It’s uplifting to witness women supporting each other, whether it’s friends offering help or strangers extending support to those they’ve never met. In this story, a woman quietly left a letter for her ex-boyfriend’s future girlfriend, offering a heads-up about what to anticipate and sharing lessons from her own experience. The new girlfriend shared this moving act of solidarity on Reddit, where she received an outpouring of encouragement and advice from the online community.
She wrote:
“My boyfriend Steve (30m) and I (28f) have been together for 2 years and have been living together for 8 months. I was cleaning our apartment when I found a note in the back of a cabinet that read:
‘Dear Steve’s Future Girlfriend,
I know it’s you reading this because he’d never clean back here. I’m putting this here because I’m leaving him soon and want to warn you about him:
1-He will not clean;
2-He will not listen;
3-He will make everything feel like it’s your fault;
It’s not your fault, he’s just an incompetent man. I’m leaving him, I suggest you do the same.
Best wishes, Natalia'”
She added:
“I read the note and brought it to show to him and hear his response. He immediately ripped it up and said not to listen to it, that she was crazy and untrustworthy. I told him that the fact that he hasn’t found the note in the 5 years since they broke up is a red flag to me because it does mean he’s never cleaned back there and that he has been cleaning less and less since I moved in.
He told me this is just his ex continuing to manipulate and ruin his life, and I was letting it work. We continued to argue along the same lines, and I eventually left to spend the night at a friend’s place.
Steve has been a great boyfriend so far. He gets along with my family. He has given me gifts and flowers and always tells me how much he loves me. He’s not wrong that the cleaning hasn’t really been brought up before, but the note made me realize it had been less and less and that we needed to have a full conversation about this.”
She went on explaining:
“He texted me afterwards saying he’s sorry that I felt like I had to leave, but that it’s a wrong move for me to take a note over our 2-year relationship and to leave him and our pets alone. I don’t know what to do or what to believe right now. I’m contemplating trying to find and reach out to Natalia.
Steve thinks I should come back home and let it go, that his past should not affect our future. He makes it sound like his ex was manipulative and petty throughout their relationship, but I don’t know what to trust.
When we moved in together 8 months ago, the cleaning was 50/50. Since then, he’s been doing things less and less. I have to remind him to do things like to bring his plates to the sink or take out the trash, and I didn’t have to before. The dishes will pile up unless I do them, to the point he’s had leftover food mold on the plates.”
She continued:
“I’m not a confrontational person, so I was just asking him to fix it when it came up. The note made me reflect on it more and try to have an actual full conversation, and I will say I didn’t feel listened to when I talked to him about it.
I tried to use the note to start a conversation about cleaning, and he got so stuck on the fact that I was listening to his ex instead of him, that he wouldn’t listen to what I think are valid concerns. He thinks I’m letting the note have “confirmation bias” so no matter what he says I’ll think he’s in the wrong.
Also, I didn’t leave him permanently, this all happened yesterday and I only spent one night at a friend’s because I didn’t feel like our conversation was going anywhere last night, and he wouldn’t let me sleep until I let it go. I’m going back today and wanted to get advice and feedback before I do.”
Other Redditors chimed in, sharing their own insights and offering advice to her.
- I’m so glad for you. It wasn’t two wasted years since they taught you a valuable lesson. I’m especially grateful for Natalia! Please tell her we love her for her kind solidarity and witty ways. Absolutely, leave a note — but better yet, leave two. One in the same place (he’ll look there; manipulative narcissists aren’t that dumb), and another in an even less likely spot. Sending you my best. You got this, girl! © occasionalpart / Reddit
- Well, he’s not cleaning, he’s not listening to you, and he’s making it out to be your fault “for trusting a note over him.” So, it seems the ex’s assessment might be accurate. It doesn’t look like he’s open to discussing his poor housekeeping, and personally, I don’t think you’ll be able to address it now without the note coming up. Ultimately, it’s up to you to decide whether this is something you can tolerate. It seems he hasn’t learned anything from his last relationship. © VonBoo / Reddit
- You’ve been living together for less than a year, and you’re already having to play mommy, reminding him of basic chores and daily tasks! If Natalia were truly such a manipulative, crazy person, she would have made much harsher and more dramatic accusations than these. © Arya_kidding_me / Reddit
- It’s almost ironic how easy it would have been for him to shut this entire thing down with the simplest of responses: “Hmm, you’re right, I’ll make sure to clean more.” That would have immediately countered points 2 and 3. But he’d rather be right, and he’d rather play the aggrieved party. You didn’t do anything wrong by trying to have a conversation off the back of that note. His reaction should tell you everything. © Mobius_Stripping / Reddit
- I’d be willing to bet money that the note is right. He sounds like the kind of man who will stop doing anything the second he decides a woman is fully trapped. The slow tapering off you’re witnessing is him testing the waters. He needs to figure out whether he just needs to waste enough of your time to get to that stage, or whether you need a ring or a baby to feel trapped. © Extension_Drummer_85 / Reddit
- “Don’t expect to change a man unless he’s in diapers.” This behavior will continue on, he’s gotten away with it before up to a certain point. He wants someone to pick up after him like his mommy.
