A lot of big, tragic and important things have happened to this wonderful country of ours since April 2014. None of which I have covered. I was too busy writing about hungover parenting, ancient philosophy and my dog Colin.
Out of the 536 columns I have written, 27 were about that guy. Far too few. He is such a good boy, he deserves an article a week.
Today is the end of an era for me, and whenever these final events pop up in our lives, we can’t help but think about the ultimate end.
Everything we do, we will one day do for the last time. That’s why you have to enjoy things while they are around. It’s not just big events like leaving a job, house or loved one either. Whatever moment you happen to be in now, you will never get it back, and you don’t know how many more you have.
Everything we do in life, from eating pizza to spending time with the people we love, to driving, writing, drinking or breathing, we will one day experience for the final time. It might happen tomorrow. This can be either a depressing or an inspiring thought, depending on how you look at it.
A few years back in this column, I interviewed professor of philosophy William B Irvine, of Wright State University, Ohio, on this very topic. He put it this way on a Zoom call: “Recognition of the impermanence of everything in life can invest the things we do with a significance and intensity that would otherwise be absent. The only way we can be truly alive is if we make it our business periodically to entertain thoughts of the end.”
Today’s column is very meaningful to me because it is my last. Like the last night with a lover before she goes overseas. And just like a lover, there have been some half-arsed efforts put in from me over the years. Last week, for example, I spent 750 words moaning about how bad my cricket team is. But the truth is that any of my columns could have been the final. If I had reminded myself every week for the past 10 years that the end is inevitable, I may have been more grateful for having a column and appreciated writing them all as much as I am this one.
While everything we do could have more meaning with a focus on finitude, some things are inherently more worthwhile than others. There is no doubt my column “The pros and cons of wearing Speedos” from November 2022 was less meaningful than most things in this world. That was a waste of everyone’s time. So, if we only have so much time, how do we pick the best things to do?
Well, Oliver Burkeman, the author of Four Thousand Weeks – Time Management For Mortals, suggested this to me in a 2022 column: “Ask yourself, does this choice enlarge me? You usually know on some unspoken level if it does. That’s a good way to distinguish between options.”
With that in mind, I don’t feel great about my 2018 article on “New Zealand’s best hole”. That didn’t enlarge anyone.
There will be people reading this column right now who have loved my writing in the Herald and are sad to see it end. Others will have hated it and are glad to see me go. Many won’t have any opinion at all. But for those in the first camp, I have good news. I have a book coming out on May 28 called A Life Less Punishing – 13 Ways To Love The Life You Got (Allen and Unwin Book Publishers). It’s a deep dive into the history, philosophy and science of not wasting our time lost in anger, loneliness, humiliation, stress, fear, boredom and all the other ways we find to not enjoy perfectly good lives. It’s available for pre-order right now (google it if you’re interested).
A Life Less Punishing took me two years to write and is equivalent in words to 100 of these columns. Which would be a complete nightmare for those in the hate camp, but as I say, great news for those who want more.
Anyway, thanks to the Herald for having me, thanks to the lovely people who make an effort to say nice things to me about my column nearly every day and thanks to the universe for every single second we get.
Bless!
Matt Damon’s Gray Hair Is Making Fans Say He’s Even More Handsome – See the Stunning Transformation
As Matt Damon turns 54, it’s clear he’s only getting better with age. From his early dark hair to his striking gray locks, the “Interstellar” star’s transformation has been noticed by fans, and they love every part of it.
Matt Damon has been a Hollywood heartthrob for many years, but his recent transformation shows he’s just getting better as he gets older.
He became famous for his role in the 1997 film “Good Will Hunting,” which he co-wrote with his best friend Ben Affleck. This film won him an Oscar for Best Original Screenplay, and he has remained a key figure in the entertainment world for over three decades.
His strong jaw, fit body, and dark hair were his signature looks for a long time, but now he’s embracing a new style that has fans talking.
In January 2024, Damon surprised everyone at the Golden Globes when he appeared with a full head of gray hair. For most of his career, Damon kept his brown hair, rarely changing his style.
But as time passed, Damon’s hair went from dark brown to blonde, and now to a silver shade, making him a “silver fox” that many fans adore.
While some were surprised by his new look, many praised it. On Instagram, fans flooded the comments with compliments. “Still good looking tho [sic],” said one person, and another added, “He still looks very handsome.”
His gray hair even caused a buzz on Twitter, with one user saying, “Oh Matt Damon looks good with the gray hair.” On Daily Mail, a discussion thread praised his timeless appeal.
During the event, Matt was seated at the same table as his good friend Ben Affleck and his ex-wife Jennifer Lopez. Damon was there with his wife, Luciana Barroso. “Matt has aged but still looks good and is so talented,” a fan commented. “Ben must have been happy they shared the table with their supportive wives!”
This isn’t the first time Matt’s appearance has been a topic of conversation. In 2023, some fans criticized him for gaining a little weight.
“Matt Damon put on some weight,” said a user in February 2023, while others questioned his change in physique. But Damon stayed true to himself and kept in shape.
When he was spotted shirtless on the beach in Miami in September 2023, Damon showed off his fit body, with six-pack abs. Seeing him confidently walking along the beach with his wife, Barroso, cleared up any concerns about his fitness.
Through all of this, Damon has stayed grounded. He has been happily married to Barroso since 2005, and they share a blended family. They are often seen together at high-profile events, like the premiere of “Air” in Los Angeles in March 2023, where Damon reunited with Affleck.
The two childhood friends showed their lifelong bond while supporting each other’s careers. Fans noticed how Damon’s appearance had changed over the years, but his love for his family has remained the same.
Now at 54, Matt Damon continues to evolve, from his classic brown hair to his blonde look in the “Bourne” series, and now to his distinguished gray hair.
As Matt Damon grows older, his transformation adds to his legacy as one of Hollywood’s most beloved stars. His silver hair is just one more part of his ever-changing style.
From his youthful dark hair in “Good Will Hunting” to his more rugged blonde look in “The Bourne” films, and now his striking gray hair, one thing is clear — Damon will always be a Hollywood heartthrob.
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