning. I don’t know what it was, but we had it and it didn’t go away. It was a happy accident.”

Starring as Betty Rizzo
Let’s take a closer look at the highlight of Stockard Channing’s career. To be honest, she hasn’t been in any major movies since Grease, even though she has kept acting in films and on Broadway.

Channing, who has been nominated for 13 Emmy Awards and seven Tony Awards, seems completely okay with being best known for playing the “bad girl” Betty Rizzo, one of the Pink Ladies in Grease.

But is that really all there is to her story?

Back in 1973, Channing had a small breakthrough when she starred in the TV movie The Girl Most Likely to…. It was a dark comedy about revenge.

“A lot of people talk about the G-word [Grease] and all of that, but back in the day, I had just as many people stop me on the street because of that one movie,” she said. “Because it’s about revenge, and people would sit in their living rooms and think, ‘Oh, I’m the only person watching this’ or ‘this person understands me.’ I’m not kidding. It was a million years ago, and then it was the highest-rated movie of the week. Revenge always works.”

Channing says she has only watched Grease twice.

“I used to be grumpy about Grease because I thought it was a kids’ movie or something. But now it’s kind of amazing. I’m very proud of it,” she told The Times in 2019.

The actress, who was born in Manhattan, was 33 years old when she played Rizzo, and playing a high school teenager wasn’t easy for her.

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“I was much older than Rizzo in real life, but I couldn’t think about that. I had to imagine what I felt like when I was her age, or even younger. I thought about the complexity of being a teenager, with all the hormones, feelings, and issues around sexuality. Being older helped me show Rizzo’s sense of isolation,” Channing told Broadway World.

Channing, who got interested in acting at a young age, was very excited when she was offered the role of Rizzo. Her performance made her a big star in the late 1970s. She even won a People’s Choice Award for Favorite Motion Picture Supporting Actress. However, the actress from New York found it hard to get the same kind of success after Grease.

Channing was given two of her own sitcoms, Stockard Channing in Just Friends (1979) and The Stockard Channing Show (1980), but neither of them did well, and her career slowed down.

But Channing, with her Elizabeth Taylor-like looks and calm confidence, didn’t give up. She kept acting in many highly-praised movies and stage plays. Her most recent big-screen appearance was in the movie Angry Neighbors, which premiered in 2022.

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Moving to London
In recent years, Stockard Channing has been involved in theater productions in London, where she now lives. She used to live in Maine with her partner of 25 years, but she moved to England in 2019.

“Living on my own here during the pandemic, I was sort of going through the same experience as everyone else in the country,” she told The Times.

Keeping a Low Profile
On a personal level, Stockard Channing has kept a low profile. The Grease star, who has always been known for being “reckless” and restless, has no children.

She has been married and divorced four times. Nowadays, she finds comfort in her dog, who has been her constant companion for many years.

Stockard Channing and Plastic Surgery
In recent years, Channing has also gotten attention for her changing appearance. It all started in 2017 when she was interviewed on Lorraine, a British breakfast TV show.

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Here’s the article rewritten in simple language:

### Reactions to Channing’s Appearance

Channing was on the show to talk about her career and the roles she’s played, but many viewers were more focused on how different the *Grease* star looked. Many people were surprised by how much she had changed, leading to lots of talk on Twitter and articles in the tabloids.

“Oh my god, what has Rizzo done to herself?” one viewer wrote, while another said, “Shocked at how Stockard Channing looked on *Lorraine*. Why do they mess with plastic surgeons?”

In an article from the *Daily Mail*, a surgeon suggested that Channing might have used botox. However, others defended Channing. After all, we all get older, and it’s normal for an 80-year-old woman’s appearance to change over time.

To me, Channing still has that “Rizzo” personality – cool and confident! In an interview with *Out* magazine in 2011, she said she does “everything I f—ing can” to stay in shape.

“You get to a certain age, and you start playing a lot of mothers. Maybe if I had children, I’d feel differently, but I really hate being compared to these guys’ memories of their mothers, which, trust me, aren’t so great,” she laughed and added:

“Or maybe they watched a lot of *The Golden Girls*, you know? And while I’m thankful for *The Golden Girls*, they don’t spend time with women my age now, and I’d like to think the world has changed since then.”

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