Every person faces their own struggles when it comes to their looks and/or self-esteem.
It might be that you want to lose weight, or maybe you want to fix your teeth? There’s always something that you’d probably like to improve.
Well, every time I feel like I need motivation, I’ll always think about Lizzie Velásquez from Austin, Texas.
Lizzie was born with an extremely rare genetic disorder that prevents her from gaining weight, which in turn affects her appearance.
Being tormented can break any person’s heart and mind, but Lizzie was confident that these people wouldn’t be the ones prevailing. Today, she’s turned her life around and she’s now a global motivational speaker.
Now, I want you, the person reading this, to take a moment to think back on your life at the age of 16. For me, there are plenty of memories from that time – both good and bad – but overall, it was a time when many things were changing. There were more hormones, emotions, and sometimes even mental challenges that you had to fight against.
Hate on the web
All in all, hopefully it was a good time in your life, as it was for me.
Now, pretend that at 16 years of age you were called “The Ugliest Woman/Man in the World”. Not only that, but there’s even a video of you with the text “The Ugliest Woman/Man in the World” attached to it. That video has hundreds of thousands of views, and in the comments, people are saying the worst possible things about you.
How would that make you feel?
For Lizzie Velásquez, this was the tragic reality. She was teased throughout her school years – both in person and on the internet – and it could’ve so easily broken her.
But Lizzie had other plans. She decided to put all these negative vibes together and instead turn them into something positive. That’s why we love her dearly, and want to spread her inspirational story.
I will share this with my friends, and I’d love for you to do the same.
Lizzie Velásquez
Lizzie Velásquez was born March 13, 1989, in Austin, Texas.
At her birth, she weighed only 2 pounds and 11 ounces, and it was clear from the moment she was born that she looked different from the other babies at the hospital.
Being that small, Lizzie didn’t understand that she was different, since she’d always been just Lizzie. However, when she started kindergarden at age five, she realized straight away that something was off.
“To my family, I was just Lizzie. It was a big slap of reality for a 5-year-old. The other kids were scared of me, pointing at me, not wanting to sit with me,” she told Today. “I couldn’t process it. I wasn’t doing anything to them, so why was it happening to me? And I didn’t dare tell anyone.
“Finally, I told my parents and they said, ‘There is nothing wrong with you, you are just smaller than the other kids. You are beautiful and smart and can accomplish anything.’”
Those words from her family still stick with her today, and it really is the truth. No matter how you look, you still have the ability to accomplish anything you want. For Lizzie, though, this would require strong mental toughness to get there. That, and the support from her parents.
Lizzie Velásquez – rare conditions
But we’ll get back to Lizzie and how she managed to come out strong and incredibly inspirational on the other side.
So what was it that made her look the way she does?
Well, Lizzie was born with two rare conditions, marfan syndrome and lipodystrophy. The rare genetic conditions affect her heart, eyes and bones, and prevent her from gaining weight because of a problem with the way fat is distributed in her body. It’s so rare, in fact, that there are only three known cases in the world. Still to this day, it baffles experts.
Not only that, but the condition causes Lizzie to age faster than people without the disorder, and she’s also blind in one eye.
As early as kindergarden, Lizzie recieved comments from other kids. And these remarks continued throughout her childhood, with people labeling her face as “disgusting”.
“At the time, I thought everyone looked like me. I didn’t recognize or tell that they didn’t look like me,” she told the Daily Mail.
When Lizzie started high school, things got better. She realized that she had power over her own life, and her decision was made clear.
Horrible video on YouTube
She was always going to stay positive, be brave, and do all the activities that she wanted to do alongside her friends.
“It was scary, but I knew it would pay off,” Lizzie Velásquez explained. “I was staff writer for the school newspaper and took photos for the yearbook. I tried out for cheerleading. The uniforms were really cute and every time I wore it around the school, I felt like a superhero. I was more myself around my peers, the version of myself around my family.”
Things started to get better, and Lizzie’s confidence was great. Then, one day, her world collapsed.
While doing homework, she was scrolling on her computer and went onto YouTube. Suddenly, she saw a video about herself that would break her heart.
Someone had made a video about Lizzie, dubbing her “the world’s ugliest woman”. Worse, the video had millions of views, and some of the comments were truly terrible.