Any time a guy says, “My ex is/was crazy,” is a MASSIVE red flag right there. It’s something guys have been saying since the dawn of time to belittle their former partners. He’ll say the same thing about you to his next girlfriend. You have to ask yourself, “Was she crazy, or did he drive her crazy with his behavior and laziness?” I’d leave your own note when you do finally dump him. And reach out to his ex, see what she has to say. © Equal-Brilliant2640 / Reddit
When trust is broken between couples, it often leads to a surge of emotional and psychological turmoil, including feelings of uncertainty and profound confusion. In a different scenario, a woman shared a fascinating story of her own sleuthing skills. She discovered her husband was cheating simply by paying close attention to his breakfast order.
Meg Ryan Drops the Hammer: Kicks Meghan Markle Out of Festival Over Shocking Drug Claims
The 2024 Sarajevo Film Festival was meant to be a big moment for Meghan Markle. It was her chance to come back into the spotlight after years of staying away from the public eye. This time away came after her dramatic exit from the British royal family.
Meghan Markle was invited as a special guest to the 2024 Sarajevo Film Festival. She was set to introduce a documentary she produced, hoping to revive her fading fame in Hollywood. However, the night took a surprising turn. Before she could walk the red carpet, security guards removed her from the event, shocking everyone. The crowd gasped as the former actress was escorted out.
The incident was shown live on TV and quickly became a major topic in Hollywood. Supporters of Meghan called the event disrespectful, while critics claimed it showed that Hollywood had turned its back on her.
So, what caused this situation? Meghan’s popularity has decreased in recent years. Her 2021 interview with Oprah Winfrey, where she made serious allegations against the British royal family, stirred up a lot of controversy. While some felt sympathy for her, others thought she was being opportunistic and ungrateful. Her later projects, like the Spotify podcast with Prince Harry, didn’t get much attention either.
Hollywood insiders have said that Meghan’s relationships with important people in the industry have worsened. She hoped her royal background would help her career, but many now see her as more trouble than she’s worth. One film executive anonymously said, “There’s a sense that Meghan is more hassle than she’s worth. She brings a lot of baggage, and studios prefer less drama.”
Meghan Markle’s invitation to the Sarajevo Film Festival was seen as her last chance to regain public attention. She planned to showcase her documentary about the refugee crisis, a project that could help improve her image. However, things went wrong as soon as Meghan arrived. Sources say she made several demanding requests, such as a private jet, a luxury hotel suite, and a team of personal assistants.
One festival representative said, “It was just too much for us to accommodate.” Tensions rose on the red carpet when security guards surrounded Meghan, leading her away from the event. Witnesses reported that she was visibly upset, shouting, “You can’t do this to me! I’m the Duchess of Sussex!” Unfortunately, her protests didn’t help.
The fallout from this incident has been significant. Festival organizers released a short statement saying security concerns were the reason for Meghan’s removal, but they didn’t give more details. This event has caused controversy, with some people accusing Hollywood’s elite of trying to humiliate her.
Many people believe that the way Meghan was treated at the festival was a clear attempt to publicly shame her. One royal commentator said, “This was a way to knock her down a peg.” Others think that Meghan’s behavior and her security demands made her presence difficult to manage. A film critic mentioned, “They had to do what they had to do to keep everyone safe. Meghan brought this on herself with her outrageous requests.”
The aftermath has been tough for Meghan. The incident quickly went viral, with many memes and jokes appearing on social media. Late-night TV hosts have also made fun of the situation, and even some of Meghan’s former Hollywood friends have distanced themselves from her. This event has reinforced the idea that Meghan is not welcome in Hollywood. With her reputation damaged and her celebrity status declining, she faces a challenging path if she wants to regain her place in the industry. One industry insider said, “Meghan wanted a big comeback, but instead, she got the ultimate humiliation. Hollywood has spoken, and the message is clear: they don’t want her here.” It remains to be seen if Meghan can make a comeback, but for now, she finds herself struggling in a town where she once hoped to rebuild her life.
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