She couldn’t stop herself from reading the comments, with some people even saying that the world would be a better place if Lizzie took her own life. She read on, hoping that someone would come to her aid. Sadly, not a single comment did.
“Wanted to prove them wrong”
Lizzie felt like someone “was putting a fist through the computer screen and physically punching me.” She could barely believe what she was seeing.
It’s crazy to think about how thousands of people can sit behind their computers and torment a 16-year-old girl suffering from a severe illness. How do those people sleep at night?
This was the worst kind of hate, and it could’ve destroyed Lizzie. But once again, she picked herself up. In fact, she said that if she could, she’d send a thank you card and flowers to the person who created the video, because that video changed her life forever.
“I didn’t want to retaliate — it was a waste of time,” she said. “I just wanted to prove them wrong, I realized I could use it for the greater good.”
Lizzie was never going to let the haters win. She’d seen the worst possible things written and said about her, but still, she was determined to use it as fuel for the future Lizzie.
She continued on to college, and at 23 she earned a Bachelors Degree in communication from Texas State University.
Inspirational TedTalk
In 2003, she was then invited to a TED Talk in Austin, and it went viral. Lizzie explained how hurtful the mocking had been, but at the same time, she wanted to give people another perspective, as she did for herself.
“For so long, I thought that what defined me was my outer appearance,” she said in the 2013 TED Talk, explaining that she used to fantasize about “scrubbing the syndrome” off her face.
“Something kind of clicked in my head,” she explained of the moment she saw that awful YouTube video. “Am I going to let the people who called me a monster define me? No, I’m going to let my goals and my success and my accomplishments be the things that define me.”
For most people, all this hatred would have been tough to endure. But Lizzie isn’t most people; she showed everyone how strong she really is. Over the course of her entire life, she has been forced to eat a high-calorie diet frequently to keep her body’s energy levels up.
Today, she’s 35 years old and a successful business woman who travels the world to lecture others on her illness, as well as her life story.
Lizzie Velásquez – today
“This is my purpose. This is what I’m meant to do for the rest of my life. I like to think that I’m not only telling my story, I’m telling everyone’s story,” Lizzie told the Daily Mail.
As of now, she has over 850,000 followers on her YouTube channel and uses it to give inspirational talks. Lizzie’s showed the haters that she’s stronger than them – and she’s much more successful today than they will ever be.
“You are beautiful and smart and can accomplish anything,” Lizzie said her mother and father used to tell her.
“They loved me in the face of so many unknowns.”
Even though Lizzie is a strong, inspirational and, well, incredible person, this year’s been tough for many reasons.
The Covid-19 pandemic hasn’t helped, but she’s also getting picked on social media, especially on the app TikTok. Lizzie was the subject of an image that people were looking at and reacting to.
And the worst part was that it was a mother that had used her photo to prank a child into thinking that Lizzie was the teacher for the next school year.
The importance of respecting
In July, it became a horrible trend among parents, where they did a FaceTime call saying that Lizzie would be the child’s next teacher.
Lizzie was hurt, obviously, and rightly so. What kind of parent would do this to another person? What message does it send to their children? That this kind of hate is OK? Lizzie herself said it encourages children to react in an unfavorable way regarding the way people look.
“When kids are in school or whether they are out in public, it’s crucial to teach them the importance of respecting someone who doesn’t look like them,” Lizzie said, in a video posted on her social media accounts.
“Showing them a video might be a joke, but it can be something that shows a child if my mom or dad thinks it’s funny then it must be okay for me to laugh at as well,” she says. “I take great responsibility in the fact that now is the time time to do all I can to speak up for those who might not have a voice or for those who don’t know how to use theirs.”
“I knew in my gut my photo was going to be used,” she added. “After dealing with things like this for a while now, I can sense when this might happen.”
A true inspiration
Following Lizzie condemning the videos, many children instead started posting videos where they said how beautiful Lizzie was. Once again, the haters had lost.
Lizzie has been praised all over the world for her courage throughout her life. She’s written a best-selling book about her life and even been praised by former First Lady Michelle Obama.
Beauty comes from within your heart and soul. Lizzie, you are beautiful! We think her story is deeply inspirational, and we think that everyone should read about her to understand that anything is possible.
Please, share this story with friends and family if you think Lizzie is an incredible person!
During an Argument, My Wife Said I Wasn’t Our 15-Year-Old Son’s Biological Father — None of Us Saw It Coming
They say life can change in an instant. Mine changed over a forgotten trash bag and a silly argument. One minute I was Dave, husband of Julia and father of Evan… the next, I was just Dave, a man whose entire identity had crumbled when my wife accidentally revealed I wasn’t our son’s real father.
The evening started like any other Tuesday. I’d just gotten home from work, tie loosened and sleeves rolled up. The house smelled like garlic and basil… Julia was making her signature pasta. Our son Evan’s backpack was tossed by the door, soccer cleats leaving small clumps of dirt on the mat.
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“Hey, bud,” I called out, hearing the familiar sound of video game blasters from the living room. “How was practice?”
Evan didn’t look away from the screen. At 15, he was the perfect blend of Julia and me… with dark hair that never quite behaved and eyes that crinkled at the corners when he laughed.
“Coach says I might start on Saturday,” he said, thumbs flying over the controller.
I ruffled his hair as I passed. “That’s great! I’ll be in the front row, embarrassing you with my cheering.”
“Dad, please don’t bring the air horn again.”
“No promises!” I laughed, heading to the kitchen.
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Julia stood at the stove, stirring sauce. I wrapped my arms around her waist from behind, kissing her neck. Seventeen years of marriage and the sight of her still made my heart skip.
“Hey, you,” she said, but something in her voice was tight and controlled.
“Everything okay?”
“Just a long day. Can you take out the trash? It’s overflowing.”
I glanced at the bin. “Didn’t we agree Evan would handle trash duty this week? Part of that responsibility talk we had?”
Julia’s shoulders tensed. “Just do it, Dave. I’ve been asking him all day.”
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“He needs to learn—”
“For God’s sake!” She slammed the wooden spoon down. “Why does everything have to be a teaching moment? Just take out the damn trash!”
Evan appeared in the doorway, his controller forgotten. “Mom? Dad? What’s going on?”
“Your father thinks I should be the household trash enforcer on top of everything else I do around here.”
I held up my hands. “That’s not what I said. We agreed as a family—”
“Oh, now you care about family agreements? That’s rich coming from you.”
“What’s that supposed to mean?”
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She jabbed a finger at me. “You’re lecturing me about responsibility? You, who forgets to pay the electricity bill but remembers every detail of your fantasy football league?”
Evan shifted uncomfortably. “I’ll take out the trash. It’s not a big deal.”
“No,” Julia snapped, turning on him. “You had all day to do it. All day! I shouldn’t have to remind you FIFTY times. You’re just like him.”
I stepped between them. “Don’t talk to him like that.”
“So you’re gonna tell me how to talk to MY son?” Julia snapped.
“Mom, stop shouting at Dad for no reason.” Evan stepped forward. “Dad, it’s okay. I’ll do it.”
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Julia threw her hands up. “Oh, so you two are teaming up against me now? Trying to turn Evan against me?! Well, just so you know, Dave… you’re NOT even his real father!”
The kitchen went silent as the sauce on the stove bubbled and popped in the stillness.
My face drained of color. “What did you just say?”
Julia’s hands flew to her mouth, her eyes wide with horror at her own words. “I… honey… I didn’t mean for it to happen this way.”
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“Is it true?”
She couldn’t meet my eyes. “Dave, I’m sorry.”
Evan backed out of the kitchen, shaking his head. “No, no… no. This can’t be. You’re lying. You have to be lying.”
Before either of us could move, he turned and bolted. The front door slammed, rattling the windows.
“Evan!” I ran after him.
***
Night had fallen by the time I found him on the bench at Rivers Meadow Park. His shoulders were hunched and his face was streaked with tears.
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“Hey, buddy,” I said softly, approaching like he was a wounded animal that might bolt.
He didn’t look up. “Is it true?”
I sat on the bench beside him, the wood creaking under my weight. “I don’t know, buddy. I found out when you did.”
“How can you not know? She’s your wife.”
“Sometimes…” I struggled to find words that wouldn’t make things worse. “Sometimes adults make mistakes. Big ones.”
“So am I a mistake?” His eyes finally met mine, red-rimmed and piercing.
“No.” I reached for his hand. “You are the best thing that ever happened to me. That’s the one thing I’m sure of right now.”
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He pulled away, staring at his sneakers. “My whole life is a lie.”
“Not our life together. Not the camping trips or the science projects or the way you laugh at my terrible jokes. None of that was a lie, Evan.”
A tear slid down his cheek. “I don’t know who I am anymore.”
“You’re Evan. You’re the kid who saved that baby bird last summer even though everyone said it would die. You’re the friend who stood up to those bullies when they were picking on Max. You’re the son who made me breakfast in bed on my birthday and burned the toast but I ate it anyway because you tried so hard.”
A ghost of a smile flickered across his face. “It was pretty burned.”
“Like charcoal. But I didn’t care. Because you made it.”
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As we walked home, his hand found mine for the first time in years since he’d decided he was too old for that. I held on tight, terrified of what waited for us at home.
“Dad?”
“Yeah?”
“No matter what she says… you’re my dad. Okay?”
I nodded, but a question lingered in my mind—who was Evan’s real father?
***
Julia sat at the kitchen table when we walked in, a half-empty glass of wine in front of her. The pasta had been dumped in the trash.
“Thank God!” she exclaimed. “I was about to call the police.”
“We’re fine,” I said flatly. “Physically, anyway.”
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Evan stood awkwardly, looking between us. “I’m going to my room.”
“Wait,” Julia pleaded. “We need to talk about this… as a family.”
“Are we even a family?” he shot back.
“Of course we are. Nothing changes that.”
“Everything changes that, Mom! Did you cheat on Dad? Is that what happened?”
“It’s complicated, honey.”
“No, it’s not. It’s a yes or no question.”
Julia’s face crumpled. “It was before we were married. Your dad and I were on a break.”
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I felt sick. “A break? We were engaged, Julia. We had a fight and I stayed with my brother for two weeks. That’s not a break.”
“I thought you weren’t coming back, Dave. I was hurt and confused and—”
“Who is it?” I demanded.
She looked up, her eyes full of tears. “Alex.”
The floor seemed to tilt beneath me. “ALEX? My best friend Alex? The guy who stood next to me at our wedding?”
She nodded miserably.
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“How long have you known?”
“I thought Evan was yours. I really did. But two years ago, Alex got drunk at that New Year’s party, and he said something about Evan’s smile and chin looking like his mother’s. And the timeline… it suddenly made sense. I then took a DNA test… and…”
“Two years?? You’ve known for two years and said NOTHING?”
“I was afraid! I didn’t want to lose you or destroy our family over something that happened so long ago.”
Evan slumped on the couch. “Does he know about me?”
“He… suspected. But we never talked about it sober.”
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I ran my hands through my hair, trying to process the betrayal. “I need some air.”
“Dad, don’t go,” Evan pleaded. “Please.”
I looked at my son… because no matter what, he was my son. I couldn’t leave him. Not now.
“I’ll stay. But I’ll be sleeping in the guest room.”
***
The next day, Julia dropped another bombshell. “I called Alex. He’s coming over.”
I nearly choked on my coffee. “Here? Today?”
“We need to sort this out. All of us.”
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“I can’t believe you did that without asking me.”
“I thought—”
“That’s the problem, Julia. You keep making these massive decisions without me. First hiding this for years, now inviting him into our home?”
Evan set down his cereal spoon. “I want to meet him.”
Both Julia and I turned to him in surprise.
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“Are you sure, buddy?” I asked gently.
He nodded, his jaw set with determination. “If he’s… you know… I want to see him. To know.”
An hour later, Alex stood awkwardly in our living room. My best friend since college. The best man at my wedding. The godfather to my son… his son by blood but mine by heart.
“Dave,” he said, extending his hand.
I stared at it until he dropped it.
“You knew?” I asked.
He had the decency to look ashamed. “I suspected. But I wasn’t sure until Julia called this morning.”
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Evan stepped forward, studying Alex’s face. The resemblance I’d never noticed before suddenly hit me—the shape of the jaw and the set of the eyes. God, they looked like copies of each other.
“Did you ever want to know me?” Evan asked bluntly.
Alex blinked, taken aback by the directness. “I… I convinced myself you were Dave’s. It was easier that way. For everyone.”
“Except now?” I said bitterly.
“Can we talk alone?” Alex asked me.
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We stepped into the backyard, where he immediately started apologizing. “Dave, man, I never meant for any of this to happen. It was one night. We were wasted, you and Julia had broken up—”
“We weren’t broken up. We had a fight.”
“That’s not how she told it.”
I laughed. “And you didn’t think to check with me? Your best friend?”
“I was messed up back then. You remember what I was like after Melissa left me and moved back to Japan.”
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“Don’t you dare make excuses,” I growled. “You slept with my fiancée and then stood next to me at my wedding knowing what you’d done.”
“I’m sorry, man. I don’t know what else to say.”
“Get out of my house.”
“Dave, man, please…”
“Leave. Now.”
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The weeks that followed were a blur of pain, rage, and long conversations late into the night. Julia moved into the guest room and Evan withdrew into himself.
One night, I found him sitting on the front steps, staring at his phone.
“Whatcha looking at?” I asked, sitting beside him.
He hesitated, then showed me the screen. It was Alex’s social media profile.
“He coaches Little League. And he has a dog named Rusty.”
A pause, then: “I want to talk to him again. Would that be okay?”
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Every instinct in me wanted to say no and protect what was left of our family. But I looked at my son, his confusion, and his need for answers. And knew I couldn’t stand in his way.
“If that’s what you need, then yes. It’s okay.”
He leaned against my shoulder the way he used to when he was little. “Would you come with me?”
“Always, bud.”
***
Two days later, we met Alex at a quiet diner downtown. I sat at the counter, pretending to read the paper while they took a booth nearby. I couldn’t hear what they were saying, but I could see Evan’s serious face, his hands gesturing as he talked. Once or twice, they even laughed.
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After about an hour, Evan slid out of the booth and came over to me.
“Ready to go?” I asked.
He nodded. “Yeah.”
Outside, as we walked to the car, he finally spoke. “He’s okay, I guess. But he’s not you.”
I glanced at him. “What do you mean?”
“He doesn’t know that I hate mushrooms or that I sleep with two pillows. He’s never helped me with my science homework or taught me how to change a tire.”
Evan kicked a stone on the wet sidewalk. “He may be my biological father, but you’re my dad… my REAL DAD. My hero.”
I stopped walking, overwhelmed by emotion.
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“I know this whole thing sucks, Dad. But I want you to know that nothing’s changed for me. You’re still my dad. You’ll always be my dad. Always.”
My eyes welled up. I opened my arms without thinking, and Evan stepped right into them. I held him tight, breathing him in like I could somehow hold him together just by holding him close.
After a long minute, we pulled apart.
“Let’s go home, buddy.”
***
Summer faded into fall. Julia and I tried counseling, but some fractures can’t be repaired. By Halloween, we’d agreed to separate.
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“I never wanted to hurt you,” she said as she packed her things. “Either of you.”
“I know. But intentions don’t change outcomes.”
She paused, holding a framed photo of the three of us at the beach years ago. “What happens now?”
“Now we try to be better co-parents than we were spouses.”
“And us?”
I looked at the woman I’d loved for nearly two decades. “There is no us anymore, Julia. Not like before.”
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She nodded, wiping away tears. “Evan wants to stay with you.”
“He told you that?”
“He didn’t have to. I know my son.” She set down the picture. “He needs stability right now, and that’s you. It’s always been you.”
After she left, Evan and I ordered pizza and ate it straight from the box while watching his favorite sci-fi show. Neither of us mentioned the empty spaces in the closets or the missing photos from the walls.
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“Are you going to be okay?” he asked during a commercial break.
I considered lying, saying everything was fine. But we’d had enough lies.
“Not right away, bud. But eventually. How about you?”
He shrugged. “Same, I guess. It’s weird… I’m sad but also kind of relieved. Like we can stop pretending now.”
“Yeah! I get that.”
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He grabbed another slice of pizza. “For what it’s worth, I think you and Mom might be better apart. You haven’t seemed happy together in a long time.”
“When did you get so wise?”
“Must have gotten it from my dad,” he said with a small smile. “My dad… Dave!”
Life wasn’t what I’d planned, but plans are overrated anyway. What matters is love… not the romantic kind that fades or changes, but the steady kind that shows up every day. The kind that burns toast, plays video games, and struggles through algebra homework together.
The kind that has nothing to do with DNA and everything to do with choice.
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